r/Assistance 27d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT RULE UPDATE: Effective immediately, your post/comment history may NOT be hidden in any capacity

247 Upvotes

Hi all,

Reddit has rolled out some new "features" (sarcasm) which allow users to hide portions or all of their post and comment history. For transparency reasons, this is unacceptable for a subreddit like ours, and we are frankly amazed that Reddit believes this is a good idea. But I digress.

Moderators have full access to a user's post and comment history for 28 days the moment they either post on r/Assistance or send us a modmail. We can see everything, including anything that may be hidden. That allows our moderator bots to run their checks for consistent activity, karma farming, and so on.

However, this is not extended to you guys, the helpers, who need to be able to properly vet the people you are helping. We've had numerous reports of accounts being "scrubbed" when they are in fact not scrubbed -- they are just hidden. If they had scrubbed everything else, you would be able to see their post on r/Assistance that you just reported, after all!

Effective immediately, your profile may not be hidden. Posts and comments must be fully visible to ALL, and any attempts to conceal activity such as on illegal subreddits or extensive drug activity will lead to a permanent ban.

Frustratingly, there is no way to quickly determine if an account has hidden content or not, especially when you're a mod because you can see everything anyway -- so feel free to report any posts or users that have locked their profiles so we can reach out.


r/Assistance 29d ago

MOD ANNOUNCEMENT r/Assistance is looking for new mods!

27 Upvotes

Hello, r/Assistance community!

We are once again looking to add some new moderators to our team. We learned a lot from our last mod recruiting campaign, and hopefully the process will be improved this time around.

The application is here: http://r-assistance.com/mod

Some information we want to provide upfront which caused the declining of some applications last time:

  • Discord is a requirement to be a mod. It is how we communicate in real time, especially for time sensitive issues where we need all hands on deck.
  • If you are a mod, you cannot use the subreddit for your benefit. That means you are not allowed to post Requests or enter Offers.
  • We are looking for at least one mod who is in EU/UK/Australia/Asia who can help support the subreddit during the night when our North American mods are sleeping/unavailable. Please mention this in your application if possible (just put it in any of the free-text answer boxes, we are working on adding a specific spot in the application).

A quick overview of typical moderator tasks:

  • Reviewing the queue to reflair and remove misflaired content (ie. a Thank You post with a GoFundMe link)
  • Checking Amazon wishlists to make sure they are within limits and have no disallowed items before approving
  • Handling modmail inquiries with specific questions
  • Marking fulfilled/partially fulfilled requests as Fulfilled to track the help received
  • Manually issuing bans not processed automatically by the system
  • Investigating and actioning reports in the queue and in modmail (ie. fraud, scams, scrubbing).

Our subreddit utilizes both the Universal Scammer List and a custom admin system hosted off-Reddit with its own infrastructure. You will be taught how to use these functions after a few months of getting comfortable with the rest of the role, so don't stress about it.

Mods need to be compassionate and kind. We uphold everyone to our rules while understanding and empathizing with their situation. People in modmail will often be upset, frustrated, and confused. Please make sure that you are up for the emotional toll of dealing with upset people all day before applying -- your mental health is important, too!

We hope to see your application in our inbox soon!

Feel free to drop any questions about the role in the comments.


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Daughter bday coming up

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I will have a 9 year old next week but can’t afford to get her anything this year due to bills piling up and other life altering changes. I can’t even get her a cake and I feel really bad coming on here because I don’t have anywhere else to turn to and my mom is fighting her own health battles and she doesn’t have the money to help me neither. I have an Amazon wishlist and was wondering if anyone can help me fulfill the few items on the list? She isn’t wanting for much and is a very grateful kid. I thank you guys in advance 🩷

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3VK5JLUR799G6?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 6h ago

REQUEST request $50 donation, i finally may have a job🤞🏼

7 Upvotes

hey guys, ive been pretty down recently. haven’t had a job for about 3 weeks due to being laid off, but ive been applying daily for work and in the course of 2 days - i have already received 6 interviews. honestly just looking for some start up money to get my foot in the door- transportation to these interviews. i can provide proof aswell


r/Assistance 10h ago

THANK YOU Thank you everyone that helped me

19 Upvotes

I just needed to come on here and thank the people who cared enough to fullfill my Amazon request .im so appreciative of you all .again ,thank you 🫶🏻


r/Assistance 11h ago

REQUEST Need dog food. Rough month and they are getting low.

