Tired of this lady

[u/Strange-Report-9249]

Hey yall! I’m new to the sub, but gotta vent about my MIL.

This is something she did a while ago, but just shows how she is.

I was 8 weeks pregnant at the time and we had just announced the pregnancy to my husband’s parents. Everyone was super excited we are all sitting in the living room chatting it up, just a good time. This woman looks me dead in my face before turning to my husband and says “I know everyone always asks about the woman, but how are you doing during this?” Let me remind yall again that I was only 8 weeks at that point (no huge issues or anything, just lack of appetite and cramping), barely pregnant. WTF could he have possibly be going through at that point in MY pregnancy?!

My husband answered beautifully by saying, “well, Alex and our baby are doing good, so I’m doing good.” He even thought it was rude for her to ask something like that during our announcement. He feels that’s something she should’ve asked him when they were alone.

This is not the first time she’s done stuff like this. Absolutely any time she feels that there’s too much attention on me she will turn the attention to literally anyone else. Another example of this is we were all on the boat in the lake. Everyone got to drive the boat. During my turn to drive my FIL and my husband said to me “you’re really good at driving the boat” and she makes it a point to say “well, everyone did good at driving the boat.” Like what was even the point of that?

Mind you, this lady has two sons, but my husband is her oldest and her favorite. She has no issue with her youngest son’s gf. She just doesn’t like attention on me.

I don’t need advice or anything because my husband has handled it. He has let her know if she can’t respect me then she won’t have access to her grandchild. She hasn’t been much of an issue since he had that conversation with her.

[u/DazzlingPotion]

The thing is you may not want visitors on the second day once you get there because you don’t know how the birthing process will go and how you’re going to feel afterwards. 

Because if that, I suggest you may want to change it to, “We’re going to play it by ear and let you know if we’re up to having visitors at the hospital”.  Or something to that effect. 

[u/Strange-Report-9249 → u/DazzlingPotion]

You’re right. I’ve said that to my husband as well that it all depends on how I’m doing if I’m going to allow folks at the hospital. My mother will be there regardless because she’s my second support person, but everyone else is on case by case basis. I should say that I’m planning to allow folks to come on the second day, but it all depends.

[u/DazzlingPotion → u/Strange-Report-9249]

Right because if you say second day for sure then change your mind people will say, “but you promised…”. 

I had unexpected visitors come in when I was in my pajamas, feeling and looking awful. It was awkward and uncomfortable. It also seems like people have no concept of how long they’re visiting when they just want to grab your baby so it’s nice to have someone who will help set visiting time limits. 

[u/Strange-Report-9249 → u/DazzlingPotion]

Oh, idc if I said I promised or not. I’m quick to change plans if I’m no longer comfortable lol