What do you wish your parents/carers did differently when you were a teenager?

[u/Equal-Cauliflower139]

I’m a step-parent of a newly diagnosed teen with emerging BPD. I’d love any advice that you can share about things your parents/caregivers did that helped when you were younger. Also, are there things you recommend we avoid? Thank you in advance!

[u/No-Cat2594]

Hey, I’m new here a mom to a teen I don’t have any advice as a parent- but I’m here to learn because we are seeing signs in our son, and our intake with a psychiatrist with an intensive outpatient program said he wasn’t a good fit for their program and when we talked after session, he said he saw the signs that concern me as someone who grew up with a mother with BPD. We question our sanity in discussions with him I’m wondering what the emerging signs are for your kiddo. Our meeting consisted of a referral to Portland BPD Institute and we will be on a long wait list. But he said since they do not diagnose prior to fully formed brain, that starting DBT now would be the best option which I agree. It would certainly help to share experiences and gain insight from other people diagnosed or, even other parents going through it. What I can say about BPD, is that most people diagnosed now, didn’t have anyone who had a clue back when they were kids. Society just wasn’t clocking this for those of us who are GenX and earlier.