All my friends ghost me

[u/No_Emu_1500]

I'm not sure what I do that's so wrong, I've made a lot of new friends this year and they all are already starting to ghost me. I'm a college freshman and already one week in and my friends are hanging out without me behind my back and talking about me the main girl keeps saying about me being gay behind my back and asking if I'm gay and stuff.

[u/Yellowcup508]

you could always tell her yes but only on Tuesdays just to make fun of how ridiculous her comment is ive done that as a joke to women ive dated before they will like me and ill tell them oh.. geeez sorry i cant to tuesday i gotta get go see tony or some other nonsense that i will make up and just to kinda mess with people or see the facial expresions

i just do this as a joke somethings even tho im not gay

its too bad that im not really life would be ezer if was gay i always have suffering when i try with women probly goes back to my relationship with my mother but im not trying to learn how to swallow a sword

on the other stuff?

your a colledge freshman and so isnt everyone else you are talking to there peole are not friends yet anyone who insults your anyone who is abusing demeaning or whatever else isnt a friend

they might be friendly but that doesnt make them friends im like 42 so i got 2 decades on you a friend is someone who you can call to drive you to the mechanic because car needed fixed it is someone who gives good advice its someone who wants to kinda stick around when your all in the mudd and you the same for them too

these people are some that you are just met or meeting and getting to know maybe?

on you talking about some main girl talking negativly behind your back and goign around with female aggresion that being mind games or reputation destruction.. guess what? that to me does not sound like a friend that is not a friend that you need to have sounds more like a enemy if you ask me

my father he told me something once.. he is old and losing his memory now..

but it was like this my father he said to me

in this life you will meet 3 kinds of people

1 the people who will be a friend to you in this life_ keep these and dont lose them

2 the people who are indifferent and dont care one way or the other and are just crossing paths or doing thier own thing- these ones sometimes can be co-operitive shared goal but they mostly are just busy with thier own problems or concerns

3- call this group eneimies malicious haters or whatever you want- these are people to put some distance from to avoid and minimized your interactions with

myself for me i find that if i EVER have more than 5 friends.. that it means i have too many "friends" and i need to revaluate who it is that is really worth this VERY HIGH title the title of friend is to me.... to myself this is a high office position or title in this life

higher than someone who i am dating really

a real friend is like gold find the ones who are worth it and you help you growi into more of all of the best things about yourself and also you want to look at your friends and say would i be happy if i become more like how this person is

because like they say we cbecome a reflection of our closest friends

a friend is someone to help you with yourself and who it is that you will be

this trash talking girl does not sound like this to me AT ALL not even a little

you will find better people who are worthy of friendship