CW for mild suicadal ideology. To start this off i am 18m with bpd, ocd, and a bunch of other trauma stuff. Im at the stage in life where im now expected to start functioning on my own but its really hard, i find it hard to have motivation to get out of bed or continue life every day and i DONT want to be feeling like this. I go to therapy once or twice a month, i used to take medication regularily and i get out and do stuff but the feeling of just wanting it to end never goes away even if everything in my life is stable or even great. Posting here for any/all personal tips or motivations that you guys use, i want to get better and i want to love life so im trying everything i can

Hi everyone. I've been feeling very lonely recently. I've always had struggles bonding with new people and finding somebody who has similar interests. That is probably because I have very intense emotions and the only way I can make a friendship is when I am alone with a person and can devote myself to adjusting to them.

For about a year I've had a friend that for the first time in my life gave me a feeling of calmness. During that time I slowly started to feel more stable emotionally as I started spending a lot of quality time with them and their other friends. However, I had to stop being friends with them in spring. Something happened and I felt really betrayed. Now, almost every chat I open, they are there and I can see that that friend is happy and perfectly fine. I really want to isolate from there....

I feel like without much social interactions I'm gradually slipping into my old patterns. I tried to find any chats where I can feel comfortable, however they are usually very popular and I'm scared to write anything, my mind goes blank. I also tried to find random people in random chats and dm them but they are not usually interested and find it really strange. I also thought about using dating apps or attending different events and talking to random people there. But I am, once again, really anxious. I can't push myself for long before I would want to isolate altogether.

Do you have any advise for me? How do you seek for new people and places? Thank you in advance. P.S. Sorry if my English is bad it''s not my native language.

I feel like I'm splitting on my FP because of my out of control possessive feelings. I'm jealous of anything that takes up his time. His job, family, sleep and whatever else my brain can identify causes abandonment feelings. I'm fighting so hard not to ruin our relationship. Luckily he doesn't know. I hate being like this and it sends me down the self hate rabbit hole.

I've had so many arguments where people are insistent mania is a part of BPD, but mania is only seen in bipolar 1. Most of these people are experiencing symptoms seen in HYPOmania in bipolar 2. BPD symptoms and behavior can be resemblant of mania, and someone can have bipolar 1 or 2 and BPD, but BPD is not the cause of your mania nor hypomania. Impulsive spending and euphoria do not equate to mania. Stop throwing the word mania and psychosis around!

so this is new, speaking out to others. but I need to get this out there to somewhere I won't feel too alone. my FP (my boyfriend) is gonna be off the grid camping with friends until Sunday (possibly evening), which means basically no communication whatsoever unless a miracle happens and he gets a sliver of service. we usually talk every day. throughout the day. i hate to say it but our conversations keep me sane for the most part, and he makes me happy especially when we talk, so this is gonna be VERY hard.

he promised me he'd be safe, he's with 2 other friends, and he'd keep me updated if possible, but with absolutely no service or way of contacting each other, I cant help but worry and wonder if he's safe. Im trying to keep myself calm and distracted, even gonna try to see a friend on sunday, but the anxiety is now starting to eat me alive after 7 hours of no contact... basically, this is the longest we've gone without talking unless we're asleep😅

7 hours and I'm already feeling like I'm starting to lose myself, but tbh this is a slight victory because I haven't split just yet like i usually do. I'm just scared of how I'm going to be when hours turn into days. I don't have a lot of people to reach out to for support, or, anyone who understands (hence why I am here....). work tomorrow should be a bit of a distraction (until I get off at 2:30pm and I'm stuck thinking about this all over again...). then again, what if I'm at work and he's finally able to talk? another anxiety-ridden thought.

I so badly wanna know if he's okay, if he's safe, if he's having a good time and being responsible (he can be a bit daring around friends...). i do trust he'll be okay and honest and safe, but last time he did this he ended up in the hospital with many stitches after a knife accident....I just need some support 😅 how to last days without talking to my FP and how to be okay with it without splitting on him hard... which i want to avoid bc i want him to have a good time...

I'm honestly done with everything that's happening in the UK and everywhere. There more hatred than usual and I'm likely to become a target of it. I cannot make it political, but it's the racial aspect as well as being Autistic just demonises me very easily.

That and I don't have anybody to be with when shit goes south. I'm alone and it's like the world is against me with all the shitty people in it. Plus, people abandoning me because of the fact I call those sorts of people, human trash. Now please call me out if I'm telling lie.

