r/JUSTNOMIL • u/DoodlePops22 • 2d ago

Advice Wanted Children's Book Recommendations for Narcissistic Grandparents

And when I say "narcissistic", I don't mean it as a medical diagnosis. I mean it in the sense of extreme entitlement, delusions of being worthy of special treatment for no reason, lack of regard for the feelings and rights of others, lack of remorse, and hostility whenever confronted.

We are low-contact with JNMIL. LO is 3 years old. We already got a book about body boundaries, but I want books on all facets of narc behavior. I'm only learning myself in therapy and adult books. I was basically raised to be a low self-esteem people pleaser, which JNMIL exploited.

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u/AppropriateRide3493 2d ago

Maybe just watch Encanto for now, honestly.

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u/MsMaeLei 2d ago

My MIL watched it with us and told my daughter she felt like she was Mirabel...the quirky one misunderstood and unappreciated by her family.

In reality, she is 100% the super judge-y, obsessed with how things 'look', and pushing her family to conform to her ideas of who we 'should' be.

My daughter, 13 at the time, pulled me aside later and whispered to me "Why does Grandma think she is Mirabel? She bosses everyone around and gets mad when things aren't the way she likes."

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u/NewBet7377 2d ago

Just shows how deeply engrained their personality disorders are. They quite literally can’t self reflect or look at themselves from others perspective. They will always believe they are the victim.