Could this be the ultimate AIO? "Am I overreacting about how my mom treated me on my birthday?"

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Am I overreacting about how my mom treated me on my birthday?

I (23F) went into my birthday with no expectations because the last few have been disasters. I wasn’t planning anything for this exact reason. A couple days before, my mom asked if I wanted to do something — I told her no. She asked what kind of cake I wanted...and originally, I told her it didn't matter, but when she asked again, I said I'd like a yellow box cake with chocolate frosting. I’ve wanted that exact cake for a few birthdays. She immediately started pitching other cakes. This kinda set the tone for how things were gonna be, so I just said “If it’s gonna be something other than what I asked for, it can be chocolate.” I considered buying and making my own cake, but I didn't wanna think negatively so soon.

She suddenly suggested going to Chili’s. I thought it was a nice idea and agreed.

On my birthday, I showered and put on an off-white dress with gold accessories I’d been saving for the day. Before I could finish getting ready, she called me into the kitchen, told me she was full, and offered me the rest of the breakfast she had ordered and eaten. When I asked about Chili’s, she said we were still going but she’d just get something light, like soup.

By the time I was fully dressed, she had passed out asleep. I immediately changed out of my dress and into casual clothes, and went to run errands. I figured that if we were going, it would be on her time...which would be much later. When I came back, she called to ask what we were going to do. I said, “I thought we were going to Chili’s?” Suddenly it was “you took too long” and “ain’t nobody got Chili’s money” and somehow it became my fault because she’d put money in my birthday card — $91 that I had just used to pay my phone bill. She was the one who suggested Chili’s in the first place...and it was completely optional to put money in the card. This further confirmed what kinda day it was gonna be.

I had even postponed a hangout with my friend to prioritize family, but all day it ended up feeling like I was just… in the way. I ended up asking her what SHE wanted to do... because the plans that I'd agreed to from her suggestions were made to sound impossible. That’s the only reason anything ended up happening later — she eventually chose karaoke. I agreed, even though by that point I was completely out of the mood to do anything.

It had been hours at this point. It was nearing 10pm, and nothing had happened. I even tried to hype myself up a little and play some birthday songs on Alexa, but my mother ended up unplugging it. It had become clear there wasn’t going to be a cake. While running errands earlier, I couldn’t find the one I wanted, so I went into a corner store and bought a tiny Nemo’s chocolate cake and a banana. I went to a nearby bar by myself, had four shots, and went home to decorate my little makeshift birthday cake. I cut the banana into slices, and stuck a pink candle that I found in the kitchen drawer(from a few years prior) in the middle of the cake. I asked if either of them had a lighter, and that’s when my aunt noticed what I was doing, and asked if I wanted them to sing happy birthday. They sang, and I blew out the candle right away. My mom made a comment on how fast I blew it out, saying it was too quick to have made a wish. (I hadn’t). The cake ended up tasting off...so I ate the banana slices, and had to throw the rest away.

Later that night, my mom suggested we go to a 24-hour restaurant for dessert. I didn’t want anything, so it took me a while to look over the menu. I was asked "Are you not getting anything? If that's the case then why did we come?" The waitress came around for a second time to see if everybody was ready, and I was told to pick something because my mom wasn't "trying to take all day." So I picked a random dessert that sounded nice, but politely asked the waitress if it could be to-go. When she said she wasn't trying to be there all day, I figured getting it to-go would make it faster. It just seemed like being there in general was such an inconvenience... even though it was her idea to go. Then of course it was a problem with me asking for it to go...my mother somehow took it personally.

I didn’t end up liking what I picked. I didn't vocalize this at all, and I still said thank you...which of course turned into another comment about how I was “acting.” She told me I should've picked something I would've liked. She then pointed out that I looked sad, and said she didn't wanna look at me because of it. I blamed it on a headache, which I actually did have at the time.

We did go to karaoke, and my friend came to meet us even though I’d told her about it last-minute because I wasn't sure if we were actually going. When she arrived, she immediately asked me if I was ok, and I told her I'd fill her in later. I sang a few songs and tried to enjoy myself. Around 2 a.m., the bar was closing and we were all leaving. My friend offered to drive me home since she literally lives around the corner from us. I went with her and later found out my mom was upset I left with my friend instead of her — even though she saw me walk to her car...and we were going to the same place.