I'm trying my best, but it's never enough for anybody at all. I'm expected to get my shit together or work on my music when I'm just too emotionally fucked. Right now, I don't know what to do. There's very little who I can turn to, and I sure as shit don't want to feel like a nuisance.

So yeah. This is where I am at.

And I often do and then I download and open tinder or start texting some random people. And the shame I feel the next morning is just out of this world. We had a fight today because of our previous fights he hasn’t kissed me for 4 months. I haven’t really pushed or tried because I know that he needs to come around and feel it in his own time. Today however, I felt that we had a nice evening, goofing around and watching a movie so I tried to kiss him on the cheek and he pulled away and went silent. I left the room and when I came back, the tv was turned off and he sat in complete silence and darkness and was just looking at one spot. Btw, he has avoidant tendencies. So talking is very difficult for him. I went to sit down next to him and asked him what are you sulking about - because I wanted to kiss you? He didn’t answer and so I started to feel triggered slowly and told him “can you please answer me?” Finally he said something like he feels pressured. And i told him i’m not pressuring you, we haven’t kissed in 4 months (not even a peck) and so he went silent again. Now he’s snoring and sleeping… i went to kitchen to pour myself a drink and i’m sitting here thinking how i just want to open tinder again or seek some attention elsewhere but I know I’ll hate myself in the morning. Besides I honestly don’t even want anyone else. I just want him to want me. I feel so sad and defeated. It doesn’t help that we have a long distance relationship and he has been currently visiting for 1 month (0 intimacy during that btw) and he will leave in 8 days and the next time we can see each other is around the Christmas.

Title really says it all. What am I doing. I don't know if I'm splitting or not, but I'm sick of nearly constant hurting and overthinking and commiserating, everything just fuckin hurts all the time. And the worst part is I did this to myself

Hello everyone :) I'm 29F, have dealt with severe depression and anxiety all my life due to childhood abuse. I am proud to be sharing my progress with you all today. Because I never ever thought I would feel better, but I do. I committed myself to healing 4 months ago, I was a wreck, and now I feel completely different. I believe I am in remission.

I'm here to give you HOPE. Two months ago I was still suicidal, like I have been my whole life.

Now I wake up feeling free! The world has opened itself up to me for the first time. I forgave my parents. I forgave my bullies. I forgave everyone, including myself.

After 10 years of therapy, and a long life of mental breakdowns, chronic pain, relationship issues, considering myself an alien, I am now genuinely happy, optimistic, grateful, untouchable. I immediately got into therapy because I was desperate to talk about my life, but also very determined to not repeat the same patterns as my parents or be in denial. I got obsessed with hard truths and facing my fears. Made a lot of bad decisions anyway but glad to finally be feeling better.

I am sharing what I have learned below. (Some of this may be controversial and maybe some people will reject it, that's ok and it's not meant to offend anyone.)

I understand that I am genuinely meant to be on this planet, that I am wonderful, caring, genuine, and deeply loved, even if I don't feel it all the time. I understand that I have value and worth no matter what happens or what anyone thinks of me. I don't have to save anyone, please anyone, or do anything to be worthy. Sometimes you don't even realize the positive impacts you could be having on others. People do things because they have issues internally, it is not a reflection of you.

You are not your past, or what you did, or what happened to you. You are who you want to be in the future. Even as you age, that mindset stays with you so you never stop growing.

WHAT HELPED ME HEAL

If anyone is looking for healing strategies, here are some that have brought me to this point. I reconnected with my aunt who went on her own trauma healing journey, and she got me out of the suicidal mindset. She said life can be very fulfilling. And that she wants me to watch her grow old. She told me that she can do anything, and so can I. She told me that she healed herself, which means I can too. And she was right! So try to find a family member or someone to look up to.

I met a highly acclaimed hypnotherapist through her who taught me a lot of this. He told me my life's purpose is to be the type of mother that I wish my own mother had been. To mother others. To mother myself. To imagine me mothering my own mother.

You are the most important person in your life. And everyone you love pivots around you. So you must do right by yourself and have good self esteem in order to be good to your loved ones.

(Mention of God ahead so if you don't believe in God, then any higher power works, I myself am agnostic!)

You are wonderful, amazing, and a great person. A great mother, father, sister, brother, partner, friend. You are the product of thousands of years of nature and survival of the fittest. You may have done things that you felt were below your worth, against your values, which led to guilt. But you are who you want to be in the future, not your past experiences, and you are not how someone made you feel. Even terrible experiences are valuable as they teach you lessons, about how to navigate the world and protect yourself in the future. When we get hurt, we want to hurt back. And then we feel guilt. We get into a battle and hurt others and ourselves in the process.