13 Upvotes

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1ZTSKXQV3RQP?ref_=wl_share

My girl has a sensitive stomach so I need food formulas with that in mind.

I have two dogs both med-large. Border collie mix and a Staffordshire mix.

This Month has been particularly rough as I work as a delivery driver and it has been a particularly slow month. I can barely make rent, car, and utilities right now.

But my babies are my priority.

I do have a goal amd plan to get on my feet and stable. I just cant do that yet as I am battling legal expenses and recovering from financial abuse my ex husband put me through. I just finished paying off and canceling the last thing he left for me to pay. (He left all our joint accounts, leaving me to pay for them on my own along with saving for a lawyer to help with the divorce and get my money back that I paid on his behalf on these accounts)

It's a mess. Messier then that blurb. But I would be here typing a novel to tell it all.

Right now I just was not able to make as much this month so need help feeding my babies. I have rice and soup for myself.


r/Assistance 14h ago

REQUEST Please read and thank you for doing so.

14 Upvotes

I am 41 years old and have worked since I was 14. I have been an auto mechanic all of my life. My parents split up when I was young and I became a parent young. I grew up fast and I had noone as a helping hand my entire life. I worked all my life , took care of my kids , but I became a drug addict using opiates for 13 years. I have 15 years of sober time under my belt thanks to GOD. Unfortunatly I have been dealing with Pancreatitis , Hepatitis C , and Fatty Liver disease this past year. It has all but disabled me but not to the extent I can receive any disability benefits. I am fine with that I don't mind working at all. But in this period I drained my savings due to not having the medical insurance coverage I thought I had. I am trying to do Uber to have an income coming in but its tough always having to be near a toilet. Bills are pileing up and thats ok I can deal with them as they come one at a time. I am concerned most about my electric bill. I have a 10 day shut off notice that I called about and I got an extension until September 8 in the amount of $453.25 , I know it is a substantial amount for a stranger to ask for. I know it. I never ask for help and for the first time in my life im forced to ask for assistance. I have seen people list they have venmo and cashapp. I have those as well. Could you possibly help me? Thank you for reading my emotional mess. God is great!


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST Home Rebuild

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Last week my cousins house had an electrical fire that burned most of her house down as well as killed her Husky duke. A lot of her late mother’s personal items were in there as well. We know that can’t ever replace that which we are all dealing with as we are a close family. However, my cousin has stayed positive and strong through this whole thing and is one of the nicest and most innocent people who did not deserve this. Our family is financially struggling as it is and now we have to try to get the funds to help her recoup some loss. Insurance will pay for her house but clothes, appliances, and other personal things will not be covered. I am asking for anything anyone is willing to give to help us in this difficult time. Anything is appreciated. I have plenty of photos just can’t post them on here


r/Assistance 12h ago

REQUEST Urgent Need To Escape

8 Upvotes

Hey there, it’s been a bit. I want to say how I’ve been holding up. How things are so much better, and that my hope is at an all time high, but in the end im feeling extremely desperate.

Right now, I’m struggling to survive. Physically, mentally, and emotionally. For those that didn’t see my post from before: I’m an autistic disabled (physical and mentally) adult, and i’m living in an unsafe and emotionally abusive environment, but to make matters worse now (even though before it was scarce) we have no food. Some days I don’t eat at all. I haven’t slept in days from the stress, heat, and hunger.

Texas heat is brutal, and without transportation (my area of town does not have a bus system available, trust me, I tried), I can’t safely get groceries or make it to medical appointments. Walking anywhere in this weather feels like a marathon with my disability. Last time I tried to walk I blacked out. At home, I’m constantly being shamed, threatened, and forced to lift things that leave me stuck in bed for days in pain.

I’ve run out of medication that I rely on to manage my CPTSD, anxiety, and depression. There’s no help from my mom to refill it or even to get to physical health appointments. I’ve tried calling shelters, but they either don’t answer or are full (plus the Texas heat is a death sentence for me and my ESA if we lived outside) I’ve even had to rely on strangers just to get food or rides, and too many have only taken advantage of me.

I’m trying my hardest to stay hopeful. I’ve been saving every bit I can, and I don’t use the donation money unless it’s truly an emergency. But things are getting worse, and if I using the amount I have now will lead me to have a lesser chance to make the move to a healthier space. I’m scared for myself, for my cat, and for whether we can make it through the heat, hunger, and neglect.