The following day, I took off work and stayed to myself.

Later on that night, I was getting things ready for my first training shift at work. I'd be starting a second job soon, and I wanted to be early. My mom has a bad habit of falling asleep in the tub,  so I reminded her as she was getting in that I'd have to get ready soon,  and asked her to not fall asleep. She did. When I woke her the following morning, she snapped. All I said was "Ma, you fell asleep in here, I gotta get in here." And it was: “What difference does it make? You’d be late anyway. Good morning to you too.”  The way she was talking to me was horrible. She had a nasty tone, despite me not saying anything rude to her. I said "I'mma start talking to you the way you talk to me." And she exploded. At the mere implication. She called me a heifer, she told me "fuck you", she told me I had an attitude, and that I've been targeting her since my birthday (two days ago at this point).. and at that point I was fed up. I made it known that she was exploding over the implication because she knew if I was to start talking I her the way she talked to me, she wouldn't be able to handle it. Then I said it's disrespectful, and it's not okay for her to talk to me like that... To which she replied "ain't shit to respect. I'll respect you when you get an address. She then started throwing in that I don’t pay bills (even though she told me not to so I could save to move out, and I've asked her on multiple occasions if she'd like me to pay something, and her answer is always no). Out of pure anger I told her that if I was a heifer, then she's a cow...and brought up the fact that I'd previously given her $1,000 as a GIFT. I got in the shower, got dressed, and left out...late for training. It was 8am.

The next day she had an attitude shift. She called me and asked if I could take her to the store. I told her "I don't know." When she asked why, I let her have it. I said "Maybe because I was a heifer yesterday, or maybe it was cuz you said fuck you." She replied : "It wasn't fuck you forever, it was-" and I cut her off by saying "It shouldn't have been fuck you period. I didn't do anything to you. You got mad at the mere implication of me talking to you how you talk to me. No matter how upset I've been, I've NEVER told you fuck you. I don't say things I don't mean." I went on, yelling at her and crying because I'd had enough. 

Then she had the nerve to say she treated me that way because I had been being mean to her the last few days, including my birthday. When I asked her how, she mentioned that I called her a cow. She didn't have shit to say after I said it was because she called me a heifer first.

I immediately told her nearly everything I just typed above. How she made it feel like I was in the way, how she made everything I asked for seem impossible even though they were HER suggestions, and the fact that I was going to say I didn't want to do anything to avoid being disappointed. Then for the first time in my 23 years of living she apologized. I shouldn't have had to reach my breaking point, lose control, or yell and cry to a grown woman about treating me like a person for an apology that's about 10 years too late. 

To say "fuck you" and "ain't shit to respect" to your last living child is insane. Saying "ain't shit to respect", is saying I'm not shit... And I pointed out how her saying that is treating me like I'm less than a person.

She sounded sincere in her apology. She said she'd work on it, then she went out of town with my aunt, and we've barely spoken since then. It's been about a week and a half.

The apology doesn’t erase the fact that my birthday and the days surrounding it were awful.

Am I overreacting?

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[u/brachycrab]

I stopped skimming when she described exactly what she decided to wear lmao. I hate the long meandering stories on these subs

[u/Maleficent-Hawk-318 → u/brachycrab]

I made it a bit past that, but was wondering why it matters she was wearing an off-white dress.

I gave up when she talked about playing "birthday songs" to hype herself up. What on earth is a "birthday song" besides just "Happy Birthday"?

[u/madmad011 → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

That one rap (I think?) song that’s like “we gonna party like it’s your birthday”

[u/glassbellwitch → u/madmad011]

Picturing this girl in her off-white dress and gold accessories sadly rapping "Go shawty, it's ya birthday, we gon party like it's ya birthday" is FRYINGG ME 💀

[u/moron_fish → u/madmad011]

In Da Club by 50 cent is what you're probably thinking of.

[u/daintycherub → u/madmad011]

There’s also a song by Studio Killers in collaboration with the guy you’re talking about iirc! Love that song a lot. Party Like Its Your Birthday

[u/Maleficent-Hawk-318 → u/madmad011]

I have no idea what you're referencing, but it is probably better than my other thought which was that song in Thor Ragnarok where I think it's just Jeff Goldblum singing "it's my birthday!" in a falsetto over techno music.

