Tired of this lady

[u/Strange-Report-9249]

Hey yall! I’m new to the sub, but gotta vent about my MIL.

This is something she did a while ago, but just shows how she is.

I was 8 weeks pregnant at the time and we had just announced the pregnancy to my husband’s parents. Everyone was super excited we are all sitting in the living room chatting it up, just a good time. This woman looks me dead in my face before turning to my husband and says “I know everyone always asks about the woman, but how are you doing during this?” Let me remind yall again that I was only 8 weeks at that point (no huge issues or anything, just lack of appetite and cramping), barely pregnant. WTF could he have possibly be going through at that point in MY pregnancy?!

My husband answered beautifully by saying, “well, Alex and our baby are doing good, so I’m doing good.” He even thought it was rude for her to ask something like that during our announcement. He feels that’s something she should’ve asked him when they were alone.

This is not the first time she’s done stuff like this. Absolutely any time she feels that there’s too much attention on me she will turn the attention to literally anyone else. Another example of this is we were all on the boat in the lake. Everyone got to drive the boat. During my turn to drive my FIL and my husband said to me “you’re really good at driving the boat” and she makes it a point to say “well, everyone did good at driving the boat.” Like what was even the point of that?

Mind you, this lady has two sons, but my husband is her oldest and her favorite. She has no issue with her youngest son’s gf. She just doesn’t like attention on me.

I don’t need advice or anything because my husband has handled it. He has let her know if she can’t respect me then she won’t have access to her grandchild. She hasn’t been much of an issue since he had that conversation with her.

[u/Ok_Fishing394]

OP in active labour, baby mere seconds away....MIL "so, how's the dog taking the pregnancy"?
Not to cast aspersions on folks "on the spectrum" but, has she been tested for anything? Her ability to read the room registers as functionally illiterate.

[u/Strange-Report-9249 → u/Ok_Fishing394]

At first I gave her the benefit of possibility being on the spectrum because I am, so I understand not always getting social cues, but then I noticed she seemed to only lack those social skills with me

[u/Ok_Fishing394 → u/Strange-Report-9249]

Ah, then that narrows it down to her being jealous of or threatened by you.