I’ve travelled from Melbourne to Sydney and back this weekend and I am convinced that it’s become widely acceptable to be completely ignorant and rude on public transport.

Conversations at full volume, people taking calls on loudspeaker, watching TikToks without headphones. Not to mention barging through train doors while people are getting off etc.

I’m not talking about teenagers either. I’m talking about grown men and women completely ignoring those around them.

Asking this AS an Australian…is it getting worse or am I just getting grumpier?

It’s as described on title. I’ve been together with my bf for 3 years living together. His family is white Australians. They’ve been good to me personally and always show kindness. I have good relationship with them. But, yesterday, his family, they went to that protest, talking about regugees and immigrants bring problems to this country etc. Now, I feel weird and awkward. Even though people say that protest is about housing issue, that protest was clearly targeted to group of people like me. Refugees and immigrants don’t cause problem. I have degree, work full time job, and pay tax. I never claimed any support from government. I’ve been working since 8 days after arriving to Australia. I just can’t go back to my own country as my country is actively in civil war. I haven’t talked with them. I just don’t know what to feel about that. What would you do in my place?

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For context I’m 49 and live in Melbourne, protest capital of Australia. We have people protesting about something pretty much every weekend plus the odd weekday protests. I’m genuinely interested if seeing people on the news protesting or your day being interrupted because of it. Does it make a difference to the average Redditer? Unless you live under a rock, in which case you won’t see this anyway, most people know what’s going on in the world and have an opinion about it. Can it be swayed by a protest?

this isn’t just in relation to the reaction to the protests or anything, i just feel every time there is a political issue or perhaps moral issue in this subreddit or just on the overall internet, people forget how to be civil. i understand you may be frustrated with someones who’s views are opposite yours, but if you want to get your point and message across to those people, name-calling and having attitude and just being rude isnt going to make that person want to listen to you. i mean in real life, when arguing with someone, what calms it down? continuous yelling at each other? no. it takes someone either walking away or simply being calm and reasonable. let’s take the protests for example, instead of calling everyday people nazis and giving more validation to the actual sicko nazis, how about you politely ask what made them feel the way they do and what exactly their views are and then calmly debate and explain your views and how they might be wrong, and then if they are mature will maybe actually consider your views and then if they still don’t agree at least you voiced what you thought but then if they are rude then arguing with them isn’t ever going to make them value or care about your opinion for they are clearly stuck in their own, no matter how many times you call them inaccurate names or say how “stupid” they are. psychology 101 is “i feel” statements, not targeting or singling out people, people are animals and will fight if feeling targeted, when you don’t target them specifically they don’t panic. heres an example how a civil disagreement could go

bob: jeff i feel as if buying the strawberry ice cream was wrong because it’s disgusting

jeff: i understand that’s how you feel bob, but i have different tastes buds so i personally like the ice cream and i feel as though you’re judging my character based on my ice cream choice

bob: sorry jeff i didn’t know i made you feel that way. i can accept your views on strawberry ice cream however i hope you can accept i will never like it

heres how it should not go:

bob: jeff you’re disgusting for eating strawberry ice cream, i don’t think i even want to be friends with you now

jeff: well f*ck you bob i love this ice cream and since you don’t then i dont like you very much and don’t care about you. i’m only going to be friends with people who eat strawberry ice cream.

bob: you’re a son of a b*tch, ugly and fat and disgusting and (insert bunch of other name calling things)

I get a monthly “wellbeing” allowance with work, the balance rolls until end of the year but it’s use it or lose it by December. My remaining balance for the year is $450.

Aim of it is to be for mental/physical wellbeing but pretty wide scope including headphones/kindles etc.

Looking for inspiration, what would you get with this? Trying to view it as an additional purchase to maximise enjoyment rather than expensing existing purchases like my gym membership for example.

Currently thinking of putting it towards Bose noise cancelling Headphones or more running gear (which I know I’ll use but feels boring).

(Incredibly fortunate to have this benefit I know)

Hi all, I'm just here wanting to know more about the protest yesterday. What was it about really?

I read someone say it's not about immigration but "mass immigration" , another said it's about housing and government money being taken away from those who were born here and I read another outright say that they're racist and happy to be one.

I moved to Australia with my family when I was 13, my parents worked, my siblings and I work, we own properties because of our hard work and frugality and I'm curious to know if this is something that is directed also to people like us?

I'm not here to argue but I just want to understand from real people what their perspective is on this apart from watching the news and watching varying interviews online.

Does anybody else find it infuriating when press conferences are televised live but the journalists’ questions can’t be heard so most of the answers have no context? This just happened with the Police looking for Dezi Freeman but the same occurs with politicians and health officials and pretty much anyone. There is no point continuing the broadcast after the initial statement unless the questions are audible or perhaps even transcribed and put on screen. Let me get back to what I was watching rather than “mumble mumble mumble” “No”. Do other places do this better, a central microphone perhaps?

Weird one here guys. My daughter (7) dropped her little toy (it’s like a squashy donut toy) into the drain, outside of the front of our house.

The toy is not valuable - but there were some tears.

The drain has no water in it, and I have checked for Pennywise - haven’t seen him yet.

It’s about a metre or so. Grate can’t be lifted or shifted. The gap is too small for me to get down.

What would you do? Fishing hook? Large pointy pole?

Thought I’d ask - thank you.

I’m genuinely curious, how much of the housing crisis is actually tied to immigration, and how much is due to other factors like planning delays, investment property rules, or lack of affordable housing initiatives?

