How do couples pay on date in nowadays. Split the bill or covered by men or other ways

[u/deallary]

just want to learn about

[u/Geeglio]

I think it's one of those things that can differ from couple to couple.

Me and my partner usually either take turns paying for the date (so if I pay for one date, my partner pays for the next) or split it halfway if it is particularly pricey.

[u/New_to_Siberia]

Depends. Personally, I do so:

• small amount (a coffee, an ice cream, or something similarily small): one person pays (preferably the one inviting), the other pays next time
• anything more substantial: split in 2. This ensures fairness, and, in the case of a bad date, helps avoid the case where the other person delusionally believes that by paying for the date the bought the right to sex

[u/acke]

I’m married so we pay from our shared account that we both put 50% of our income in.

I believe it’s become more common for singles to pay for their own meal on dates (that’s the impression I get from my single friends and aquantances), which is a good thing if you ask me. When I was young (late 90’s / early 2000) it was often expected of me to pay for everything.

[u/grubbtheduck]

I'm happily married, we pay dates from our shared account, so we both pay.

If I was single and dating, I would expect her to pay her own bill if we for some reason would go and have a date in a restaurant.

[u/EasternPassenger]

If we're dating, we're either at a level where we have a joint account to which we both contribute or I would imagine the person inviting pays (so alternating).

If it's a first date, I'd insist to split the bill.

[u/serverhorror → u/EasternPassenger]

If it's a first date, I'd insist to split the bill.

Aren't first dates an invitation as well? Did things change that much?

[u/EasternPassenger → u/serverhorror]

Let's say I've had too many dates where guys thought that by paying for the first date they had bought their right to sex. I'm not keen on that discussion anymore .

I'm happy to pay if I do the invite, but I'm not letting the man pay the full bill the first time

[u/serverhorror → u/EasternPassenger]

bought their right to sex

Well, shit. That's a sad state the world is in then.

[u/bijoux247 → u/serverhorror]

This is such a common thing I've heard from people irl and reddit. It's horrific.

[u/pannenkoek0923 → u/EasternPassenger]

Oh so they were just buying sex with a pretence of a meal

[u/Hot-Disaster-9619]

If I'm in a relationship, I can invite my gf and pay. But I cannot even imagine paying for 2 on some first date from tinder or something like that. If someone new requires me to pay for 2 I'm not interested.

[u/kannichausgang]

As a woman I would never allow the guy to pay my part on the first few dates because I don't want them to expect anything from me. I'm in a relationship since the past few years and we alternate paying and keep track of the expenses in an Excel so that it's split fairly. For the first few months we just kind of eyeballed it so that it was 50-50. Started our Excel about a year in.

[u/RelevanceReverence]

Couples? That could mean anything these days. 

I'm part of a standard married couple and we share finances, whoever didn't forget to bring their wallet or phone is paying from our account.

When we were freshly dating, I urged to pay because I made nearly eight times her salary.

[u/beast_of_production]

If there is an established friendship to begin with, ie, it's not a random from Tinder, it would make sense that the person who has a way bigger salary currently pays. But in almost any other scenario, I feel it creates a weird dynamic. Eating at a restaurant is so expensive

[u/ok_rubysun]

for first dates and such - if nothing different on the matter was agreed upon before - the person inviting asks for the check, while the other asks to split it. in my totally unreliable empirical experience, that’s what happens in 90% of the cases.

for established relationships, then it really depends from couple to couple, and eventual other circumstances.

[u/Four_beastlings]

Back when I dated I didn't do restaurants for a first date, I did drinks. If I was interested in the guy I'd let him pay the first round and immediately invite him to the next one, and thus signal my interest. If I wasn't I insisted on paying that round because well, from my point of view he got rejected but at least he got a beer out of it.

[u/The_Queen_of_Crows]

I'm not sure how others do it but so far I'd say 80% of the time it's my male partner/date who paid the date.

I don't expect them to but I do always appreciate it.

[u/Bierzgal]

Guy here. I think a first date is rarely something too elaboratge, like an expensive dinner or something of the sort, but rather something smaller in scale. I have no issues with paying for coffee, ice cream or ice skating for example, it would be weird to split such a small bill. I'm fine with it.

Further into dating that person, my experience was either splitting the bill or taking turns in paying it in 100%. Usually not my suggestion but the girl's. Which I never tried to argue.

[u/zeviea]

Usually one of the following:

• Split the bill and pay 50/50

• Both pay for what they ate

• One person offers to pay and the other person might accept or declines. Common reasons one person offers to pay: tradition (the man might pay in straight couples or the higher earner might pay), the other person is new to the area, the other person is who accepted the date "Let me buy you dinner", as a favour (in this case the other person might pay next time.

• (Mostly long-term relationships) A joint card is used

I've had all of these happen. I (woman) always expect to pay for at least my own food.