r/GriefSupport • u/CreepySatisfaction8 • 4d ago

Pet Loss Lost my sweet boy yesterday

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I’m joining grief groups to help me cope with the pain of losing my 4 year old baby boy yesterday, his death was sudden and unexpected and grief feels unbearable at this moment, really wishing I left with him because life without him seems impossible, my mom died on November 2022 and he really helped me cope with my grief, I had just started to feel better and now he is gone, I really wish this was just a nightmare, when I look towards the future, it seems so painful, unbearable, having to wake up without him.

I know many people will think he is just a cat, but he was the sweetest and most loving cat, a one of a kind cat, I loved him and there was and never will be anyone like him

If you can share any advice on how to cope I’d very much appreciate it

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u/jp7755qod 4d ago

I am so sorry❤️ I have a soul kitty of my own, and my heart is breaking for you and your special boy. I don’t have much advice, but I just wanted you to know that I hear you, and that you are not alone❤️

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u/CreepySatisfaction8 4d ago

Thank you so much for your kind words 🥲 sending a virtual hug!

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u/rjml29 4d ago

As someone that has lost 3 dogs between 2007 and 2020 that I loved so much, I know our boys and girls are not just dogs and cats but our children. I have the utmost sympathy for your loss of your sweet baby boy, especially given how much he helped you with your mom's passing, another loss I have sympathy for.

As for advice on how to cope, all I can say is to always let out the emotion when it is there and I truly do think in time things do get easier. The sadness never goes away (I still even miss my girl that died in 2007) but it does get easier. I wouldn't be able to look at pictures or videos of my two boys that died in '19 & '20 (10 months between them) without crying during the first year or so but now I can watch videos and smile at how awesome they were. I also have urns with their ashes in my room and I give each of them a hand kiss goodnight before bed. Makes me feel like my boys are somewhat still there with me.

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u/CreepySatisfaction8 3d ago

Thanks so much for your kind advice and sharing your experience. I’m also very sorry for your loss, I know this kind of pain never really goes away but just gets a little easier. I will be getting his ashes this week and plan on talking to him often! Sending you a big hug