From my perspective, I sometimes wonder why more people don’t just move to regional areas. It feels like everyone’s crammed into the big cities, which pushes demand (and prices) through the roof.

I just want to hear how Aussies see it.

For context: I’m Asian and a first-gen immigrant. I’ve been in Australia for almost 3 years now and live with my parents in a 5-bedroom house in regional NSW.

By tier 3 I mean Cities between ~300k-~100k and who lack local rail based transportation. (Tier 1 being the capital cities outside of Darwin and Canberra, tier 2 being GC, Canberra and Newcastle)

These are: * Sunshine Coast * Central Coast * Wollongong * Geelong * Hobart * Townsville * Cairns * Toowoomba * Darwin * Ballarat * Bendigo * Aulbry-Wodonga

And if ask really nicely I might let you say: * Launceston * Mackay * Rockhampton

Why are you hiding your faces?

I'm a US citizen who's been living in NSW for the last few years. Recently I moved down to SA, and had to sort out leaving my rental property. I paid for a cleaning service to do a full, basic clean (floors, cabinets, benches etc.), as well as steam cleaning the carpets and fumigating (I had pets and it was required). When I left there was some minor damage- paint scuffs and the like but nothing I considered too extreme.

Unfortunately I just got an email from my old property manager; apparently the flat was *not* thoroughly cleaned, and in addition to the damage I mentioned the property manager has listed a bunch of other things like grout needing to be redone etc. I replied and said I was happy for them to arrange whatever needed doing and the cost to come out of my bond, and they seemed okay with that.

The thing is, now I'm applying for new housing in SA, and I'm worried that because of the poor inspection my property manager will give me a bad reference. Is that something I should be worried about? What do I do?

Asking for a friend. Thanx

Hey guys, was wondering about getting a tonsillectomy in Sydney. Does anyone know of any good surgeons who offer this surgery (private is fine). My issue is tonsil stones. I am with Medibank private and am looking to see if anyone here has had this surgery done and the cost they paid.

Any help is much appreciated. Thanks

Wear suncream (obviously)?? Get regular check ups for skin cancer etc etc??

I’ll keep it short and simple,

Received two week inspection notice - perfectly fine no issue here.

I go out for lunch and see my landlord (I’m in a granny flat and he is behind me) he asks me if I’d heard from the real estate manager today about the inspection and when they will arrive. (I had only just received the 14 day notice an hour beforehand.)

I told him this and he thanked me.

Today, Sep 1st, I received an email saying landlord wants to reschedule to the 5th.

My question, is this legal or is the rescheduled date considered a new issue of notice and needs to be a minimum of 7 days?

This has caused severe stress and anxiety for the sudden change and I want to know if I can legally push back and request they either provide 7 days notice or stick to the original notice date?

Thanks.

Watching and listening to super heated debates on recent immigrants. Genuinely interested in learning what is an anglo-western definition of Australian identity and culture in a more deterministic and meaningful way?

Specifically for microbrews: $13+ for a pint at a pub or brewery, $6+ for a single 354 ml can, $25+ for a six pack. Even for the macros, was quite surprised at what you folks are charged.

I appreciate that all of your prices are inclusive of taxes and can/bottle recycling deposits vs. Canada, and love that tipping culture isn't a thing here (yet?), but I never thought I'd be drinking so little in Australia!

Canada got hit with wild inflation too over the last 5 years, and 20% tips are the new 15%, but when and how did beer prices get so wild in Australia?

Going away and wondering if anyone has any recommendations on dog boarding and training? Considering Hanrob

Hi everyone, I’m currently filling out the NILS application through the Salvos Army. The form asks me to provide either a quote or an online shopping link. I’m looking to purchase a new laptop for my university studies. Should I request an official quote for the laptop, or is it acceptable to just paste a purchase link from Officeworks?

Also, once my application is approved, will I need to pick up the laptop from a local store, or will it be delivered to my postal address?

Thank you!

Hi, I am planning to start my Masters at Deakin University (Geelong Campus) from November intake. I am seeking help about some possible insights regarding what will be my monthly expenses? Which area will be most suitable for me considering job opportunity and less expenses. Additionally I would like to know If I can support my tution fees for a year which will be around 36k AUD?

Hi, I am an prospective student at Deakin Waurn Ponds campus. I would like to know about the campus and the course. What is the job placement upon graduating? Also what is the current scenario of job market, what will be my monthly expense at the cheapest possible way, can I support my 1 year tuition fee by working?

I remember this TV show from 15-ish years ago. I could swear the name of the show was "Beach house down under". However, when I try to look for it (and I tried by various keywords and phrases), the results say there was no such show and I'm getting different suggestions of other popular Australian TV shows about beach homes, none of which are the one I'm looking for.

What I can say is that it was not a house-hunting or fixer-upper type of a show. The host would visit the owner at his/her beach house and the owner would show him around and they would talk about the amenities, decor, some unique features, access to the beach and so on.

I don't remember which channel it aired on at the time, but it must've been something equivalent to HGTV. But I do remember strong Aussie accents. 😉

Could you please help me out find the show? I hope it is still available somewhere, so that I can re-watch at least a few episodes.

Thank you.

Transferring my overseas license that I’ve held for over five years in NSW, I’ve heard that the driving test is a pain to pass, any tips ?

Also, I’d highly appreciate any driving instructors within west Sydney with relatively cheap pricing.