r/BPD • u/Equal-Cauliflower139 • 1d ago

Partner/Friend Post What do you wish your parents/carers did differently when you were a teenager?

I’m a step-parent of a newly diagnosed teen with emerging BPD. I’d love any advice that you can share about things your parents/caregivers did that helped when you were younger. Also, are there things you recommend we avoid? Thank you in advance!

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u/Heoomun 1d ago

I wished my parents would just let me exist. Help me develop a deep sense of self and regulation. Be there for me without trying to fix me. Hear me and what I'm saying/expressing (the deeper side), not just what they think they hear. Most often I was severely misunderstood because my reactions to things were not typical - that's what happens with a neuro complex individual - they dont present and express things in a way most people will just understand and that adds injury to the damage.

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u/DopeLaSoul 1d ago

word for word bar for bar