r/BPD • u/Mein_Komfort • 1d ago

💢Off My Chest/Journal Post Got ghosted

So this guy I met recently was trying to be my friend or so I thought, right after he kinda blew me off, I go to see that he unfriended me. I keep replaying in my head what I could have done wrong as well as knowing his behavior was kinda shitty, especially after he told me how he didn't like this behavior from others. He turns around and does it to me and I'm not sure how to get the rage to go away. I'm having a hard time dealing with all the wounds this opens up for me. We weren't even close but this died not help my abandonment issues man😭

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u/Mein_Komfort 21h ago

I mean I guess for me? I can always work on anything if someone tells me. So when someone doesn't even give me the chance, it feels like I'm some object someone got tired of and threw in the trash without a care or thought and that feels awful. I think it mostly felt yucky because he said he felt the same way about it? I don't think it'd bother me this much if he never said that

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u/False-Insurance500 21h ago

hmm i understand. maybe you are putting too much weight in when he said that he felt the same. Many ppl can feel the same and still be incompatible or uninteresting to each other. For example, many women feel lonely, and they still dont want me lol

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u/Mein_Komfort 21h ago

I'm not understanding how I could? He said it traumatized him and would go on and on about it. It sounded like I understand correctly that he felt similar to me about the subject. I'm not saying we had to be friends. I just wish that he could have said something is all

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u/False-Insurance500 21h ago

I can't really know what he was thinking... My guess is what I said, lack of interest, which isnt something that can be fixed. I get what you say of at least being told good bye, but ppl do this cause its easier and requires less emotional effort

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u/Mein_Komfort 20h ago

I mean I get that...but that's not exactly a good thing is my point. I know they do it because it's easier for them but in my opinion, if you can't handle telling someone you aren't giving well with them or that they did something you didn't like... maybe you aren't really looking for a close friendship? I dunno about you, but I wouldn't feel very keen on getting close to someone I'd have to worry about walking on eggshells with or they'll just disappear. We could be casual friends. That's more a 'pick it up and leave it whenever' kinda thing. I dunno. And I don't know what he was thinking either. That's kinda the bad part of ghosting. No one knows what happened but the ghoster