r/BPD • u/goldenvodka • 6h ago

💭Seeking Support & Advice back again..

three years ago i was on here as i burnt the bridges in my life and ended up alone.. a two to three year cycle it seems.

and now ive done it again. i didnt mean to. dear God i didnt mean to. i tried so hard to not burn my bridges but somehow… fuck FUCK 😁

has anyone ever found a dbt skill, quote, thought reframe… anything that broke this cycle

its me. i tried to make it better i made it worse. i lost people by trying to not lose them (again)

why cant i be normal why why

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u/sprinklesaurus13 user has bpd 5h ago edited 5h ago

I feel like this sometimes too. It's frustrating to feel "back here" again.

But have you ever asked yourself why you're frustrated at that? Why do we feel like failures because of cycles?

Everything in nature is a cycle. Seasons come and go. Days and nights vary their length throughout the year. Tides rise and fall, everything alive grows and changes. You cannot stay "well" forever not because you are a failure (you're not), but because you are a natural, living thing. That's not failure, that's beauty.

Look around. You are not the same person you were three years ago, just because you are standing in the same spot, any more than a school child is the same person returning back year after year. The fact that you're even here taking accountability is massive progress, right?

Relapse is a part of life, even if you are doing everything right. We are not perfect. We are not expected to be perfect. Some of us fuck up more than others. But we all fuck up. We just learn how to manage it.

We all will have challenges, we all will make mistakes, we all get to experience grief and sorrow. You will be back in this room again. It is inevitable. That doesn't mean you failed. It mean you're back at school, and we're gonna learn some more from the universe this year.

That's not failure, that's growth. 🌱