We wish that God would punish them. But God only wants to forgive. So we are asking the Source to do something he doesn't want to. Like there's a huge resevoir of water, and we tell someone that they can't drink out of it. People abuse because they were abused. People can't do what they don't know how to. All you can do is set an example for them. Forgive them and thank the Universe that you were not born as them, because they might've gone through worse. It might be harder to be your mother than to experience what she did to you. People who did you wrong, bullied you, abused you. They are the real victims, they were mentally disturbed to do that to you and deserve your pity. Maybe it was the only way they could get attention, or feel valued, or important, or loved. And maybe even then, they never did. Try to be grateful that it was you and not someone else who bore their burden, because you took it and someone else was spared, someone who maybe couldn't have handled it as well as you did, or wouldn't have been as strong as you were. Once you forgive others, you can forgive yourself, for acting out of pain. When we see ourselves as victims, we take power away from ourselves which makes us feel helpless.

This is why anger management is very important. However if someone is always in a bad place, it becomes toxic for you. Because you also deserve to feel peace. This is when you can try to leave or detach as much as possible.

Do not judge another person's values or faith, because in every faith, they believe their God has created everyone else in the world. Values may be different and you do not need to agree, but do not judge another's values. Never force your values, but you can gently teach them if they are willing to learn.

What helped me finally forgive my parents was learning about their history and what they went through, especially as children and before/during the beginning of my life. To understand that this was generational, and I was just brought into it but that wasn't my fault. Then I forgave my grandparents, then my great grandparents and so on. I remembered the ways my parents tried to do better than their own parents, and the ways they showed me love in their limited capacity. If you don't want to reconcile that's ok, but if you do then have boundaries in place!

Use the word 'want' in your language. Not should, have, or need. Want. Like I want to eat healthy because I deserve a long life and life is a gift. I want to recover from my addiction. I want to be at my ideal body size so that I can feel lighter (not lose weight because subconsciously we don't want to lose anything). I want to be on my phone less because I want to enjoy the present. I want my partner to be respectful so that we can have a reciprocal relationship. Other than food, shelter and transport, there's not much else we really need, want means it's something we desire and empowers us to see it through.

Avoid the 2 C's, complaints and compulsions. To be empowered, take responsibility for your own life and avoid blaming others. Since you can't control others, what can you do to change the pattern? To feel happier, avoid thinking of things as compulsions. This is the difference between misery and contentment. Like I choose to go to work because I want to provide for myself/my family and enjoy life.

Most things are happening from the subconscious mind which doesn't forgive, so hypnotherapy helps to tap into that state. But learning about the subconscious can help a lot too! Even weight gain and sexual orientation expressions have a lot to do with subconsciously trying to tip the scales, suppressed resentment, and protecting yourself. Learning to live according to your values can greatly reduce guilt as well. Some of this advice was specific to my issues but I included it anyway!

Books that I've been recommended are the Celestine Prophecy, and Logotherapy and Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl.

Feel awkward around people? Awkward is normal for people like us, awkward is where connection begins.

Another thing that helps is a therapist who challenges your beliefs, finds flaws in your thinking, and creates a safe space. Your core beliefs HAVE to be challenged again and again and replaced with new ones. You may want to work on your fears, and do a fear setting exercise, there is a TED talk on this on youtube! Set up boundaries and stop trying to be ok with things you're not ok with! Let go of the need to avoid being wrong, to manage others' emotions for them, and the fear of losing people. Be kind and understanding but be as authentic as possible, no matter the consequences, so that you are not betraying your self. Empower people by telling them they're great people, and try to discourage them from feeling like victims as it doesn't help them.

More down in the comments!

i was diagnosed with borderline a few months ago but i know i’ve been dealing with it for a long time. additionally, i have experienced sleep paralysis my whole life (earliest memory i have of it is 6 y/o) and im curious if there are any other BPD people that have a similar link. through therapy ive found my BPD stems from parental issues and an abusive boyfriend i had when i was in high school. in recent years and especially in times when im really doing poorly i have sleep paralysis almost every single night. it’s so common that im not even afraid of it anymore, its more of an annoyance honestly. my sleep paralysis comes in the form of “people” screaming, my phone ringing, “people” saying my name, seeing dark figures, or just staring at the ceiling and not being able to move. i don’t know a lot about sleep paralysis or BPD but i know a stress link seems to be connected to the 2. anyone relate? would just like to have someone to talk to about this.