[u/brachycrab → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

That was also my thought lol

[u/Brad_Brace → u/madmad011]

Is that the one on Happy Death Day?

[u/peach_xanax → u/madmad011]

there are multiple rap and r&b songs with similar lines, I made a Spotify playlist with a bunch of em years ago

[u/prettybananahammock → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

She rocking off white, on an off night 😉

[u/CremeBerlinoise → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

Robyn the bank - its your birthday is the classic in our house 🤷‍♀️ just put that on repeat. 

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

The new kids on the block had a song about Happy Birthday!

[u/Insufferableantics → u/Maleficent-Hawk-318]

That one from Regular Show. Today's gonna be, A-okay, coz we're celebrating your birthday! Happy birthday OP, celebrating your birthday!

[u/Spygel13 → u/brachycrab]

Same. Describing her dress and the color of her accessories is a hallmark of bad creative writing.

[u/loosie-loo → u/Spygel13]

It’s giving fanfiction

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/loosie-loo]

That's giving fan fiction writers too little credit. Most amateur writers can describe a scene better than the average AITA or AIO post just by virtue of having practiced creative writing in some capacity.

[u/RahvinDragand → u/brachycrab]

I got too confused by the timeline and how she kept jumping around to random points in the days. I could hardly follow her weird meandering story.

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/RahvinDragand]

Right? First she is getting dressed to go to Chili's, but her mom had just ordered breakfast (that also made no sense)? So they were going to go to Chili's at like 9am? She then also runs errands, goes to a bar, then comes back home, has time to go to another restaurant with her mom, then in this same day they go to a karaoke bar?

[u/[deleted] → u/GreenGardenTarot]

Honestly she did more on her birthday than I usually do idk why she's complaining 🤣🤣

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/[deleted]]

Right? Her day sounds like it starts at 6am and ends at 3am. She did more in one day than I do in 3 months

[u/Particular_Class4130 → u/GreenGardenTarot]

This is the funniest part to me:

"My mom has a bad habit of falling asleep in the tub,  so I reminded her as she was getting in that I'd have to get ready soon,  and asked her to not fall asleep. She did. When I woke her the following morning, she snapped. All I said was "Ma, you fell asleep in here, I gotta get in here."

This reads like her mom got in the bath in the evening and slept in the tub all night until OOP woke her up the next morning. Did her mom have some sort of drug overdose or something that would enable her to sleep all night in cold water? Or did she not put any water in the bath because she just likes sleeping all night in a dry tub?

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/Particular_Class4130]

Right, that part made no sense too.

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/GreenGardenTarot]

Every Chili's I've ever heard of doesn't open till like 11.

[u/DrunkOnRedCordial → u/brachycrab]

It worked though! Someone offered her some outfits from their clothing line.

I just found it too tedious to read - plan your own birthday, dammit. You're 23, call some friends and book a restaurant.

[u/[deleted] → u/DrunkOnRedCordial]

Damn why am I working, I should just be scamming the AIT subs

[u/StripedBadger → u/brachycrab]

It’s Enoby Raven Way’s secret non-goth preppy twin sister, Ivory Dove Road!

I stopped when they didn’t go to Chili’s immediately after breakfast. Because I realised I had no idea what OOP was even trying to complain about. I thought Chili’s was a restaurant (a bar at that!), so obviously that’s a dinner plan. So why would she be having a temper tantrum like a child at breakfast? The key conflict didn’t even have a point to exist in the first place.

[u/brachycrab → u/brachycrab]

it has come to my attention that this is the SHORTENED (by chatgpt) version of events?? good lord

[u/iamaskullactually → u/brachycrab]

Exactly. I'm not on reddit to read novels. If I want to read a novel, it'll be an actual book lol

[u/TexasRed806 → u/brachycrab]

Fr though? I’m not reading all that. Who tf is reading that novel of a post and then commenting a whole chapter’s worth to reply I mean my god?

[u/Donkey_Option]

Don't worry! She posted her Cashapp, so take that as you will about the veracity of this story.

