r/Dogfree • u/Dylan_tune_depot • 2d ago
Crappy Owners Confronting dog owners. Do you do it? How has it gone?
I usually do the mean glare (which they ignore) or move to another seat. But the few times I have tried it's gone nowhere. They argue about how their dog is friendly. I even lied and said I'm allergic once and the woman had the nerve to say but he's hypoallergenic. I deleted the post, but on the NYC sub I posted about how a dog started running after me in the park and when I totally flipped and told the woman to control her dog, she said, "it's okay- he's a poodle!" Are you kidding me??
I've heard worse stories- about dogs chasing kids in playgrounds that say no dogs allowed. I've seen dogs licking tables in restaurants- it's a nightmare. And it's like all the business owners and enforcement authorities are too chicken to say "no dogs allowed!"
Have you ever confronted a badly behaved dog owner (who are actually worse behaved than their dogs) and had it turn out well?
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u/Vibe2Summer 2d ago
I had casually just mentioned barking at night once, the individual retaliated and now lets their mutts bark until at least midnight, they no longer talk to me.
An entitled owner let her huge mutts come up to me to sniff me, I glared at her and she looked at me as though I was in the wrong, the creatures kept trying to sniff me and she did nothing about it.
If a human did this it would be S A and jail.
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u/Dylan_tune_depot 2d ago
If a human did this it would be S A and jail.
That might be a good thing to tell them!
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u/badgermushrooma 1d ago
I back away so it doesn't even get the chance to. It can sniff it's fellow dog's asses but not mine.
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u/Interesting-Arm-907 2d ago
In the previous house, I had a problem with some neighbours' dog and I tried going through the building management and it didn't work. They thought that having a dog in the balcony all day long, barking at anything that moves, is not a problem, as it's natural for dogs to bark and the dog had the right to see the exterior.
You know what worked? I threatened them with physical harm both to them and their dog. They called the police, but magically, the next day there was a black screen preventing the dog from seeing and therefore barking.
Currently, in my new house, I had the problem of neighbours letting their dogs out in the patio and bark at different points during the night. I had to call the police 3 times. They still bark a handful of times depending on the night. I've been recording the outdoor noise all this time, so the next move is a lawyer. I don't want to talk to the neighbour because I know that I will not be polite at all. As we say in Spanish, it's obvious that taking the nice approach doesn't work.
I also remember one time not long ago, I was jogging with a friend on the beach, and I saw a man letting his dog pee on the sand. I yelled at nobody in particular "what a disgusting thing to do, letting your dog pee here". My friend told me that he would have also let his dog do the same... WTF? I, as a human, will get fined for peeing outside, and a dog can pee on a surface that is very difficult to clean and could be touched directly by other human beings? Am I the only sane person here?
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u/Professional_Hour445 2d ago
I had a similar experience with management. They told me that barking is what dogs do, and if I didn't like it, I could move to a property that was not pet-friendly. Moreover, they threatened to not renew my lease because I did complain about the barking, even though it was a clear violation of the "quiet enjoyment" clause that is implied in every lease, even when it's not explicitly stated.
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u/Havingfun922 2d ago
I can hear them replying “But dog pee is sterile!”
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u/badgermushrooma 1d ago
So sterile that it eats up the coating and the erodes the metal of pokes, street lamps etc. Yes, sterile does not mean not acidic but yeah, it's not good for sure.
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u/Emergency_Exit_4714 2d ago
My neighbor was letting their dog crap repeatedly in my yard without cleaning it up (to be fair, even "cleaning" wouldn't have made it ok). Initially, I blew the turds back over with a hose. Had no effect. Last time, I got a bag, picked up the steaming pile, beat on my neighbor's door until they timidly answered, and then put the hot bag directly in their hands. Said that what they were doing was vile and that I'd keep escalating as necessary. They haven't spoken to me since, there's been no more crap, and I think they're quietly getting ready to move.
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u/DangGigi 2d ago
I once told a woman with 2 huge barking assholes to "control your dogs bitch". She just rolled her eyes and ignored me. Other times, they just give me that blank stare or start talking shit. I've also left a few notes in the past. They've worked.
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u/Dylan_tune_depot 2d ago
See, the problem is the owners who are like this are basically using their dogs to be bullies. And telling bullies to stop bullying is like talking to brick walls.
