Facebook and DragonCon subreddit wouldn’t let me post this 🙄, even though I created a Reddit account and waited for enough seniority just to share my experience lol. So hopefully I can finally share here.
This was my first year attending DragonCon and first time cosplaying. I have attended other conventions, but nothing of this magnitude. The majority of people I met were so welcoming and amazing, which makes me eager to come back next year. However, I was really surprised at the rude people I encountered and want to get it off my chest.
First off, I am aware my cosplay was not and never will be on the same level as some of yall (the talent is just crazy)….but I wasn’t expecting a man to approach me and tear up my costume (im a girl). He started off by saying my wig is not the right color. Then he laid into me saying you’re missing this, that, this prop, that prop. Like bro, I know. I’m broke, I just graduated college. He told me if I had a rich guy like him, then I would have it, and stuck his tongue out and gawked in my boyfriend’s face. It was so obnoxious and disrespectful that if I didn’t have a level-headed boyfriend, there would have been a fight. And to be clear, this is not how the man’s cosplay character acts. He was actually wayyy out of character behaving like this.
Then, I was outside and a woman asked to use my lighter. She was so friendly when she approached me, but as soon as I gave her what she wanted, she turned cold. I was telling her a funny story (which was relevant to our location and no more than 15 sec long) and she just turned her back towards me while I was mid-sentence. Her boyfriend was listening to me but then she gave him a look and he turned away and wouldn’t talk to me anymore. Just weird behavior, i cant imagine treating random people like that, especially when youre asking for a favor.
I understand wearing the costumes can be hot and uncomfortable (mine was so bad for it), but why are we being rude?? I was definitely not expecting that from the cosplay community, as I am a part of other “nerdy” groups and havent experienced this gatekeepy-ness. I only attended one day, so to encounter this much rudeness, is a lot.
Overall, the good parts far outweighed the bad and i had an amazing time, but, still, i wonder what the heck is wrong with some of these people.