Additional, I have noticed there is mold growing, bugs everywhere, and putrid smells that seem to be emanating from multiple places. This place is falling apart, and I don’t want to be there when it finally does.

If you can help in any way, it would mean everything.

https://gofund.me/0a193445


r/Assistance 8h ago

REQUEST Just trying to get $40 for groceries

4 Upvotes

Been a tricky month and I just need to get enough groceries to last the next two weeks.


r/Assistance 4h ago

REQUEST Disabled, divorced mom needing help

0 Upvotes

Here is a link to my story I posted several months ago:

https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/1j33mak/my_marriage_ended_after_25_yrs/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

The basic is I found out my (now ex) husband cheated on me the same week I found out I had thyroid cancer. We had been married for 25 years at that point. I’ve been disabled since 2007ish (was approved for social security disability, but since I didn’t have enough credits, it was income based. I get too much in alimony to get anything currently) so this isn’t a new thing.

I’ve been looking for a job since the divorce was finalized in June. But finding a job I can physically do is hard to find and get for someone who hasn’t worked in 20 years.

Our youngest son is 17, so I do get child support. But it has to go through the court system (the court magistrate said so) so there is a 5ish days between when he gets paid, and I get the funds. Because of this, I won’t be able to make rent this month.

I created a go fund me to see if I could cover rent and other bills (like electricity, groceries) if you can give something, it will help.

https://gofund.me/cfe473cd

Thank you for reading.


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Finally got a job but need help covering the last of my rent

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Hi everyone,

After a long search, I finally secured a job and I’m due to start on the 1st. I’ve managed to pay a quarter of my rent for this month and sold everything I could to stay afloat until my first salary comes in. I need about $150 to cover the rest.

I’m now short of the balance to fully cover my rent, and it’s been weighing heavily on me. Any assistance would mean the world right now.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST My dog and I are close to being homeless (read text for more info )

6 Upvotes

Hello ,I really hate to do this but I rather put my pride to the side for my Dog he’s a bit older but he’s been having seizures lately so he’s been back and forth to the vet since April and within the last two months it’s been hard to pay rent ,take him to the vet and trying to live on my budget ,my parents aren’t much help and family doesn’t bat a eye towards me due to other family issues but I ask humbly Reddit community for help here’s the go fund me link https://gofund.me/20ae4198 please and thank you


r/Assistance 6h ago

REQUEST Rent Help

0 Upvotes

Hey,

I’ve been on Reddit for a few years and thought this might be the best last measure I can muster up.

I’m 25, I’ve been working at a call center for the last 2 years and was recently fired. Long and short of it is that they refused to hire more people and started trying to squeeze blood out of a stone. The week prior to my unemployment I kept having repeat meetings about how I was going a minute over their allotted “away time” and how it was hurting the company and my coworkers. I just wanted to use the bathroom and dialed a dead # just to relieve myself. My management noticed this and fired me immediately after getting exceeding performance evals for my whole time at the company and working on internal software and tools to help the company.

I try my best to not be a bad person and work hard. I was just worn down so much mentally and emotionally from being this machine that just answers calls, gets yelled at by strangers and eats shit for a place that won’t even let me shit in peace. I’ve been living paycheck to paycheck just due to student loans and the cost of my medications.

I just need to make rent for this month to not put myself out and have some time to get things sorted. My rent is 590 + paying for my anti depressants/anti-psychotics.

I never thought my life would come to a point where I need to ask people for a handout online but I’m at a point where I can’t really afford to explore all my options. I just don’t want to be homeless while I wait to hear back on some job opportunities get my life back in order. None of the money I’m asking for goes towards anything than making sure I have somewhere to sleep for the rest of the month. I feel deeply ashamed and sad to even be asking but I wouldn’t do it if I didn’t have a choice. I don’t have anyone else in my life to turn to. I don’t know if you’re allowed to post a Venmo here or anything like that but I am happy to privately dm it to folks just so I’m not out on the street. I’m sorry if I’ve broken any rules or not understood how things should work here, just sorely desperate.


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST We need help with our dog's medical bills.

2 Upvotes

I just launched a GoFundMe with all the details, but I'll post the link and the story below to make it easy on everyone.

Slight TW for anybody who is uncomfortable reading about injuries (I don't go into detail or anything, just a heads up).

