r/BPD • u/Acceptable_You_544 • 20h ago
ðŸ’Seeking Support & Advice to people with FPs who have partners
how do you do it? i just found out and i feel so betrayed and somewhat offended though i don’t know why. i have a REALLY bad problem with possessiveness. it ruins my relationships as the moment i find out you have a person that i realize you may favor more than me i automatically go into competition with them and it becomes a fight for attention and eventually i begin to attempt to isolate that person. i feel like i’m going insane, i just don’t get why she’d do this to me after i thought we were on the same page. now i think she hates me and that there must be something wrong with me why she’d choose someone else over me. in just a matter of minutes i feel as if my life has lost all its meaning i don’t even see the point in staying alive now what’s the point if she has someone else. this is always the case. there is ALWAYS someone else someone else always has to end up in the picture. i can never just have someone to myself and that isn’t a lot to ask for so i don’t know why this happens to me so much. what should i do and how do i cope with this? i don’t want to do anything bad again.
she was my everything in the sense where i did almost everything for her approval i was living solely for her and i had no issue with that because my life had gotten some form of meaning and it was to impress her and get her to like me as much as i like her..now what..
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u/Havinacow 17h ago
I think you should read back that part where you said you just want someone to yourself, and that isn't a lot to ask for....and REALLY think that through. It's not healthy for anyone to have only one friend, and humans need social interaction.....so yes, it IS a lot to ask for.