r/BPD • u/Ducks_and_Words18 user has bpd • 9h ago

❓Question Post BPD and Polyamory

Basically what the title says! I’m curious if anyone in this sub is poly? Especially if you’re in a poly relationship or have been. Any advice you would give? How do you even manage it??

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u/Jaded-Banana6205 user no longer meets criteria for BPD 8h ago

I'm poly. You have to be really on point with your emotional regulation and self soothing! Poly gets toxic really fast if you don't have a really strong support network outside of your partner(s)!

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u/cate-chola 4h ago

if your partner(s) cant support you, theyre wrong for you

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u/Jaded-Banana6205 user no longer meets criteria for BPD 4h ago

I didn't say anything about whether or not partners support you. Ideally yes, you obviously want supportive partners.

But it's important to recognize that not every issue should be worked through with a partner (for example, it's considered bad etiquette generally to complain about relationship issues with one partner to your other partner). It's healthy in any relationship to have support systems other than your partners.

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u/GerbilArmy 4h ago

Fun for a month, maybe 3-6, but then you lose it all. And that sucks hard. The consequence of that specific disregulation and fallout effort to get it back (in other ways) will haunt you.

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u/suicideblowjobs420 1h ago

I would lose my sh*t if I suspected, even for a second, that my girlfriend is with someone else.

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u/Fun-Employment9933 36m ago

no. i am too jealous