Link:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-support-apollos-medical-journey/cl/o?utm_campaign=man_sharesheet_dash&utm_content=amp13_t1&utm_medium=customer&utm_source=copy_link&lang=en_US&attribution_id=sl%3A52cdc9d0-6773-4d57-9857-d7daecfbb3a2&ts=1756250180

Story:

Hi everyone! I'm Julie, and this little fuzzball is our best boy, Apollo. Apollo turned 14 earlier this month, and we've had him for 13 of those years.

2025 has been a rough year for Apollo.

End of 2024, we found a divot in his eye with an ulcer under it. Over the course of five months, we worked with our primary vet to treat it and try to medically heal it. It never really healed; it just got to the point where it was stable and not bothering him. He's partially blind in that eye, but otherwise good.

Then in March, we went to the vet for the annual check-up, found a mass, and had it removed. Fortunately, the biopsy on that came back as benign.

Two weeks later, he seemed really off, and we thought we were going to lose him. We rushed him to our primary vet, and she told us he needed neurology to diagnose. So we left our vet's office and drove across town to the Animal ER where they have a neurologist on staff. Blood tests, x-rays, an ultrasound, and an MRI later, we found out he had a severely herniated disc in his neck and needed surgery to fix it. Two days later, he went into surgery, and eight long, difficult weeks later, he was given an A+ in healing by the neurologist. (Biggest shout out ever to Dr. Hagler of Austin Pet Specialists!)

And now, we're here. Remember the injured eye? At some point in the past few months, the divot pushed out and became a bump. Over the weekend, Apollo was in pain, so I rushed him to our primary vet again. While checking out his eyes, we noticed there was a mound of goop on his eye where the divot/bump is.

Today, August 26, we went to the Animal Eye Care Specialists where we confirmed his eye has ruptured. His vision prognosis is poor, and we have to remove the eye. So we're doing that on Thursday, August 28. He's going to be our little Pirate Boy.

All of this to say, it's been an emotionally and financially draining year. We're setting our goal at $10,000 (which I know is insane), but that's a little under half of what all of this has cost us. My partner is currently unemployed, and we're both digging into whatever funds we have squirreled away to make sure Apollo is taken care of.

I'm not sure we expect to hit the goal, but any little bit helps. All funds received here will go to the CareCredit and ScratchPay accounts that we have used to make all of these surgeries possible.

We thank you for taking a minute to read this. Even if you can't help with funds, please share with your friends to help spread the word.


r/Assistance 8h ago

VOTES Face of Halloween contest

0 Upvotes

Please help me by voting here daily ❤️ https://faceofhalloween.org/2025/samantha-irwin


r/Assistance 15h ago

REQUEST Requesting $20-$30 for getting by until payday

0 Upvotes

Update: no long needed.

back and in a much better position—thank you to those that gave me a good kick in the butt with your advice from my past post.

I am hoping someone can help me with $$ for a couple of household items I completely forgot to buy (tp etc) and I am broke until I get paid.

I can do Venmo etc, anything would be awesome to help!

Thank you in advance. And thanks again to the mods for this space ❤️


r/Assistance 16h ago

REQUEST Need money to buy school supplies for my little brother

0 Upvotes

hey yall,im 20 years old and my little brother is 16,all im asking is for a kind soul to donate 50-60 euros for some school supplies for my little brother,he needs notebooks,pencils and a backpack. i work minimum wage and just had some heavier bills and bought firewood so i don't have enough to buy him what he needs and im terribly sorry for asking like this

im from Serbia,we sadly don't have amazon here,i do have paypal.anything you can do will help us a lot


r/Assistance 13h ago

REQUEST Recently unfocused, just asking for some McDonald's

0 Upvotes

Im in between paychecks and haven't eaten today yet, am sitting in McDonald's using their wifi.


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST Need help with groceries

0 Upvotes

My snap benefits ran out and I am out of work until October.. Trying to survive until then .. Any help would be greatly appreciated ❤️

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2L034KI1RC1GN?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU Thank you!!!💕

15 Upvotes

I just wanted to take a moment to thank this community from the bottom of my heart. The generosity shown to me and my bunnies has truly lifted such a heavy weight off my shoulders. Every item that was bought for us will not only help in a practical way but also reminded me that kindness and compassion are still very real in this world.

The bunnies are happy and fed thanks to you, and I can’t tell you how much that means to me. Knowing they’re taken care of brings me so much peace. I finally received my refund from Walmart, which means I’ll be able to complete the rest of the order myself, so I’ve gone ahead and deleted my Amazon wishlist.