[u/Season_ofthe_Bitch → u/Donkey_Option]

And even in this sub it’s being treated like it’s real.

[u/SaffronCrocosmia → u/Season_ofthe_Bitch]

We've had an influx of the naïve and stupid as of late, who thinks everything is real.

[u/wyldstallyns111 → u/SaffronCrocosmia]

Once a sub becomes too big you start to lose control of its purpose. I fear this will someday just be another repost sub

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/Season_ofthe_Bitch]

I think that's unfortunately the risk of naming snark subs too similarly to the sub it's making fun of. For example, one of the Taylor Swift snark subreddits is named very similarly to a fan subreddit and every time it comes up in popular, someone is inevitably very lost and angry.

[u/NinjaDefenestrator → u/Donkey_Option]

It worked, too. She probably raked in at least a hundred bucks between what was donated publicly and whatever well-meaning idiots probably sent behind the scenes.

[u/Disastrous_Lobster53 → u/Donkey_Option]

Ehat she needs 1k to get a good brownie obviously

[u/monaco_wedding → u/Donkey_Option]

Why would anyone pay her after this?? I want HER to pay me to compensate for what feels like a solid year of my life lost to reading this drivel

[u/King_of_Pink]

Are all these people offering to send her money really so stupid as to not click her profile to see that her other posts before this one are literally about convincing people to send her money?

Like, I dont think you could make a more obvious scam if you tried.

[u/yeetyourselfout → u/King_of_Pink]

i think she’s deleted those posts since cuz she realised ppl could see them

[u/King_of_Pink → u/yeetyourselfout]

Nah, it's all still there. The mods deleted her literally posting her CashApp in the comments, but if you look at her profile it's all findom shit.

[u/la-anah]

So, this was way too long and I def skimmed parts. But... does it say her mom slept in a tub full of water all night and she didn't check to see if she had drowned until morning?

[u/LesbianMacMcDonald → u/la-anah]

The timing of the entire thing is bizarre. It reads the way time works in dreams lol

[u/Frosty-Win-6472 → u/la-anah]

If that was my home life, I probably wouldn't either. Mom sounds like an addict. If she isn't, I'd be surprised.

[u/AmbrosialOtter → u/la-anah]

She said she had to be up early for work and went to bed around the time her mom got in the tub. Should not be her job to make sure a grown woman doesn't fall asleep in water.

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/AmbrosialOtter]

I mean... if you actually *like*, not even LOVE, your family member, you check on them?

Am I crazy for thinking that?

Edit: Just want to say that I am not talking about this specific situation. Because I have no clue about this.

Just saying that even if it isn't your job to 'make sure a grown woman doesn't fall asleep in water' if you actually LIKE the person you are talking about, you will do so.

[u/AmbrosialOtter → u/DiegoIntrepid]

If I fall asleep before she's in the tub, I am not waking up to check on her when I have shit to do and have made her aware of that. In a perfect world, yea she would have checked, but I absolutely don't blame her for doing what she had to do to attempt to make it to work on time.

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/AmbrosialOtter]

Again, I will reiterate, if you actually like the person you are talking about, you actually care about their health and well being.

If you don't like the person, then sure, you don't have to check on them.

But, I would think that, again, if you actually like the person, there are a lot of people who would be willing to be a bit late to work to make sure their mom hadn't drowned.

Yeah, this particular story, it doesn't sound like OOP likes her mom (and for good reason it sounds like) but in a regular family where they actually like each other (which in my edit I tried to make it sound like I was talking about), if someone has a known habit of falling asleep in the tub (and drowning isn't the only concern, mom could get hypothermia from the water cooling around her and taking her body temp with it), most people would make sure that relative was out of the tub before they went to bed.

Or at least wouldn't be able to sleep easily knowing that the family member is in the tub.

But then again, maybe I am just the outlier here.

[u/SJReaver → u/DiegoIntrepid]

This is AITA land where no one actually cares about other human beings.

Yes, you might walk into to find your mother's bloated corpse in the tub, but you can't be bothered with that because you have SHIT TO DO.

