I have always heard about this, and obviously, because the sex industry is so huge, that demand is driven from somewhere… However, I was recently talking to my coworker and found out 4-5 guys out of the 9 (all early 20’s) seek out prostitution when in foreign countries. I wasn’t sure if this is a common thing or maybe it’s just the people I work with? Like one dude spent thousands of dollars, but I wouldn’t have had a clue until someone told me, likely because they try to keep it under wraps because I’m a girl.

I don’t have any judgement, just really genuinely curious.

I’m 26 and still figuring things out — career, relationships, finances, all of it. Sometimes I feel behind compared to others who seem more “settled” in life.

For those of you who’ve crossed 30 (or are close to it), what’s that one lesson, habit, or mindset shift you wish you had learned earlier? Something that really made life easier, smoother, or more meaningful.

Like I can't tell you the amount of times I've seen girls that I would have loved to date that I just cop out of approaching.

A part of it is because, I don't know if my looks are good enough ( I get like pretty contrasting views on how attractive people perceive me as being, some say good looking, and others say mid or whatever). Like I guess I'm tall but idk it doesn't really feel helpful. On top of this, I'm scared that I will keep on running into them, like girls I have rejected in the past, I have had a terrible experience of constantly running into them and this has somewhat instilled fear in me.

Also mainly, I genuinely don't know what to say. Like my friends tell me, I do so well at flirting with girls I'm not interested in but I honestly just think of that as being friendly but when it comes to approaching girls, I don't know what I would even say. Someone please help, lowkey my bloodline might be over if i don't do something about this. :(

So my girlfriend and I are having this little debate. Before we were dating, she had a close guy friend (not wealthy by any means and was a failing photographer) who bought her a car. Not lent her money, not co-signed but brought her a car.

She insists he just did it because they’re really close friends and she used to give him rides when he didn’t have one. Also, he’s a Christian and apparently very generous.

I call BS. No regular dude is buying a car for a woman unless he likes her and thought something was gonna happen.

I told her, if the roles were reversed and I bought a girl a car, she’d absolutely assume I was into her.

Would you ever buy a car for a “friend” that you weren’t interested in?

Edit: She wanted me to add that her car broke down so she didn’t have another way of getting to work besides the bus and that that the new car was a 2013 Nissan Altima in 2021.

My ex used to hate when I would read these books because he thought they were “stupid” and a “turn off”. I enjoy them though but i know it’s not reality…its just fictional books lol. is it honestly a big deal for you guys?

What type of women are the ones you end up regretting losing?

Are there some traits/qualities, some things she does later, what mistakes you end up seeing...

I'm a 23yo with no relationship or sex experience. The sex part is very much due to my own wishes, the relationship part, not so much so, I was a very unconfident kid and only got comfortable about myself a couple of years back.

I can get dates, but when the topic comes up, I'm truthful and say I've had no experience and can immediately see their behavior shift. I've talked to my girl friends about it and they say that women at that age don't want to be someone's first relationship and partner because they don't want to have to learn a grown man how to act and what to do, what to say, etc.

I feel like that's completely unfair. I know I'm a quality guy and I'm not even being given a chance because of a preconcieved notion.

What do I do to get over that hurdle?

I just listened to a podcast about the founder of Patagonia. He has decided to donate almost all of his billions to fighting climate change. He does need to keep some of that to live on though.

This made me wonder, how much would most guys retain in this situation? You’d want to pay off your mortgage or buy a house if you didn’t have one. You’d want an account which provided you with a stable monthly income. You’d want a nest egg for large purchases.

For me, I think a couple of million would do it. What about you? Please explain.

Was having a conversation in a different sub about IDs. The other person seemed to think that it was absolutely mind blowingly stupid to NOT have your ID on you at all times. I feel like it's perfectly normal, for example, to go for a walk/jog around your neighborhood without bothering to grab it.

Personally, when I go out for my walk/jog, I carry as little as necessary: My phone, and a sweat towel. I NEVER take my ID with me. I live in the suburbs in a safe neighborhood. I've forgotten my wallet a couple of times recently when going out and about town for the day and never worried about it aside from needing my wife to pull out her credit card when the bill came. It's never been a major issue for me to not have my ID on me. But....I'm a white dude in my 40s in the suburbs. Maybe it's more important for other people?

