r/BPD • u/Equal-Cauliflower139 • 1d ago

Partner/Friend Post What do you wish your parents/carers did differently when you were a teenager?

I’m a step-parent of a newly diagnosed teen with emerging BPD. I’d love any advice that you can share about things your parents/caregivers did that helped when you were younger. Also, are there things you recommend we avoid? Thank you in advance!

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u/HaileeTheComet 1d ago

I think it’s beautiful to see parents educating themselves so you are off to a great start!! I have BPD and my home life was terrible. I work in the behavioral health field now and this is what I’ve learned. Look into TPP, Urge Surfing, Radical Acceptance and Self Compassion (Dr.Kristin Neff)! Give them structure and responsibility to build confidence. Endless love and patience. I was never receptive to treatment as a teen because I felt infantilized even though I felt like I had to grow up faster than everyone around me. Teach them to widen their window of tolerance.

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u/Equal-Cauliflower139 1d ago

Great advice! I will check all this out. Thank you so much!