No longer seeking sexual validation

[u/TallDarkArtist]

I don’t know whether this is healthy or not, but I’ve essentially come to realisation that I don’t want or need sexual validation at all. I am happily content being attractive and alone in that way. ~ a breakup and a lot of therapy and inner work led me to this (basically rather than spiral and go off the rails sleeping or talking to ppl I did opposite action and remained alone - still saw friends though )

Like im happy to be friends with people, but since gaining a lot more self-worth, I am so much more selective about who I even consider and that’s if I even consider someone because right now that’s off the table

Kind of feels good feels freeing like I don’t have to even worry your concern myself with that part of life anymore

Anyway, just a general update

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[u/Ancient_Kangaroo_109]

This recently happened to me too. I was in my car on my way to a booty call basically when the person texted me "hope you didn't leave yet, I need more time." And at that moment something just...clicked. I turned my car around. Took my make-up off. Put my jammies on and blocked their number. Never felt so...relieved at my own choice to just be like, "nah, I'm done doing this". I finally don't need that type of validation anymore after years of constantly seeking it out and regret over who I allowed access to me.

[u/AnteaterBusy5874]

thank you for sharing this 💗 proud of you and feel like this could be possible for me too