[u/iamaskullactually → u/SJReaver]

Exactly I feel like that person's replies are on another planet

[u/[deleted] → u/SJReaver]

Sooo true a supreme enlightened AITA being could never be in such shock over seeing a decaying wet corpse. Instead they turn on their rational brain and say "oh, ha ha, it's my bitch mother... as she deserves..." and go back to the Roblox Obby

[u/peach_xanax → u/SJReaver]

Mom Fucked Around And Found Out, clearly

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, I can see that as well.

Sort of where I am coming from is I helped take care of my father when he was older (80s). He wasn't steady on his feet anymore, so I would listen for him when he wanted to take a bath (didn't want my help as I am a woman) and even if it were late, or I was tired, I would listen to make sure he didn't fall or anything and wait until he got out. He did get dementia later, and so, again I had to basically sleep with one eye open to make sure he didn't hurt himself, or wander off (he was mostly okay, but at night he couldn't get a sense of where he was, so he would open the doors and just stare out, and every once in awhile, he did try to leave.)

We also eventually had to put him into a nursing home, because we just could no longer take care of him (he was a big man, over 6 foot, and stubborn, and had little balance, we didn't want him hurting himself by falling)

I do agree that there are cases where people just throw their hands up and no longer care (had that battle with my own mother at times, she wasn't belligerent, but she could go into a martyr at the drop of a hat)

It is just most of these people in these stories (and comments at times) claim to love their families, but then will refuse to even do the slightest thing to help them. I can definitely see where it wears you down over time, and that you can just stop caring (OOP's situation sounds like she doesn't care for her mother, for good reason.)

It was more the nonchalant way that OOP was like 'eh, my mother fell asleep' oh well.

Plus, what also stuck out to me was that more than likely, if the mother truly had fallen asleep in the tub, unless it was VERY hot in that bathroom, she likely was at the very least close to getting hypothermia.

According to what I can find, warm water can lead to hypothermia (if the person fell asleep and doesn't move to generate warmth) in as little as 1 to 2 hours. I know in my own bathtub by the end of an hour, the water is definitely starting to cool down, and if she spent even 5 hours in the tub, while it was cooling (unless she has a super insulated tub and the bathroom was very warm, I guess), it sounds like she should be having trouble with hypothermia, and not worrying about drowning at this point.

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/[deleted]]

I honestly didn't either.

I knew that sleeping in water could cause hypothermia, because the water will cool down your temperature, but I hadn't realized that even in warm water it could happen so fast.

Sort of scary!

[u/AmbrosialOtter → u/DiegoIntrepid]

Yea I understand that. I responded before your edit. I personally would probably check but I was purely going off of the OOPs post and their 'relationship' with their mother.

I also still kind of feel like telling her 'i'm going to bed don't pass out in the tub' is enough of a sign to the mom that she should be aware of her exhaustion and get out of the tub.

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/AmbrosialOtter]

Ah, okay, I tried to edit it soon after.

I am iffy on that, because I am someone who can think 'I need to do X when I get into the kitchen' take the two steps to the kitchen, get distracted for a second and promptly forget what I wanted to do in the kitchen.

In this scenario, if I were taking a bath to relax, someone telling me before would be helpful, but there is no guarantee that after a half hour/hour (which is how long my baths average) I would have remembered it, especially if I am sleepy. (but, I am also careful to NOT fall asleep because I live alone :P) I also tend to read which wouldn't help.

I may be a bit touchy because I have seen too many 'I love my family! but, I wouldn't go an inch out of my way for them, no matter what happened!' posts lately.

[u/hel-razor → u/DiegoIntrepid]

Okay spiderman sorry we cannot all wake up out of a dead sleep and sense danger nearby.

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/hel-razor]

If I knew a family member I loved, or even just liked, was in a tub and had a habit of falling asleep, I would NOT be in a dead sleep. I would be at the very best dozing or napping because I would be worried for them.

[u/hel-razor → u/DiegoIntrepid]

Good for you. If my abusive alcoholic father told me he was taking a bath I'd go to sleep praying that I'd wake up to a corpse or some screaming personally. I'd have a pretty good excuse to reschedule my training too. Not everyone gives a fuck about their parents. Idk why you need imaginary pats on the back from strangers over some hypothetical scenario.

[u/Electrical-Leave5164 → u/hel-razor]

“i care about people and check up on them”

“STOP BEING PERFORMATIVE!!!”

