Imagine that the technology to remove and implant memories exists, you’re just not aware of it. The memories of the life you’ve lived were removed last night and replaced with the memories of a different life. A worse life. You were placed in this position from wherever you were before. Your acquaintances that could be bought, were. And those people who really care about you had their memories modified too, so they couldn’t tell you who you really are. What you had was taken from you, but there’s nothing stopping you from rebuilding from here. You were given memories of wasting away your days. This was in the hope that you would believe that you were the sort of person who squanders their time, and begin squandering it for real. Because if you can be made to truly believe that’s who you are, that’s who you will be. Don’t be fooled. Be true to the person you really are, and get started.

The important thing to realize is that this hypothetical doesn’t change anything. The person you were yesterday doesn’t need to affect the person you are today. It is only the vehicle that brought you here. Other people’s expectations don’t shape who you are. There is nothing stopping you from doing the thing you really want to do.

Took the bike out today, and of course, Daisy was right there with me. She's got her little spot on the back, just chillin' like she owns the place.

We cruised through the neighborhood, hit a few quiet streets, and just let the world do its thing. Nothing crazy, but honestly, that’s the point. No deadlines, no traffic, no rush. Just me and the pup, enjoying the ride.

Days like this remind me what it's all about. Living simple, soaking up the little moments, and not sweating the small stuff. Honestly, who needs a car when you've got this kind of freedom?

It's the kind of day I want more of.

I was a kid with an unstable home, i got into relationships that were toxic and pulled me in depression. Its been an year now, i did a lot of mistakes and learnt from them. I teach myself discipline and motivation. No one pushed me to become the best person i can be, no one told me to stop crying and wining, no one told me to work on my goals, its all me. I did it by myself and i am so proud of it. I did mistakes on the way but i forgive myself for those and just try to move on

Hey everyone,

I wanted to share a simple trick that completely changed how I study and learn new skills. It wasn't something I was taught; the idea just suddenly came to me few days back. The key is to take a short break before you start feeling bored or mentally tired - not after a fixed amount of time.

I know a few of you might already be aware of this concept, but honestly ask yourself: are you truly applying it? If you are, well and good! But if not, please continue reading. Consistently stopping before exhaustion is a game-changer for your focus and retention.

Why it works: Your brain craves novelty. When you stop while you're still curious and engaged, your subconscious keeps working on the material, and you actually want to return to it. It’s like ending a TV episode on a cliffhanger. If you push until you're fully bored, your brain links the task with fatigue. But if you stop at the first sign of that "good frustration" the slightest struggle that makes you want to solve a problem, you harness that energy to stay on a curious path.

How to know when to stop (look for these cues):

• You have to re-read the same sentence three times.
• Your mind starts to wander to what's for dinner or other random things.
• You feel your interest starting to dip (you're not fully bored, but the excitement is fading).
• You get fidgety or find yourself yawning.

How to actually do it:

1. Listen to your body, not just the timer. A 25-minute work sprint is a great guideline, but if you feel those cues at 20 minutes, stop anyway.
2. Pause at a "cliffhanger." intentionally stop in the middle of an interesting paragraph, a solved problem, or a new concept. It makes picking it back up feel effortless.
3. Take a real break. Get up. Walk around, stretch, get some water. Avoid your phone, mindless scrolling often turns a 5-minute break into 20.
4. Just try it today. See if stopping early makes it drastically easier to return to your work later.

It’s all about working with your brain's natural rhythm, not against it.

I'd also highly welcome your insights! What’s your unique way of staying focused or getting back on track? Everyone’s brain works differently, so please share your own methods in the comments.

This was a personal revelation for me, and I simply wanted to share it. If this post helps even one person, I'll be happy. In a world full of distractions, so many of us are fighting the same battle to focus. Maybe this small change is how we start winning.

Thanks for reading, and all the best with your goals moving forward.

Most of us aren’t really living, we’re just wasting time.
We tell ourselves we’ll start tomorrow.
We drown in comfort.
We numb ourselves with noise.

The Stoics warned us about this. They weren’t just philosophers, they were people fighting against the same weaknesses we face today. Seneca put it brutally: “It’s not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.”

Lately I’ve been asking myself: how much of my time is really lived, and how much is just wasted?
The 4 Stoic rules that keep coming back to me are:

1. Remember you’re dying (Memento Mori)
2. Choose pain over comfort
3. Stop lying to yourself
4. Do the work in silence

For me, comfort as a slow poison is the hardest truth. It’s so easy to slip into scrolling, eating, or procrastinating and call it “rest.” But it’s not rest. It’s wasting life.

What about you? Which of these rules feels most urgent in today’s world, and why?

If you would like to read my series, it's on webtoon! I'll leave you the link in the comments!

I’ve been grinding away at small goals daily. Honestly felt like nothing was changing. Then I stumbled on a photo of myself from last year and realized how far I’ve come.

If you’re feeling stuck: keep going. You don’t notice progress in the moment, but it adds up.

I've been dealing with depression for over a year now. Every day has felt like a battle. The meds they put me on? They just made it worse - nausea, stomach pain, feeling numb, you name it.

I was looking for anything to help, trying to break the cycle. And then, about a month ago, I took a ride on my Puckipuppy ebike. It's just a simple bike, but it helped me feel something.