(Sorry if my English is not so good, is my second language) For more context my bff is pregnant, very early weeks but pregnant and she's very moody and day by day she is getting really annoying, we laugh at each other on a daily basis but her jokes and her comments and her way to talk to me is getting a little out of control, her way to talk to me is getting more and more rude and she jokes on me when is not really the mood and I'm talking about something serious like family problems or like yesterday is was talking about how stress can be hard to me bc I get so much intrusive thoughts and spasms all over my body (I start university in 3 days and we are suspecting that my mom has cancer and my dad have some neurological deterioratives issues, so I'm really stressed on my daily basis) and she just talks to me like it's a joke everything that I'm feeling and obviously I don't like that but I let it pass because literally I got like myself thinking that it's not a big deal and she's just joking but it makes me feel bad and now we were getting out of work and she was annoying she kept making comments and I told her that it's okay I get that she's pregnant and I love her but it's no reason for her to talk to me like that and I was about to tell her that she has been very moody and I didn't like that attitude and she interrupted me she told me that whatever I had to say just to not said because she didn't wanna get in a bad mood, and I really felt like she was dumping everything that she felt on me and not enough I want to talk about my problems way but in a way that like I said before like she's dumping all of her stress on me and obviously I didn't do anything to make her mad or to annoy her I was just being present as a friend and because I have BPD I can't feel angry in a normal way I really feel like my skin is burning my cheeks are very red I feel my hands itch it's a pretty uncomfortable sensation and I don't like it being mad at my friends because I don't get mad I hate them is really really powerful how the mind can be in this is pretty hard too say it out loud so I'm saying it here

Hi everyone, I (25m) have been diagnosed with BPD for about 3 years. In retrospect, I've definitely seen the signs of me having it since I was a very young child. When I was diagnosed, I showed very heavy symptoms (pretty much all the expected symptoms except for self-harm). I did not think I would be able to ever conquer this diagnosis and get my life back on track. I quit school, couldn't hold a job, had many problems in relationship with my girlfriend, etc.

However, over the course of the past two years things have slowly gotten better. I adopted a mentality that this disorder explains my actions, but does not excuse them and that it's not fair to myself and others to not have my shit under control and lash out. The way I began to improve is by really deconstructing every emotional reaction I have to things throughout my day, whether it's a big argument or someone bumping into me on the sidewalk. I really evaluated what causes the reactions and if it's valid to act like this. Over time, it became easier and easier to manage my diagnosis and it became possible to build a consistency in my life and get things back on track.

Fast forward to today and I'm about to graduate with my bachelors degree, my relationship is amazing, and my therapist is almost ready to remove my diagnosis from me as I am mostly not meeting the criteria for having BPD anymore.

I just wanted to let everyone know that this is conquerable, but it takes a really hard look in the mirror and being able to admit your faults and work on addressing them.

I’m in my early 20s and I’m noticing a huge difference in my mood I’ve always been an extremely anxious person and later diagnosed with adhd. (Family history I’m adopted all I know is my mom had severe mental illness and couldn’t take care of us) recently for about a year I’ve developed an eating disorder extreme depressive episodes but then the next day I feel great (not like best day of my life but “normal” happy). Recently I’ve been consistently going through the cycle of extreme anxiety/depression/suicidal thoughts/ randomly angry and then back to normal. I’ve also just been feeling overall empty and sometimes I start dissociating or feeling like my adopted family don’t truly care for me like I’m a fake. My sister said that apparently out biomother developed whatever it is she had in her mid 20s however I’m told by others that she’s always been that way. What were signs you started to notice in the beginning.

I love my girlfriend very much. In a previous post I talked about how difficult it is to deal with her BPD as I have no experience. I’ve been working hard to show her how much I love and care about her but I’m struggling with 2 issues.

She says I don’t see her or listen to her. That she just wants someone to listen or for her to be seen. I feel like I do that for her. I have anxious attachment and ADD/ADHD. But I really really try hard to make sure I pay attention to everything she says. But lately when she has splits it’s always about her she doesn’t feel like I see her or listen.

I think I understand by what she means but I’m still lost in all this. I know how traumatic her past was. Which is why I try and indulge her in all the things she’s loves. I try to make sure she feels loved all the time. I even tell her I want to give her the love and happiness she deserves that she never got.

When she’s not splitting our days are basically perfect.

