r/MensLib • u/MLModBot ​ • 17d ago

Mental Health Megathread Tuesday Check In: How's Everybody's Mental Health?

Good day, everyone and welcome to our weekly mental health check-in thread! Feel free to comment below with how you are doing, as well as any coping skills and self-care strategies others can try! For information on mental health resources and support, feel free to consult our resources wiki (also located in the sidebar!) (IMPORTANT NOTE RE: THE RESOURCES WIKI: As Reddit is a global community, we hope our list of resources are diverse enough to better serve our community. As such, if you live in a country and/or geographic region that is NOT listed/represented but know of a local resource you feel would be beneficial, then please don't hesitate to let us know!)

Remember, you are human, it's OK to not be OK. Life can be very difficult and there's no how-to guide for any of this. Try to be kind to yourself and remember that people need people. No one is a lone island and you need not struggle alone. Remember to practice self-care and alone time as well. You can't pour from an empty cup and your life is worth it.

Take a moment to check in with a loved one, friend, or acquaintance. Ask them how they're doing, ask them about their mental health. Keep in mind that while we may not all be mentally ill, we all have mental health.

If you find yourself in particular struggling to go on, please take a moment to read and reflect on this poem.

IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: This mental health check-in thread is NOT a substitute for real-world professional help/support. MensLib is NOT a mental health support sub, and we are NOT professionals! This space solely exists to hold space for the community and help keep each other accountable.

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u/Oregon_Jones111 ​ 17d ago

It’s hard to deal with your psychological issues when you know they’re irrational and they still won’t go away. I know men aren’t significantly more likely to be rapists than woman, and yet mentions of male rapists still trigger my self-loathing and gender dysphoria.

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u/DameyJames ​ 17d ago

Whether that’s true or not regardless doesn’t affect who you are as a person. You are not all men, men are not a monolith. That is a truth that should live quietly but resolutely in your heart. Know the person that you are. You are you first, your gender is just one factor of your self identity and expression.

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u/Oregon_Jones111 ​ 14d ago

It’s really hard to have a stable sense of identity when I’m a closeted trans woman who is too afraid to transition in 2025 America.

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u/DameyJames ​ 14d ago

I’m so sorry for that. I can’t understand everything that you must be feeling but I can certainly appreciate and empathize with it. Do you live in a community that’s more left leaning or no?

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u/Oregon_Jones111 ​ 13d ago

Not particularly left leaning.