r/AlAnon • u/ClasslessKitty • 10d ago
Support Sell it to me straight
I've only been to a few meetings. I bought the books but haven't read them yet. After seeing some post on here, I recognize my situation isn't nearly as bad as some. I've decided to stay married for various reasons, children being the main concern but it's difficult to navigate how to act. Which is why I wanted to post today. I'm afraid of what might happen to us financially and legally if Q continues to drink and drive. I had a long talk with him about it, and since then he has been calling me to pick him up. At first, I felt the need to encourage him to make the choice to not drive so I was picking him up. But now it's been a handful of times he's asked me to pick him up. I'm torn. Should I not answer or say no so that he is forced to find another ride, Uber, walk, etc? I fear that if I don't answer, he will drive. There is such a fine line between enabling and protecting our children/assets. The teenager who is about to start driving needs to see that you should not get behind the wheel of a car when you've been drinking. Its so hard to decide what is right and wrong. How have some of you handled this?
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u/Heartbroken_waiting 10d ago
About $60,000 is what my partners drunk driving accident set us back. Bonus is that it was his rock bottom and he hasn’t had a drink since (almost 2 years) but it was hell and he’s lucky he didn’t go to jail.