Anyways. I really want to understand things better but when I ask her questions she says “that’s what she means”.

So my question is, what does she mean by she wants to be seen or for someone to listen?

I don’t know whether this is healthy or not, but I’ve essentially come to realisation that I don’t want or need sexual validation at all. I am happily content being attractive and alone in that way. ~ a breakup and a lot of therapy and inner work led me to this (basically rather than spiral and go off the rails sleeping or talking to ppl I did opposite action and remained alone - still saw friends though )

Like im happy to be friends with people, but since gaining a lot more self-worth, I am so much more selective about who I even consider and that’s if I even consider someone because right now that’s off the table

Kind of feels good feels freeing like I don’t have to even worry your concern myself with that part of life anymore

Anyway, just a general update

I feel like I was doing this, but after a lot of disappointing dates and people being weird I just deleted them all the other day and feel like I’m having the worst crash ever. I try to continue productive stuff like gym and walks, but honestly when I’m off work I just endlessly swipe for hours. Now I have no idea what to do with myself lol

Hi everyone! I currently cosplay and do fursuit content. Recently I’ve been looking at two new suits that I really want. I was trying to delegate what I really want first and maybe after that I can get the second one.

But I’m having this almost painful need to spend money. I have enough to cover my current bills and I’m not in debt but I know they aren’t something I NEED at the moment even if my brain is screaming. How do you guys handle budgeting? Or spending less money? 🙃

right so this might come as a shocker but i’ve never been jealous of girls when it comes to my boyfriend and stuff or possessive, when things started out he wanted me to be but i said he doesn’t want me to be possessive bc it’s extreme (he said he wanted it anyway) but i said i can’t just force or act it it’ll just come, he’s very loyal and obsessed with me and affectionate and etc, doesn’t talk to any other girls or so i thought. he did communicate a long time ago about keeping this one girl cuz ‘oh she’s getting married’ ‘oh you know i helped her in her dark times’ some shit like that. even tho he also mentioned her being a bit of a shitty gf and reposting abt not liking her bf anymore but whatever i didn’t think much of it, well today he said he didn’t really have any woman friends except for me, but then said ‘Actually i still sometimes talk to (insert girls name) but shes like a sister and shes getting married’ and idk for some odd reason things just became tense for me ? like ugh i hate explaining these feelings but i got so irritated and angry out of nowhere and my heart feels like exploding and i felt like saying horrible things and being all possessive and just keeping him all to myself, it’s what he SAYS he wants but then how can he betray me and then go off and casually talk to a bitch like that. (sorry i went off there i don’t really mean that), it’s just even more of a struggle because we’ve known eachother since high school this girl included, he was popular and i was severely bullied and outcasted by EVERYBODY. trust me it was fucking bad ugh, i have extreme trust issues due to that and that girl was also ‘popular’ so i have my .. you know suspicions, i was very suspicious of my bf at first too but this is just me being insecure and im aware, he was also friends with like all the people who bullied the crap out of me in high school (he doesn’t support it) so idk js makes me feel even more meh, i dunno it just irks me but i have a feeling im being extremely over dramatic, either way what would they even talk about ??? like i said idk nobody had nice things to say about me in high school i doubt this popular girl would wanna listen about me. i just want some advice on how i can make this feeling go away and how to control this, im so tired of ruining our relationship because of this stupid illness it’s so shitty.

I‘m baffled at how little most people feel?? I think only bpd folks will ever get me and how it is to live with such heavy feelings. We’re truly sensitive souls. Hugs and lots of strength out to everyone 💕

I just ended my session with my therapist early because I was speaking to her about my depression and how I just lay down and sleep a lot because that’s what makes me feel okay. There were a lot of pauses during our appointment.

I told her I wasn’t interested in medication and then she read this document that had suggestions for serotonin boosters. I kind of got annoyed and dryly told her yes, she can send the document because wtf are any of those gonna do and you’re my therapist, what are these generic answers I can google?

Then we moved to CBT and I told her one thing and she was just being really unhelpful in my opinion. She mostly just reiterated what I said “Oh you feel like you’re not where you want to be in life? Oh yeah that’s really hard and makes us feel worse.” and that shit just made me feel terrible inside and I was crying. So I just told her this isn’t helping and I just want to stop and she asked if there’s anything she can do better. I was just done so I said no and then told her I was just gonna lay down and hung up.

