Re-contacting someone you knew after 6 months of them dealing with cancer?

[u/Repulsive_Pie1723]

First of all I cant imagine what someone with cancer goes through. I was (sort of) dating this girl that got cancer at the start of the year and she understandably dealt with it so well - and it was so hard to hear her suffering and I do often still think about it her and care about her ofcourse.

We’d been seeing eachother for about 6 months. She did have a daughter which I completely respected her time and schedule and needs to ofcourse.

Obviously the cancer diagnosis changed everything and her life was completely altered around Christmas time. I tried being there for her with phone calls but what I thought did happen, in that she wanted to make her family and health more of a priority and I completely understood that.

I used to hear from her very regularly and she said at the time she’d let me know how she was doing.

I haven’t heard from her from 6 months and the last she said the treatment wasn’t going so well.

She just happened to pop up on my recommended friends list on Facebook and a fairly new picture of her was up in which she looked healthy in which I was so happy to see.

I know I shouldn’t just assume she’s doing well again and I think I should assume the no contact means she doesn’t want to be disturbed and is still trying to get on with her life.

Would it be wise to just leave things as they are, and if any contact is made at all still wait for her to initiate it?

[u/emslo]

I think it doesn’t hurt to send a short “just want to let you know you’re on my mind, and hope you’re well” message. Not to invite or expect response, just to check in. I’ve had a few people do that, and I appreciated it. Cancer can be very lonely. 

[u/Repulsive_Pie1723 → u/emslo]

Thank you, I really appreciate the advice 👍