We are endlessly grateful for the help we received here, and this weekend I’ll be paying it forward this weekend in honor of the kindness that was given to us. 💜

Thank you again for your generosity, your support, and the reminder that we’re not alone. From me and all of the bunnies: thank you!! thank you!!thank you !!💜 🐰 ❤️🐰💜🐰💛🐰💚🐰💙🐰♥️


r/Assistance 17h ago

REQUEST Please help us provide a life saving surgery for our pug Tucker

0 Upvotes

Tucker is a 3-year-old pug with a liver shunt. His medication isn’t working, so he needs surgery to help him. The ultrasound to determine the extent of his condition is $500 and the actual surgery can be $6,000-$12,000. Unfortunately we don’t have the ability to pay for that and carecard only approved us for $2,000 which leaves us $8,000 short. Here is a link to his gofundme https://gofund.me/6b90beff


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Going a bit crazy, but I think I'm the problem.

8 Upvotes

I have anger issues, not violent, just loud and angry. These past few months a lot of things have changed around in our lives and everything is always stressful. Lately though, I've been getting more and more annoyed and it will lead to an outburst at home, which I hate because that's who deserves it the least. I also work in customer service and drugs are bad and just people aren't the smartest around here. All day I give 110% with a smile, yes ma'am, no sir... More and more people though are just beginning to annoy me to the point I can't think straight. Then when I'm at home something very small and I'll unload. I want to ask for advice or anything to just do better. I love my wife and I know I'm pushing her to the edge because of this. The annoyance I believe comes from just not understanding how people don't listen or understand something so simple. If anyone takes the time, thank you.


r/Assistance 11h ago

REQUEST Dashpass deal!

0 Upvotes

0/6 Hey y'all! Dashpass gave me $15 off an order! I wanted to get some subway for my daughter and I for lunch tomorrow 💕 (2 of the 6in subs from subway comes to $3.66. Extra $3 to include tip! Anything is appreciated!


r/Assistance 21h ago

REQUEST Supplemental School supplies for middle schooler and a couple things for toddler

0 Upvotes

Trying to avoid a wall of text and swallow my pride. Even if we can't get material support I could use some emotional support. We've taken a lot of hits over the last couple years and I'm feeling pretty hopeless right now.

My wife and I have a toddler and and preteen and we have been trying to get back on our feet since I lost my job at 8 months pregnant. We keep making strides forward and then several steps back. In April we finally found a place to live after a little over a year living with friends trying to make ends meet. My wife found a really great job about an hour from where we live that paid really well and we were finally starting to get back to a sustainable point and pay off some debts but 2 months in our car died and we were quoted $3200 to fix it which we could not do and could not finance for a fix that the mechanic said would likely lead to a cascade of repairs. The car is 21 years old and not worth the amount to repair. We can kind of drive it locally if the weather is cool enough (the issue is the hybrid battery) so my wife found another job but it pays about $10/hr less and and she won't get paid for a couple more weeks. I am looking for work but I have gotten several rejections lately. I'm not sure how we'll make rent but that's not what I'm asking for here.

Our older kiddo started middle school last week and they are taking band and art classes which require extra supplies and fees on top of the general supplies we sent for the rest of their classes. Their band director has assigned them the tuba despite already having everything they need to play percussion (drumsticks and practice pad) because there are "too many percussionists already". We'll need to rent a tuba by Sept 10, likely $50/mo and pay $12 each for the class fees for art and band by Sept 2($24 total). I made an Amazon wish list for the other supplies they need for those classes. I know assistance with wishlists is preferred so I am going to try to figure out these fees myself but if help is possible it would go a long way.

On the Amazon list I also included a couple things to start potty training for our toddler. We've tried to start by just using the big toilet but he's been resistant because he's a little afraid of it and we haven't been able to purchase a training seat.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/34GHZNSTLM5LY?ref_=list_d_wl_ys_list_2


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST I need 30 dollars till i get paid

4 Upvotes

I'm in need of car money, I have to Uber to work and I have no way to get there. I get paid on Friday


r/Assistance 22h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need some yarn can you help me

1 Upvotes

I’m out of work and really love to crochet but don’t have anymore yarn ,I’m posting my Amazon wish list if you can be so kind to help me .thank you so much

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2B9RRBQ9U24FH?ref_=wl_share