r/KelownaBC • u/AshleyWilliams78 • 6d ago

Man goes insane on fellow apartment resident after she rejects his offer of "friendship" following one friendly interaction between them

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u/Slow_Struggle_396 6d ago

Call police

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u/Smashley027 6d ago

The first two rounds of police did absolutely nothing. Police historically never take this stuff seriously

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u/EZontheH 6d ago

Which sadly, I kinda understand. The police can't reasonably be expected to police the behavior of every citizen, they aren't babysitters. I understand why they don't put the same emphasis on something like this compared to an "actual" crime that has been committed. We need to commit more resources and authority to community support workers and mental health professionals. There should be a mechanism for this woman to go to the building superintendent and open a file on this man.

The horrible part is that this could easily lead to a sexual assault or murder if not checked early on, at which point the police will for sure be involved and take things seriously...that's of no comfort to OP or her family though.

I dunno what the answer is to be honest. I don't want a police state, but there needs to be authority figures with the capability, means, and willingness to help.

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u/GhostOfMufasa 6d ago

Well said. It's a very tricky thing for cops to handle coz yeah exactly they wanna do something but basically unless the dude actually commits a crime they can't necessarily hold him or arrest him for anything. And yeah sadly that may only come at a time too late if he's already done something. So yeah we definitely need better community resources across the board coz sadly there aren't enough cops to handle some of these issues on a more community level coz if we go full police state then people end up complaining about their rights being infringed so it's a tricky line to tow. But yeah hopefully the powers that be are able to find a balance since it's up to them to figure out these matters whether it ends up being via dedicating more resources or putting more mechanisms in place to help monitor people like this coz you don't wanna end up in a "too little too late" scenario.

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u/LopsidedMonitor9159 1d ago

Harassment is a crime, though.

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u/GhostOfMufasa 1d ago

Yep and they take the necessary steps within the confines of the law be it restraining orders or what not but their hands are tied until something escalates. It's why even for example in domestic abuse cases they can't do anything until one of the parties has probable cause beyond it being just a verbal altercation. That's why me and the previous comment were explaining that there's always a fine line that the police have to dance between because you can't go to an extreme on one end and end up having people detained or arrested on false cases without anything proved but then you also can't be too lenient and not monitor or keep track of people that need to be kept track of that's why you end up having all the several procedures and or community initiatives that then help the system to try and get that balancing act

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u/grrrlscoutt 1d ago

The cops will literally arrest a mentally ill homeless person for the "crime" of being homeless in public or physically assault a college student after theyve just attempted suicide but they can't arrest a narcissist for harassing a woman on videotape? Tell me again that their hands are tied. Lol literally ridiculous take.

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u/GhostOfMufasa 1d ago

I mean your statement was pretty self explanatory. Nobody is saying they can't do better. Them not having empathy for the homeless/vulnerable and for college students is literally part of the problem. When we talk about things needing to be improved I'm literally talking about across the board that's why I mentioned that things can be done on a community level to ease the strain on their resources and adversely it gives them less of an out when things like this happen because then we can say the community took xyz steps and xyz resources were allocated to this xyz needed to be done and it was or wasn't done and every facet can be held accountable across the board.