[u/hel-razor → u/Electrical-Leave5164]

It's very obviously some ego stroking condescending bullshit but whatever 🤡

[u/DiegoIntrepid → u/hel-razor]

did you not see my edit about not talking about this very specific situation? But in general?

Had a reply to this, but guess they either blocked me or deleted it (looks like deleted). So will comment here:

If you do not like your family members, then my comment doesn't apply to you, because I specifically said *if you like or love your family members'.

[u/hel-razor → u/DiegoIntrepid]

Take your own flimsy advice and consider that not everyone's parents deserve to be checked up on babe xoxo

[u/peach_xanax → u/hel-razor]

they literally said many times that they're talking about people who have a good relationship with their family member and love them...like did you not actually read the comment thread??

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/AmbrosialOtter]

You cannot seriously believe that mom slept in the tub for AT LEAST 8 hours in cold water without suffering a drug overdose or a medical episode.

Like, you cannot be this gullible.

[u/SaffronCrocosmia]

A girl into "wallet drainer findom" and posting her cash app? This is surely a real post and definitely not a person looking for an easy buck online.

[u/[deleted]]

I can't believe enough people finished reading that to post their own trauma dumps and soap boxes

[u/King_of_Pink → u/[deleted]]

They're even doing it in this thread LMAO.

[u/[deleted] → u/King_of_Pink]

We should do a poll to see how many AITAngel posters donated to the cashapp..... teehee

[u/Uncle480 → u/[deleted]]

Try requesting money from her and see if she accidentally presses "Accept" out of habit

[u/King_of_Pink → u/[deleted]]

There's probably more of a crossover than people would like to admit.

Redditors wanting to whinge and overshare about their parents seems to be a universal thing.

[u/judgy_mcjudgypants]

...the photo isn't even of something the mom did? Ok the mom didn't get a cake, but OOP was the one to get/assemble the thing in the photo.

I have sympathy for birthdays being blah, but...

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/judgy_mcjudgypants]

OP is also allegedly a female, with very male drinking habits.

[u/aoi4eg → u/GreenGardenTarot]

Didn't know genders were assigned by the amount of shots you can drink 🤣

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/aoi4eg]

Male is not a gender. Male is a sex. Females have documented sensitivities to alcohol, meaning that we can't drink as much as males and not have it impact us the same way. You can look this up.

[u/peach_xanax → u/GreenGardenTarot]

I used to work in nightlife. I've known men who were total lightweights, and women who could drink most guys under the table. What you're saying is generally true, just like saying "men are taller than women", but neither attribute is always true.

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/peach_xanax]

Of course, but when talking about the population at large we have to speak in generalities.

[u/aoi4eg → u/GreenGardenTarot]

You're confusing correlation and causation. On average, women are simply smaller than men. Shorter, less muscle mass, smaller stomach etc.

Like, I'm 5'10 so, even as a fEmALe, I can drink more than 5'5 man.

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/aoi4eg]

I am referring to scientific studies that also demonstrate how women also lack the same digestive enzyme as men that also contributes to us processing alcohol differently. You are arguing the wrong things with the wrong person.

[u/13confusedpolkadots → u/GreenGardenTarot]

“male drinking habits” ???

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/13confusedpolkadots]

Yes, male drinking habits. Going to bars for shots in the middle of the day, the photo with the cake and there is a cocktail in the photo and the brand screams man. Agree with me or don't.

[u/13confusedpolkadots → u/GreenGardenTarot]

yeah, i don’t think drinking is gendered, but thanks for offering your opinion

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/13confusedpolkadots]

The types of drinks are gendered. Men are more likely to be drinking beer than women. Men can drink more than women as they have a naturally higher tolerance for alcohol, etc.

[u/SpokenDivinity → u/GreenGardenTarot]

Today we learned that alcoholism is determined by sex.

Y'all femcels should stop competing in stupidity contests with incels and hookup.

[u/GreenGardenTarot → u/SpokenDivinity]

Today we learned that alcoholism is determined by sex.

Yea, where ever would one get that idea?