While riding, I found a little dog who had been abandoned. Felt like fate, honestly. I'm not saying the bike "fixed" me, but it gave me the space I needed to clear my head, and that little pup? She's been my rock since.

I'm not 100% better, but I've been feeling more joy than I've had in months. And that's something.

I want to try the dating apps and meet people in LA . Many of my friends in Texas told me that people in LA are very vapid and shallow , and mostly are very thin compared to Texas . They told me I am a 4 and only people 8 and above would fit for dating in LA . As LA is beauty-capital-of-America, I was wondering what should I do to get a date and meet people in LA . I mean , which part of my body should I tighten up (chest , legs , arms , biceps ) or should I get a six pack to consider LA for dating ? Almost 90% of my friends over here told me LA is for handsome people and the nutritional quality in their food is higher than usual due to the demand for Hollywood. Some say that their seafood is imported directly from the less toxic sea waters of the world .

I may also just want to meet guys for friends in LA but I was warned that even guys have their standards for making friends over there :/

p/s : I am a guy

Procrastination is basically me arguing with myself . The trick that’s actually been working lately? I tell myself I only have to do 5 minutes of the task. Somehow, once I start, my brain forgets to quit.

Anyone else have tiny, dumb tricks that trick your brain into action? Share them I need more ammo against future me 😂 😂

Last week I was ready to call it a day i felt like I was wasting my time and almost walked away but I pushed a little longer and that tiny bit of effort completely changed the outcome. It taught me that breakthroughs don’t always need massive effort. Sometimes it’s just about staying in the game long enough for things to turn.

Because staying simple or acting in a simple, easy way is not that simple as it may seem apparently. Or we just do not understand things well enough ourselves to be able to communicate them clearly. And we think that if we provide detailed, complicated and definitely unclear explanations, we just seem smart to the others. And we already know how important is for us to be validated by others ...

I’ll be real. One of the hardest wake up calls for me was joining a sorority in my university years. I thought it would give me instant community and belonging, but my experience left a lot to be desired. I tried to get involved, but the cliques were brutal. I’d show up at events and stand alone, and people would act like I wasn’t even there. When my Big graduated, I worked so hard to keep our family line alive, but it fell apart anyway. Others dropped or just complained nonstop about how much they hated being in the house. cared so much about our chapter’s values, and I wanted to make it work, but it felt like no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t fix it. Years after graduating college, I still think about it sometimes. That was kind of my whole pattern in life though. Always trying to keep people together, smooth things over, be the “nice girl” who never asks for too much. But the truth? People pleasing is never regarded as kindness. It’s just fear in disguise. I wasn’t being real with anyone, including myself. For most of my life, I thought being agreeable was the secret to connection. I’d say “no worries” when I was clearly hurt. I’d stay quiet so I wouldn’t rock the boat. I thought if I gave enough, one day people would choose me. But instead, I was not seen. The shift came slowly. I started saying what I meant, without sugarcoating. If I liked someone, I told them. If something bothered me, I said it instead of swallowing it. I stopped bending myself into shapes just to be liked. I know that being kind is important, but being a pushover isn’t. And funny enough, when I stopped chasing approval and caring so much about what other people think, people started respecting me more. Shyness and anxiety were their own cage. Since my teenage years, I had that “spotlight syndrome” where I thought everyone was watching and judging me. In reality, most people only have so much energy to worry about themselves. Once I stopped labeling myself as shy, things shifted. I practiced talking to strangers, even if it felt awkward at first. Clerks, baristas, random people at the park. Little by little, my brain stopped firing panic alarms. I also started caring about how I dressed. Not for others, but because when you take yourself seriously, you carry yourself differently. Books were an important part in helping me with everything. The one book that really hit was No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. It felt like he was describing my entire personality and made me question every people-pleasing habit I had. Then I also read The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga, and that’s one of my favorites. It’s written like a conversation and basically forces you to accept that living for approval will ruin you, which was exactly what I needed to hear. And I also want to mention How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie (kinda cliche but still deserves the hype). I used to roll my eyes at it, but once I actually read it, I realized why it’s still a classic, it’s all about connecting in a way that feels real instead of fake. I also replaced doomscrolling with podcasts that actually fed my brain. The one I kept coming back to was The Diary of a CEO by Steven Bartlett. I’d throw it on during walks or commutes, and his interviews with psychologists and thinkers dug so deep into identity and resilience that it felt like free therapy. It made me question the way I was living and gave me language for stuff I’d been feeling but couldn’t explain. And then there’s tech. My mentor at work showed me this app called BeFreed. At first I didn’t care too much, thought it was just like another book summary app. But it’s actually what helped me get through the books that changed me and, more importantly, remember what I read. Beyond the ones I already mentioned, I’ve gone through some of the big popular titles on this app too, like Atomic Habits, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daring Greatly, and The Power of Now. What I love most is being able to customize the narrator’s voice, and makes the whole experience feel personal. I always finish those learning sessions feeling calmer, and over time, I realized reading more consistently has helped me deal with the uncertainty I used to carry around. What I learned is that confidence isn’t something you wake up with one day. It’s a habit. It’s built every time you choose honesty over approval. Today I refuse to be the girl standing alone at sorority events anymore. I’m someone who respects myself enough to say no, to speak up, and to live honestly. Sharing my experience here and I’m also curious what people in this sub think, can you ever fully unlearn being a people pleaser, or does it always stick with you in some way?