r/KitchenConfidential • u/tapthisbong • Jul 12 '25

In the Weeds Mode Well this is gonna be interesting

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u/SpicyWokHei Jul 12 '25

Management: "I don't know what happened. She just went crazy!"

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u/olivinebean Jul 12 '25

It's a bit like dating

If a new boss complains about the chefs before me, it's very off putting and makes them look like difficult to work with

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u/garbitch_bag Jul 12 '25

Yep! Went to an interview once where the GM said they have such a hard time finding good people, everyone is flaky and quits after a few weeks. Guess who quit after a few weeks because management was horrible?

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u/zephyrtr Jul 12 '25

If you meet 10 new assholes every day, you might be the asshole.

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u/shmiddleedee Jul 12 '25

This quote really helped me out a few years ago. Turns out I was the asshole. I don't work in kitchens but this sub pops up on my page and I saw this quote. Thanks for the reminder.

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u/geekpoints Ex-Food Service Jul 12 '25

Good on you for allowing yourself to recognize it, it's a hard thing to do.

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u/FoghornLeghorn2024 Jul 12 '25

"Turns out I was the asshole". should be a t-shirt.

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u/kateastrophic 15+ Years Jul 12 '25

No problem, asshole.

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u/AdditionalMess6546 Ex-Food Service Jul 12 '25

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u/Br44n5m Jul 12 '25

This kinda thinking is also how I found out my personality is more of an "acquired taste"

Behavior tends to be very odd and different from most people so some find it extremely offputting till they get to know me, current coworker even told me "when you started i hated you, youre so weird and dont take things seriously! I wanted to know what your problem was. But now I love you! Youre so silly!" Which was a lot less heartwarming than I think she intended it

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u/Zunderfeuer_88 Jul 12 '25

Was it the three bass who said it?

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u/25_Unknown_Devices Jul 12 '25

Late one night, laying awake in bed, oooo a realization came. Are there really assholes every where I look, or am I the one to blame? Maybe I just do not say the things I should say, and do not do the things i ought.

So I took a long hard look at my self in the mirror, and this is what I thought:

“The guy who sold me this mirror's an asshole He's an asshole, son of a bitch said it was antique. He was lying, he was lying. Made me want to punch him in his salesman cheek”

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u/DCGeos Jul 12 '25

That was gold, thanks.

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u/25_Unknown_Devices Jul 12 '25

As original as I’d like to be, it’s the last verse from Stephen Lynch’s song “fishing hole”

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u/elshc Jul 12 '25

If everywhere you go, it smells like shit - check your shoes.

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u/Filter003 Jul 12 '25

Or your asshole

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u/h3110m0t0 Jul 12 '25

might be.

Or there might be 10 assholes out there, who all have the same issues.

If you put in the effort to correct shitty behavior and do what you can but they still persist on being shitty. Are you really the asshole for holding them accountable while they play the victim/no you card.

Easy to blame the MGMT. If every employee comes in and says I left my job because the mgmt was shitty before, and you can't hold down a job. Maybe its not just the MGMT.

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u/tastepdad Jul 12 '25

LOVE this line

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u/Stop_Fakin_Jax Jul 13 '25

Are there AITA shirts out there? If so, fuck em cuz IATA shirts are the only gift an asshole would get from me.

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u/Conceptual_Aids Jul 12 '25

Wait I know this one, don't tell me...

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u/mikek505 Jul 12 '25

I worked AR and we went thru 4 managers in the 7months I worked there. And I was the one with the most seniority cause everybody else quit

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u/exgiexpcv Jul 12 '25

I see this in a number of places where I live. My food co-op's deli has a revolving door because someone in management is horrible, but since they have seniority, no one will do anything about it.

So they keep hiring people who can't stand the work environment, who quit, and then they hire more, and I get walnut shells in my pesto.

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u/Stop_Fakin_Jax Jul 13 '25

Me, you might not have but it 100% was me.

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u/Armantien Jul 12 '25

A few years ago, I was at this place. Worked there for about a year. I was one of their senior workers by the end. I couldn't tell you how many people were in and out of that place in that time. One guy didn't even stay until lunch.

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u/Quick_Mel Jul 12 '25

Sounds like you worked at my place

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u/Zen_Hobo Jul 12 '25

"Every single one of the 50 people before you were the most incompetent idiots and never did anything right!"

Yeah. I'll go, now.

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u/sodisacks Jul 12 '25

Let’s be real here. A lot of executive chefs are real shitbags. Our previous executive chef that we fired caused us to lose 4 kitchen staff with span of 3 weeks because he fancied himself to be like the Hells Kirchen Gordon Ramsay and he was also quite racist towards black men.