This happen to anyone else ? - maybe TW hypersexual

[u/fallenangellx]

Does anyone else have a sx addiction that gets heavily triggered by depressive episodes? Like all of a sudden its so bad that you have no standards anymore. Like u literally just want something sexual asap. Even when i don’t actually feel like it and don’t wanna do it ?

[u/Rayeoneace]

Often, yeah. I'm either demisexual or plain out asexual, but pretty much every time my mind isn't occupied and I think of stuff that makes me sad, or whenever I'm too stressed in general, it's like everyone I look at is like an item on a menu. I usually have to either distract myself with something silly and innocent, or masturbate until the feeling goes away. It usually never lasts more than a few minutes, an hour at most, but it's very frequent and makes me feel disgusting. It's also pretty embarassing and especially stressful if I'm in public.

Plus, definitely does not help that it happens every time I'm in bed, about to fall asleep.

[u/fallenangellx → u/Rayeoneace]

The being in bed part is so real, I’ll be half asleep,eyes closing and my mind suddenly decides i want self pleasure like wth :/ you put all this into words perfectly thank u for sharing this genuinely

[u/zoomzoob → u/fallenangellx]

It must be a dopamine thing. Some people turn to drugs, others want to binge eat, some go gambling and others want sex. It's not unusual

[u/Alternative-Deer-849 → u/Rayeoneace]

Thanks for your comment, you perfectly described my life, the way it hits me is like a feeling like hunger or sleep and won’t go away unless I’m able to distract myself long enough to take care of it later or just letting my mind swim with every deprived thought sometimes that snaps me out of it

[u/Blackmench687]

Definitely especially because I'm greysexual and sex is kind of disgusting to me at times, but when my partner shows that they want me in that way my brain basically turns off and i become extremely sexual to please them and to continue feeling wanted even if i know I'm not in the mood or want to do sexual things.

It's so horrible because i feel like i am acting with someone that i know loves me truly, but at the same time i just can't stop it when it happening.

[u/mizzmizeryy → u/Blackmench687]

you just put it to words so perfectly.

[u/iloveholywatr → u/Blackmench687]

oh my god i didn't even know there was a word for that.... sex repulses me sometimes too...

[u/Disastrous_Potato160]

Yeah at a chemical level it’s a form of self medication for the depression, because you get some of those “happy chemicals” from sexual stuff. But also it’s like a not so healthy psychological coping mechanism that can be developed where you start to create a mental association between depressive thoughts and sexual thoughts so it’s almost like a reflex.

[u/mizzmizeryy]

Yuuuup! In the middle of it right now, gotta say - not loving it! 😍

[u/AngryDresser]

Yep, this completely took over where alcohol dropped off, well, it was already there, but now it does all the heavy lifting. Depression, cataclysmic trauma, you name it. It’s my self medication.

[u/borderline198]

Well all of this has opened my eyes so much! It’s a symptom! I knew it!

[u/fallenangellx → u/borderline198]

Yess, it’s also a symptom of bipolar, ocd and adhd from what I’ve seen!

[u/Desperate-Carrot594]

Yeah, my doctor said that Alexithymia is my enemy. I had to google that to try to understand. But basically if you feel something that you cannot place anywhere or dont know . I start to looking for ways to get validated and ussualy is sex related... i am glad tha know i can see the pattern and from were is coming from. But i still dont know how to control or if there is anyway to play safe.

[u/thelifwofysl → u/Desperate-Carrot594]

Most of the time studies suggest that about 10% of people show significant alexithymic traits.It can appear on its own or alongside conditions like autism spectrum disorder, depression, PTSD,or psychosomatic illness

[u/sillytangerinecat]

Completely, when I had depression and some small depressive episodes (due to BPD) I always get hypersexual to the point where "I don't care" about who the other person is, I just seek the pleasure and I've actually felt like shit after it (idk if that happens to others too).

[u/fallenangellx → u/sillytangerinecat]

This is EXACTLY it, im sorry your also dealing with this although its nice to know theres someone out there who goes through the same as me :(

[u/sillytangerinecat → u/fallenangellx]

Don't worry, I also feel that kind of relief that there's someone that knows how it feels too, but yeah, it sucks so much but now that I have a stable and healthy relationship it doesn't happen as much and my s/o helps me through it (without even knowing at all)

[u/la__petite__mort]

Yep absolutely. I try to mediate it a bit nowadays by keeping my standards super high but there has been many, many times in the past where I slept with people I didn't want to or I wasn't even attracted to. My therapist says I use it as a form of self-harm and I tend to agree with her.

[u/Born-Negotiation6070 → u/la__petite__mort]

So relateee took me forever to realize that’s what it was

[u/Dave_BearChaser]

Raising my hand to this one, absolutely. I have such a weird relationship with sex; these episodes make me feel all kinds of ways and it usually doesn’t end well.

[u/jajagato]

Yup I spiral and then take any physical validation i can get!

[u/Fit_Day_8558]

Yes, I’m graysexual but the past weekend was exhausting. It’s like I couldn’t control what was happening with my body I was almost robotic.

[u/6Nekro6Demon6]

YES

[u/fallenangellx → u/6Nekro6Demon6]

Twin 💔🫱🏽‍🫲🏼

[u/kittyblanket]

When I'm stressed, I want to become hypersexual with my partner, and then alone. Not sure if it's healthy or not, but it is definitely pleasureful and makes me feel close to the person I love.

[u/xDanielle-]

Absolutely. Hypersexuality is a common symptom of BPD. It varies between people but mine is very bad. I want it all day, every day. It feels like it sits inside of me like a gnawing hunger, but it’s especially strong when I’m feeling intense emotions like sadness or anger. It’s almost like an escape or numbing method for me.

[u/renebeans]

It’s a form of external validation. The more I accept myself, the more selective I am. And the more I reject that piece of me that simply doesn’t make me proud of who I am.

[u/tickticktonks]

Like Taylor Tomlinson said: Because depression will bring you to your knees and you're, like, "While I'm down here, might as well make someone feel good."

[u/PeenorSnipperGuy]

Yes very frequently, at least daily. I just really want a good, rough, hot and sweaty dickin', what can I say. I am married but he is the most vanilla of vanilla that could ever vanilla, so it's a bit boring to me. Not enough to actually impact the relationship, I love him and am fine with things as they are. My diagnosed sex addiction + having mildly boring sex means I'm constantly wanting it and even think about lowering my standards if it "came to it" which is purely based in fantasy. I constantly fantasize about hookups and stuff but therapy has helped tremendously and I never ever ever think of acting on anything ❤️

[u/rhea_likes_cutting]

Omg yessssssssss it’s soooo irritatinggggggg like I have to study for a test but all I can think about is sx or playing with myself at least. I even found out how to do it discreetly in public ish places.