r/JUSTNOMIL • u/fickduckers • 2d ago

SUCCESS! ✌ Unknown Number

So I watched that Unknown number: high school catfish documentary and I said to my "well, at least my mom had the balls to insult me to my face" lol. The amount of times she called me fat and ugly to my face.

There was one time (a loong time ago, in my 20s when I used to live with her) she was going off calling me fat (I was average - I was fitting into a small-medium size clothing at the time) then, I went to get take out food - Pad Thai, this particular restaurant serves A LOT for what is priced like the container could barely click shut. She said "that's a lot of food, give me some" bitch didn't even ask. Just "give me some" and i said "no, I'm fat remember? I have to eat all of it" lmao

I'm surprised she didn't threaten me for that.

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u/Strange-Report-9249 2d ago

That lady is a pedo. She literally wanted her daughter’s boyfriend. So gross.

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u/Bubbly_Inspector_884 2d ago

I am more stunned by her not pushing her mum away when the truth came out, and that she was in contact with her when she was in prison!!

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u/Apprehensive-Cake699 1d ago

Same, I sat in shock watching…waiting for the daughter to shout and react while she just held her hand and hugged her while listening to everything her mam had done. I still can’t understand it all!

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u/lamb_E 2d ago

I just watched that- the end is shocking! That poor girl. I thought of this sub too.

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u/fickduckers 2d ago

The other shit was obscenely disgusting but when she called Lauryn ugly and criticized her physical looks, I'm like my mom told me that shit to my face.

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u/dafrog84 2d ago

My MIL to be has called me fat also. I'm a petite small (or a size zero 0) I'm 5'4 119 pounds. She's 5'2 and pushing 300 pounds. I laughed in her face and told her the day she can squeeze into my pants I'll humor her weight advice. Oh her son is 5'11 and a good 255, his brother is about the same height and pushing 400. Went to a Mexican restaurant, ordered the make your own combo with 4 main dishes. Knowing I will have to take some home. Nice for the next day's lunch. Mil to be was like why order it if you can't eat it. I responded I ordered it all because I wanted to fill your pants.

They can be cynical about whatever they want, but never to themselves or their own kids. Smh.

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u/BoozeAndHotpants 2d ago

I’m sorry your mother was so horrible to you. I had one of those too. It hurts. It’s raw. It’s angering. At a certain point, you have to grieve the fact that you will always have this big empty hole in your life labeled “mom.” You have to make peace with the fact that others had moms whom really cared who they were as PEOPLE and they weren’t just annoyances they had to feed, or tiny dolls they could mold into their likeness. It sucks having a shitty person as a mom, because it really messes with your self esteem and ability to either put up a healthy boundary for yourself or to believe and receive genuine love.

Hon, I don’t know why you are torturing yourself by continuing to visit this woman. She will never love you the way she should; she’s just not capable of it. She will always disappoint. I sometimes think I was lucky in that I suffered from emotional neglect— I never, ever, ever entertained the hope that my mother would ever change and start being a loving mom. I knew she would never be there for me and so I was able to accept that and move on early in my life.

I am sorry you, too, will never have the loving mother that would have made a real difference in your life and your view of your self worth. If it’s any consolation, after all these years and some therapy I have come to understand that my less than satisfying childhood gave me some valuable interpersonal and survival skills that others had to pick up later in life. I have also learned as life progressed that many of those who I THOUGHT had “normal” families really did not, and as the years progressed a lot of repressed toxic stuff was going on in their FOOs as well, and it started evidencing more as the years went by. It just wasn’t as obvious.

Give that hurt and rejected little child inside yourself a big hug for me. It takes time, but if you do the inner work and make healthy choices, it gets better. A LOT better. Here’s a starter hug from me 🤗

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u/fickduckers 2d ago edited 2d ago

I don't feel tortured at all visiting her. I love rubbing in her face how great I'm doing despite how she treats me and telling her to her face that I never forgave her by not letting her hold my baby and buying her things with my income. If I had the choice to never see her again, I would never. This story was from when I lived with. She currently lives with my brother who I'm close with and he primarily takes care of her as she's got mobility issues. I only go to visit him and for my kids to visit him. Its hard for him to come over cuz I live further and my mom would be alone afraid of possibly getting injured - she has history of falling. My very Just yes MiL makes up for the mom I wished I had. So I'm good. I just like sharing my stories of winning against her and proving everything she said to me growing up was completely wrong.

One time I bought a really expensive item and was telling my brother about, she was there, she's like wow how did you pay for that? I said "i have a lot of money from my career that I got from degree. The degree you yelled at me for getting into because it was a waste of money (not like she was the one paying for my school) and you said I'd never find a job with that degree"

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u/fickduckers 2d ago

Oh I just remembered, it wasn't buying an expensive item, i was telling my brother I hired a cleaner for my house so I don't have to clean, she then ask how in could afford oy