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2921163

Epidemiological studies report higher rates of alcohol dependence and abuse in men compared with women. Being male is consistently identified as a risk factor for alcohol abuse (Kalaydjian et al., 2009), ...Men also develop more alcohol-related problems regardless of age or socioeconomic status, suggesting that biological factors are responsible for this disparity (Lynch et al., 2002).

Y'all femcels should stop competing in stupidity contests with incels and hookup.

I would say you are just stupid, but it would be more accurate to say you are just ignorant.

[u/eels-eels-eels]

Is “write a Reddit post in a style that refuses to get to the point of the story” the hot new ChatGPT prompt these days? And if so, can they please tell the AI to include a tl;dr?

[u/adumbswiftie]

i restrained myself from saying you’re 23 and it’s no longer moms job to make your birthday special. bc i realize it’s not real. but damn it’s interesting how the “no one owes you anything” crowd will switch up when it’s OP’s birthday and she wore a white dress and also here’s her cashapp

[u/[deleted] → u/adumbswiftie]

Please don't forget the gold accents on the white dress it is VERY important and please cash app me bcuz my life is very hard

[u/stellatedhera]

Wow that was a brutal read.

[u/RahvinDragand]

This is a 23 year old woman complaining about not getting a good enough birthday celebration while admitting that she put in zero effort herself.

[u/adumbswiftie → u/RahvinDragand]

had to restrain myself from saying “at 23 it’s not moms job to make your birthday special anymore”

like yes it sucks when people don’t care about your birthday but come on. this girl supposedly told everyone she didn’t want anything for her birthday and was pissed when her weird possible alcoholic mother didn’t do anything…

[u/Cakeday_at_Christmas → u/RahvinDragand]

I always plan something for my own birthday ever since nobody planned anything and I just moped around the whole day sometime in my 20s.

Planning your own birthday stuff just becomes a thing you do as an adult, unless you have a friend/SO/family member who particularly loves you and wants to make it special every year.

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/RahvinDragand]

1. I don’t think it’s real
2. If it is real, what’s wrong with complaining? Especially considering she was forced into participating. I think it’s reasonable to want a nice birthday, even as an adult.

[u/agitated_houseplant → u/miscellaneousbean]

She posted her CashApp in the comments, that moves it from complaining to scammy, even if it's real.

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/agitated_houseplant]

Oh yeah the whole post is ridiculous, but it has nothing to do with her age.

[u/adumbswiftie → u/miscellaneousbean]

it is reasonable to want a nice birthday. it’s not reasonable to expect your mom to make it nice for you especially when she’s supposedly irresponsible enough that she falls asleep in the bathtub regularly. at a certain point it’s time to make your own birthday special and/or move out

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/adumbswiftie]

The story literally begins with her saying she didn’t want to do anything for her birthday and her mom insisting. She didn’t even ask for anything that her mom didn’t already offer.

[u/adumbswiftie → u/miscellaneousbean]

which is why it’s ridiculous. supposedly she didn’t want anything or put in any effort, but the post still reads as she’s the victim or something.

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/adumbswiftie]

Idk if someone offered to do something for my birthday, then sabotaged it every step of the way, I’d be pissed too.

Also wdym by no effort? She got dressed for the dinner mom offered, got her own cake…what else was she supposed to do other than go along with her mom’s plans?

I guess it doesn’t matter in the end cause I’m not convinced it’s real.

[u/adumbswiftie → u/miscellaneousbean]

the mom falls asleep in the bathtub regularly. she’s clearly not a responsible adult. at 23 you realize that about your parents and adjust your expectations. the effort would’ve been making her own plans, separate of her mom, to have a good day

i don’t think it’s real either but i love a hypothetical

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/adumbswiftie]

She did briefly mention plans with a friend that she cancelled for her mom, but I see what you mean

[u/Cakeday_at_Christmas → u/miscellaneousbean]

She says in the post she declined to do things with her friends in hopes her mom would do something with her.

[u/miscellaneousbean → u/Cakeday_at_Christmas]

She pushed back plans with her friends cause her mom said they’d do something, not cause she hoped she would. Should she have trusted her? Probably not. But it’s not like she cancelled and then just waited around for her mom to maybe do something.

[u/Cakeday_at_Christmas → u/miscellaneousbean]

She says her mom never does anything for her birthdays and seems very inconsistent, so I don't know what she was expecting.