So...do you ever leave the house without ID? Why? Why not?

im just tryna see what's common among what age groups. thanks for your participation

The only reason I ask I'm look for new ideas. I'll either buy Hexapro cookies and cream or ISO 100 double chocolate. I normally add bananas, 2 Oreos, 2 scoops of Oats and Walnuts.

However I can never get the ratio right with Hexapro because every time I make it, its always too thick.

Do men have an ideal age in mind usually? Women usually have a pretty good idea of when they want to start a family by and have kids (if they want). So that gives majority of women an ideal age they would want to settle down. Typically before 30s is an average for women. That’s definitely not for everyone.

What age would you say a man would want to settle down by? If there is even an ideal age. What are the factors that go into play? Or is it just whenever you feel you want to?

Maybe it’s because I don’t have women under 25 in my search, but I’m seeing men on here frustrated that they’re coming across so many scammers and OF models on dating apps. I rarely see them, and virtually never match with them.

Is it really that bad? What apps are they most frequent on?

I’m 27M and for the past two years I’ve been extremely close with my best friend and business partner (31F). We are building a startup together and things are going well professionally, but personally I am really struggling.

When we first met, we went on a couple of dates. I was the first man she had ever tried dating, but after our second date she told me we should just be friends. Months later she came out to me as a lesbian. She said she had tried to like me, that I ticked all the green flags, but that she just felt nothing romantically toward men. I understood and accepted that.

After that we became inseparable. I would spend 10 hours at her place every other day, even working from there. We did chores together, went on trips, tried new experiences, and became best friends. She’s honestly my favorite person to be around.

I thought I had gotten past my feelings, maybe 60–65 percent of them faded. But now she’s started dating a woman, and it hurts more than I expected. I actually encouraged her to go on the date and helped her with the messages because I care about her. But since then I’ve been restless, depressed, and unable to sleep. It feels like it’s finally hitting me that it will never be me.

I wouldn’t say I’m still “in love” with her, but the feelings are definitely still there. I haven’t dated anyone since her, and Tinder hasn’t worked out for me so far. I know in theory that dating would help me move on, but I don’t feel ready.

Men who have been in a similar spot, how did you move on from feelings for a best friend you couldn’t be with? Did you distance yourself? Did you force yourself to date? Or did you just ride it out until it faded? I’d appreciate any advice or perspective.

Mine was from my dad: "Fix it before it breaks." Applies to cars, relationships, everything. What's yours?

Fellas, as the title says, how would you feel about your partner buying new toys that are progressively getting larger.

For context, I’ve got just an average size old fella, not big, not small, just decent, and we’ve been experimenting with toys a lot recently.

She had smaller ones before we met, brought another few a little bigger (about the same size as me) and we used them during sex and foreplay. We’ve recently brought a bigger one that’s now bigger than me and already is looking to go Bigger again!

I was totally ok with toys, same size is cool, a little bigger no worries, bigger again and ummm ok but then there’s the ego side of “will she enjoy it more than me” pops in.

Chatting to her and she maintains it’s all fun and she loves my member but I can’t help feeling that she’s “missing out”

Thoughts?

“EDIT” I have a small mental issue after having an ex spread some rumours around about my old fella! They have stuck with me for years!

As the saying goes, “Experience is the best teacher.” So, I’m curious to know what your prior beliefs about dating were and how they changed as you got older and gained more experience.

Guys who dated their girl best friend, how’d you start?

So I (M21) dont have a specific situation right now but I have liked friends before and I’ve never made moves or asked out and regret it a whole lot. I’m talking about girl friends, i wanna make sure they feel safe and not uncomfortable but idk how I should go about it

How would you ask a friend out you like? How have you started dating?

Especially for people in their early-mid 20’s what are some things you look for, besides the bare minimum, in your relationships?

^ for those in happy long relationships, I’d be curious to hear when it clicked. And what happened?

And until you knew… where was your head at? I’ve never been on a fourth date because (for the times I’ve broken it off) ive found that by date 3 I can kinda know.. but a lot of this year has been tryna be more chill and go w the flow.

(I’m guessing other women wonder this too)

As you have probably noticed, women often compliment each other. I’m wondering how common this is in straight male culture. Please include your age.

I always see advice for guys in their 20s in this sub, but I never see advice for guys entering their 30s. What is some advice that you as an older guy can offer for guys entering their 30s?

Was it their looks, personality, the way they treated you, or something else?