I see people all over on Grindr and sniffies when I’m flying. Are they actually fucking?💀

Ah the adventures in dating apps, I talk to more obvious car phishers then anything else.

I (M40) feel like sex has been affected by porn in a way that possibly can't be undone. It seems like everyone is emulating porn sex they see online and no one cares to get to know each other (for real). I mean, no judgment if that is what you are into, but not everyone is - at least not all the time.

Are many people still experiencing intimacy and romance or is this the new normal?

I gained a lot of weight during Covid, and developed some gnarly stretch marks (mostly on my belly and some on my sides). I’ve since lost most of the weight, but they’re still obvious. I can easily see them, and feel the difference in my skin texture. If I sit or move in a way that compresses my belly, the stretch marks show a bunch of tight horizontal little wrinkles because the scar tissue is less elastic. I have some belly hair that can make it slightly less noticeable, but my body hair is more blonde so it doesn’t really cover it up.

It feels like there are semaphore signals pointing directly towards where I stored all of those pizzas. I don’t even care about stretch marks on other guys, but I feel terribly self-conscious about my own. So I guess I’m asking - how much do others notice or care?

I am curious to know if you have or feel belong to a community? what is a community for you? LGBT+ group usually considered a community itself or at least categorized commercially but i m yet to meet or find a community where i feel belong .

I dream of living in a village where I know almost everyone and can be part of a group in day to day life without being judged or have to identify myself.

what about you?

I guess this is just a venting session, but I’m just feeling exhausted and feel like everything in my life has fallen apart, some my fault, some outside my control. I’m just sad all the time.

For starters, I got out of a relationship with a guy who I really saw a future with. It’s really my first heartbreak, and I’m not coping well. It was circumstances that drove us apart, and if it were my choice, we’d still be together.

Second, I just graduated with a master’s and am reaching month four of my job hunt. I’ve applied to countless jobs, spend time on each and every one of them, only to have gotten two interviews. It just sucks. It’s really shot my confidence. Before this I was a pretty independent and confident person, but now I’m just an anxiety ridden mess.

Third, I have been forced to move in with my parents. It’s not the world’s worst thing to happen, but I’ve been independent for seven years and having to move back just limits so much for me as well. It’s just a loss of freedom.

I’m aware my problems aren’t the biggest in the world, I’ve actually had to deal with worse in my own life. I just think everything happening all at once is contributing to this feeling as well. I dunno, I just feel embarrassed and feel like a loser. And yes, I am going back to therapy. Just needed to say something I guess and am curious if anyone else is having similar feelings.

I’m (M24) and after 6 months of really hard work, I secured a new position and got my residency permit in Germany. I’ve been wanting to get back into dating for a long time but had to prioritize things.

I am interested in pursuing a LTR and being intentional about who I meet/swipe on. Looking back, I’ve downloaded the apps and just taken things casually as they come my way with no real plan and it mostly involved sex but I’d like to see what happens if I am intentional. I also really really wanna grow through these experiences, meet new people, and learn more about myself (as well as them of course).

Meeting the right person is still purely luck based but do you think I have a chance to meet a guy who’s interested in something more serious at my age? Is my dating method alright at this current time?

I'd like to get some candid feedback on what people think about my situation from a dating perspective.

I'm currently living with my ex-husband in a house rental in a HCOL city. We're close, as friends and family, but not sexual, romantic or affectionate beyond what you would expect with a family member. We live in separate rooms in a decently large house. We divorced about a year ago. Nothing scandalous, just the realization that we were meant to be close friends and not romantic. We have an elderly dog who lives with us, as well.

So far, regarding FWB or occasional hookups there's no issue at all. We introduce as roommates/friends to new people and if we warm up, tell them a little more history. It hasn't been a problem so far.

Recently, we have both been asked out a couple times for dates and are considering it soon. So I'm curious, assuming all other things are 'good' how difficult would this situation be for you to handle if you encountered someone like me? Would it be a major red flag for you, for example?

I’m not looking for advice just need to vent. Whether it's platonic or romantic I can never make or keep a relationship. I always get blocked on apps when I show my face and irl people reject, avoid forget and leave me out of things in general. I've tried so hard to improve myself and "put myself out there" but the result is always the same, I end up in my room every weekend doing nothing but sulking.

Making and keeping friends is impossible for me. I've tried consistently for years and nothing ever works. Everytime I see groups of friends or couples together I get sad because it's a reminder of how lonely I am and something I'll never have.

After all these years of trying I get the message now that I'm truly unwanted. Not looking for advice just need to put it out there.

I’ve been thinking of coming out to my parents for a bit and most of my close friends know and I want to be more open in my life but I’d rather have my parents know before hand. I mean first of all I’m in my high school sophomore year but I’m ranting, any ways or advice of what to do or if I even should come out to them

Storytime, I'm 25M and he's a 35M, so not so much of a age difference I'd say considering the age dynamics in our community. For background we started chatting from Grindr beginning of the year, the conversation was following we clicked and decided to move the chats to WhatsApp. We had been chatting on WhatsApp on and off since then, he's mixed just like me, he stays with his ex boyfriend currently and his home situation is complicated.