[u/iamaskullactually → u/miscellaneousbean]

She wasn't forced into it, though, she literally could've said 'nah, I'm going to see my friend'. I do think it's probably fake though

[u/Spider_kitten13 → u/iamaskullactually]

Obligatory disclaimer that this story is a scam for money.

But with my family, some of whom are exactly the type of 'we're going to make plans and then only maybe follow through and complain about it costing money but it's your fault if you get exasperated' people this story makes a caricature out of, they do get really hurt and offended if I make/prioritize plans with family on days they want to plan something. They don't believe they'll do anything to make the plans they made not happen, because when they Make the plans they believe in them, so it's me choosing friends over them if I do, and they get hurt.

And because I'm not a citizen of AITAland and care about my family, sometimes that means agreeing to their plans to show I care, telling my friends we have to reschedule, and being disappointed when my family ends up being inconsistent the day of and we don't do anything.

Tbh it's another sign this story is fake though- the OOP seems to wildly disdain their mother but still went with her plans, while when I go with my family's plans it's to show I care/do enjoy spending time with them when it actually works out.

[u/Cakeday_at_Christmas]

OOP expects her mom to plan and do everything for her birthday, despite being 23 and knowing her mom isn't capable of doing that, then proceeds to act like a sad sack the whole day.

Oh, then recounts it all in excruciating detail in the longest Reddit post ever.

[u/Pinkshoes90]

Love how she talks about the candle being old from a few years back, but it’s a that has clearly never been lit before.

Totally real and not at all made up.

[u/devilsadvilcat]

I love that she bought her own cake and a banana for it (???) to take this depressing photo for her sad sack scam

[u/Uncle480]

Ngl, this one seemed organic enough to be just a real venting post that was posted in the wrong sub... until she put her CashApp ID in the comments

[u/Meritinerepose]

The fact that someone took the opportunity to shill their brand on top of OP’s scamming is hilarious.

[u/raspygrrl]

Guys I srsly need your help I just can’t decide if she’s overreacting or not 😩😤

[u/siftini]

Im not reading all that but yay love Chilis!

[u/Current_Echo3140]

BRB, I need to order some merch from the linked store in the comments and then head out to Chilis, a fine eating establishment

[u/popkateu]

On one hand I do know families with dynamics like this, on the other hand it just keeps going and going and supposedly she linked her cashapp after (did not skim the comments but didn't see it in the main post, might've skipped it somewhere) it feels more like misery porn

[u/britj21]

Homegirl blocked me after responding with five paragraphs on how she isn’t a scammer when I pointed out her post history is all findom shit.

[u/monaco_wedding]

I lost interest a few thousand words into it but I did reach the part where she goes to a “nearby bar” for “four shots” and comes right back home and like… is this bar so nearby that she walked or is the white-dress-with-gold-accents birthday princess drinking and driving?

This whole post reminds me of the way 6 year olds tell stories, just rambling on with endless unnecessary detail. The saga of the banana slices was like a sedative, I could barely power through it.

[u/LovelyFloraFan]

I laughed so hard when I saw that.

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[u/SpokenDivinity]

Do people just not look at post history anymore?

[u/DocChloroplast → u/[deleted]]

Couldn’t even come up with your own thoughts about the post? Had to turn to AI to spit out some trite drivel?

[u/EthanolBurner12345 → u/[deleted]]

i'm shocked you're getting shit on for something so normal to say, besides maybe for assuming this is real when the running assumption here is always that it's not. you don't particularly come across as a bot either. 

edit: this is coming from someone who thinks this is a shittyfoodporn post to get money over cashapp. I don't believe this post is genuine, but I don't think the commenter should get shat on for their response. 

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Her only posts are on findom subs and this, and she has her cash app linked. I have no idea why you would think this is real.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

A fool is easily parted with their gold, i suppose.

[u/No-Diamond-5097 → u/[deleted]]

You know those posts are fake, right? Or are you one of those social media bots that get paid to engage with posts? We don't need those here

OOP is a year-old account with 2 posts, that plus they have a cash app in their profile.

[u/vividthought1 → u/No-Diamond-5097]

How can I tell? Earnestly. I don’t think what you’re describing are clear tells.