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u/Huge_Bit_4774 1d ago
Dog owners are overwhelmingly shit people. When confronted with their bad behavior they first lie, and then turn angry if you have proof. I’ve had three circumstances where I confronted neighbors about bringing their dogs into my yard to crap and piss. Each time I had it on camera. Each time they denied it then started yelling and cursing when I said it was on camera.
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u/One_Path_7154 1d ago
Same. I have had many instances of this where they lie and act like it wasn’t their dog. When I tell them my security cameras have their dogs on video in the act, they sputter obscenities and stomp off all indignant. They are just disgusting people.
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u/ObligationGrand8037 2d ago
I have confronted dog owners. I’ve mentioned it in the group before. I was in my house, and I saw some guy letting his dog poop on the street.
I ran out with a bag as he was walking away and I said, “Excuse me, do you need a bag to pick up after your dog?” He then said it was on the side of the road, and it didn’t matter. I explained to him that car tires can still pick it up and so can bicycles.
He preceded to tell me to fuck off and then he started to flip me off. I then said, “Oh so you’re one of those dog owners that never picks up after your dog?” He then continued to berate me as he was walking away swearing at me and flipping me off.
I should not have gone to his level, but I told him to F off too and flipped him off. I told him what a jerk he was. I never saw the guy again, but I did pick up his dog’s poop that day.
Another time I ran out with a bag and handed it to a young man who walked away leaving his dog poop in my flowerbed. He apologized and cleaned it up.
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u/SeaworthinessUnlucky 2d ago
“I guess you didn’t see the sign out front that says no pets in the store.” “I have a card!” Shows me her debit card.
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u/TurboGrafx16Bit 1d ago
I've confronted 2 dog nutters in a grocery store the dogs weren't misbehaving but it was the fact they're in a grocery store. Thing is both people was older I'm going to say 70s it's like what happened to the older generation is supposed to be wiser? Something happened the first one was an older man he had the dog up in the shopping cart I informed him they're not supposed to be up in the cart, people put their food there. I actually got a hold of a manager and he surprisingly did something about it he told the gentleman the dogs can't be in the cart like that. Plus it wasn't a service animal to begin with. The second time was a lady she was also in her seventies I'm going to say she was carrying the dog like a baby. I told her I missed the days when people had common sense to leave their dogs at home and not bring them in the grocery store. She's like oh you don't like dogs. I was like this is a grocery store they don't belong here you know food safety and all that stuff it's not sanitary. She just looked at me and said sorry. I said sorrys ass! just leave your dog at home
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u/YOURFRIEND2010 1d ago
One time I was walking in a nice neighborhood and this lady had two shitty little dogs sitting on the sidewalk unleashed. They came up on me and started barking and screaming, whatever. She started with the whole they're harmless speech and I cut her off and told her to leash her fucken dogs, it's dangerous for them to be roaming like that. Her attitude immediately switched and she asked me where my leash was (lol) and I just brushed her off and went on. She did take them inside though.
It annoys me because they claim to love these animals more than life itself but you have them next to a road they can get run over on? Interacting with strangers? Getting mauled by a larger also unleashed dog? I don't like your animals, don't want to see them or interact with them. They're gross. But I also don't bear them any ill will and I don't ever want to see them get hurt. Just be a responsible pet owner and keep the things inside.
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u/CafeSombreSansSucre 1d ago
When you try to confront them, there's a significant chance that your dialogue will be parasite by dozens of barks from the completely useless toy (apart from destroying the planet with its devilish feces, of course). A series of ridiculous, abnormally high-pitched barks that absolutely no natural animal is capable of making.
The owners, almost as useless as their toy, know this, and it suits them well because the barks help drown out the sound of the truth they hate. They've gotten along just fine with their filthy, stinking monster, who only thinks about eating all day long from birth until his last breath.These two are a good match.
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u/jjmaffb 2d ago
I'm extremely afraid of dogs because when I was little (surprise) I was bitten and chased several times by dogs that were off-leash.
I've tried to act like a normal person and politely ask people to leash their dogs. But with the exponential increase in the number of dogs, especially during the pandemic, I've stopped with the pleasantries. I tell people directly, "Please control your animal." If the owners say their dog is harmless, I say, "Yeah, but dogs don't like me, and if he bites me, he's the one who'll be put down." This approach doesn't always work, but it works more often than being polite.