Context, he told me he was in a relationship with his ex for over ten or so years and they broke up, he's been having financial problems so he's ex basically supports him and they live together in separate rooms, they are friendly but aren't intimate. Definitely a complicated situation, but I understood it's hard out here especially when you're trying to get a job and there aren't any. I sympathised and kept the chats going.

Firstly, the day before we met up, I just reconfirm his home situation with him, and the status of his relationship with his ex, how much time we would have etc just to make sure what I'm getting myself into and that nothing has changed. Fine he messages me back the same responses, nothings changed but he seems frustrated and annoyed. Fast forward to today, I had an impromptu request from my neighbour to help move some stuff so I let the guy know if we could meet just a little bit later then we planned, which I ended up finishing earlier (basically the time we were supposed to meet)

He took over an hour and half to reply to me, and then another 30+min to drive to me so we could go back to his place. The whole way I was being considerate and asking him questions about his life, just getting to know him better, just your basics(not once did he ask me anything, or try and get to know me but I let it slide that maybe his nervous about meeting for the first time). As soon as we get to his place his Ex messaged that he's done with work and on his way home, he told me his ex was working this weekend so I automatically assumed we'd have the day together, I asked as much in passing, he tells me 'if you think I'm lying look at the text'. The whole time he talks about himself, his work, his life, his history and I just ask some questions in-between some responses show him I'm listening and paying attention.

He then shades me and tells me he doesn't like repeating himself and was annoyed I asked him again the night before about his home situation, that when he says something once I should believe it, fine fair point. That he likes a guy that pays attention and listens to him, and he doesn't like stupid pointless questions basically. He's tired of being taken advantage and he knows what he wants and is very confrontational about it, implying how I should have made a plan to meet earlier so we had more time since he's ex was coming back. When I asked about work because he was self employed for a while, he basically talks down to me like he's explaining to a child about his job, about how hard he works and how much he did, implying I couldn't relate because of how hard he's had it. Yet he never once asked want I did for a living, my personal life or basically anything about myself. The whole way back to my place it was the same thing, just him talking about his life, just a few responses from me asking about it.

Is it the age gap that's the problem here, because I really hate being talked down to or treated like I'm a child especially someone who doesn't even know me, or the fact that he never asked anything about me, in real life or in our conversations/chats. I'm getting red flags all around from him. What do you guys think about this interaction ?

Today I met a person that told me that "I should just try women" and I've been told before by a family member "how do you know you don't like women if you've never been with one"

I'm just curious have any of you gotten this comeback from people before I feel like it might have been more popular back in the day but I just got it today by a person that's 32.

So I’ve been looking for someone to spend my life with but at the same time, I am not your typical gay man l. I’ve never used bro but I kinda get that it replaces my use of dude. That’s not a bad thing but what is your concept is bro? I think typically it’s someone like a brother. Some people like me are looking for a bro that they can chill and just be themselves with. Of something happens, wow, cool! Hit me up you thick similarly.

The gay was too stunned to speak

Just a short post, im only 22 and been out since I was 15, ive only ever been on the apps since last year and I’m an extreme introvert so I tried pushing my self out there and went to a gay bar by my self to feel the vibe, felt very welcoming and everything. Went again the 2nd night everyone was nice, talking to each other, I was just sitting because I got scared to walk up to people.

As I left the bar a random person just calls me a “fucking freak.” Idky it hurt so much but that just brought my mood down so much. I know it shouldn’t affect me and everything but it just did and Idk what to feel / think right now.

Circuit parties, leather parties and other underground rave parties, i have always gone with friends, or at least one with me. He would be wondering off himself and i in some way are still alone and sometimes we run into each other on the dance floor and dance together for a bit. I don't feel self conscious this way.

Lately, i have tried going to one or two parties by myself. Some have play room , some are just pure dancing. I just loved music and getting hi dancing the night away. Sometimes there would be guys approaching, most of the nights not.

What do you think when you see someone being by themselves? Do you think " oh, thats sad" or "oh he looks desperate"? I just always struggle to go alone when none of my friends are available or interested, i think being Asian makes me feel very self conscious when its a sea of non Asian guys.

What do y'all think?

I’m a bigger dude, 5’10” 250 lbs, and i want to buy a pair of MCE swim briefs, but my waist is generally between a 38”-40” which puts me directly between their L (36”-38”) and XL (40”-44”). Do any bigger guys have any experience with this brand and can recommend which size to go with based on fit? I reached out via email but have gotten no response back and their briefs are non refundable so I don’t want to take the leap without more info.

Usually it’s the man that complements the woman all the time and does all the flirting. I gotta say I kind of like it lol not having to be the one to make the first approach is pretty freeing and getting compliment each other back is great to.

Any gay movie about a married man falling in love with a gay guy? Somethibg slowburn and bittersweet would be nice.