Don’t want to attend my JUSTNOMIL’s bday celebration this October!

[u/Comfortable-Hair1277]

So…I really just don’t want to attend my MIL’s bday celebration dinner that we have for her pretty much every single year. I want to skip it this year, and I have valid reasons for wanting to skip it…

1) she’s been cold and distant to me; i have tried with her in the past to just be met with her turning around and either talking crap about me to other family members (I.e. my sister in law) or her just doing subtle rude things to me that my SO can’t always detect or understand. She has caused so much drama in the past and I’m just sick of her. It’s to the point I don’t have her around my toddler cuz of how shitty she’s been towards me…she’s changed but not enough imo.

2) there was a recent petty thing she did which was crop me out of one of my family pics of me, my daughter and my husband…😒 that just is not nice or ok.

3) the woman is really hard to be around for even 2 hours. I simply want peace and going to her bday celebration means she is going to try to monopolize my child and cross my boundaries AGAIN, be an underhanded jerk most likely, cuz when is she not?

Just to reiterate to drive my point home: I really just want peace. And life is short. I don’t feel like going and celebrating someone who doesn’t treat me great. Why should I?

Anyway,I really appreciate in advance anyone who has read my post and wants to help!😊 Please lmk how I can possibly just get out of this situation without causing too big a rift between me and my SO…😬😅

[u/Stock-Mountain-6063]

Just be an adult and tell her you're not going. No is finance or for anything. Where does your husband stand with this?