Our last session I finally said out loud to someone, for the first time, that I was suicidal. I told her because I am feeling more afraid lately. I was crying for quite a while. She let me stay longer than my session but she also mentioned that she was staying and missing her lunch and that she would cancel her other appointments for the day and that OBVIOUSLY made me feel like shit so I left and then sat in my car. I don’t know how seriously she took me. And she didn’t report it which I kind of was hoping she was because I feel like I could use a good lock up. For the first two years, my sessions were free but when my college graduation started coming up she started at another office and asked about my insurance and stuff so I’ve paid for the last 9-10 months. Anyways I just feel like she doesn’t really care about me or feel like she can help me and is just keeping me as a client for money/as a case study. I’ve been seeing her for going on 3 years soon.

I co-chair a volunteer committee, by and for pwBPD, at a mental health nonprofit. The thing is, I’m rather far removed from my diagnosis and those early days at this point. So I desperately need to hear from people who are still in the thick of it.

I sometimes feel like I don’t know what this community needs, so I’m here to ask.

What would you want to see, have access to, participate in, etc? Hit me!

My boyfriend's (20m) family is very go-with-the-flow and is very non-committed to schedules that they set up, so when they say they will leave at 1pm, it's really going to be 4pm. I (20m) am someone who needs a schedule, so when my boyfriend and I make plans and we create a timestamp, I hold on to it. Changed plans can send me into a spiral. So when their poor scheduling affects our already planned activities, it does make me upset. I try hard to hide it because I'm not going to make him feel bad for things he can't control.

One day, my boyfriend and I had activities planned that night and the closer it got, the further his family's plans got pushed back. He was annoyed with it too. I said something along the lines of "they suck at schedulingggg" in a lighthearted tone, making a joke if anything, because even though it was making me anxious, I wasn't going to make a huge deal. But this sparked something in him to get really angry, and that was the most angry I had ever seen him. I had no ill intent towards his family, and in fact, I really do adore them. But he said that I insulted them and that he knows its true but that's not for me to say or something like that. he didn't speak to me for like a day I think and I thought he was going to break up with me. I had apologized for it of course. Not thinking that it was an insult myself, I didn't really understand his anger and it was a very upsetting event for me too, sending me into an episode. Everything was fine afterwards though and we haven't had any big fights until.. tonight?

A couple weeks ago he said his uncle and others were coming and we both understood that family being over meant we probably wouldn't be able to hang out, which is fine, cool. His relatives ended up not coming for some unknown reason, so we got to hang out. The next weekend they had planned it again and it fell through again. Tonight he said "oh yeah my uncle is actually coming tomorrow i think" and i was like "you think?" And he said "yeah and i think some others too" and i was like "oh my goddd the communication" because they don't even know who's coming and laughed, thinking he'd laugh and agree, not really connecting it with the previous argument of scheduling because it was a different word, and again I didn't think of it as an insult. Immediate blowup. I was confused, again. He said I always make him out to be the bad guy when I insult his family. He spoke of "always" as if this has happened multiple times. He said "you knew that I didn't like that from the previous argument we had" and I explained how I didn't connect the two at the time and again how I didn't understand why he was getting so mad about it and he said "am i not allowed to?" And i said yes but you didn't even try to talk to me first before yelling (according to him he wasn't yelling but it felt pretty loud and harsh to me). I apologized but I expressed how his reaction seemed out of line to me and then he did the quiet "right. Okay." Then he said i think we need to take a breather and he hung up (he never ever ever hangs up first).

I'm not a family oriented person, as I'm going no contact with my own asap, so I don't quite understand why he gets so mean and offended over it when he knows I seriously don't mean any harm and I'd never say it to them to insult them at all, nor do I intend it to be mean. He doesn't ever tell his family of our plans, so our plans always work around his family's "scheduling." He never sets boundaries with them when we have plans. If they pull him away and I get upset, he gets mad at me. For some reason, I feel like he wouldn't defend me the same way he defends them. I understand that family must mean a lot to him, but I need help understanding his reaction. Would anyone be able to give me some perspective or advice on how to fix this? Thank you guys. I've already been in a very bad episode the past couple days (medicine not working?) and I'm trying so hard not to slip.

Some extra information: we have known each other for a year, became official in March, and have been very serious together, planning our future. His family and I have met, we all like each other.

I know BPD can be quite de-habilitating often and it can make simple chores very difficult to deal with. Since the demographic here is predominantly adult- Do any of you get help?

If you’re students, work or just NEETS: Do you ask your mom/parents to do your dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking etc?

This is a no-jugement zone 🫶🏻 Simply trying to learn more about other people with BPD.