r/MensLib 16d ago

The cure for male loneliness is feminism. Seriously.

https://makemenemotionalagain.substack.com/p/the-cure-for-male-loneliness-is-feminism

Curious your thoughts! I wrote about how the answer to male loneliness is caring, and how caring is really, really hard. Especially for those of us who’ve been socialized as men. We’ve been told that anything outside of going to work or optimizing ourselves by lifting weights, sitting in ice baths, and pounding creatine isn’t worth much. That caring for others isn’t a “productive” or “efficient” use of our time. That someone else will always end up doing it. That we’re not supposed to do it because women are naturally, biologically designed for it and we’re not (which is untrue). That if we do it, we’re less valuable, like a woman, less of a man. But showing up and caring is both good for other people and us. We have to do more of it.

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u/HeckelSystem 15d ago

Not who you asked, but focus on being a good person instead of a good man. Identify the parts of yourself you love and cherish them, while being open to improving the parts that hold you back.

Let your manliness be an augmentor, not a restrictor in your life.

Loving being masculine and loving being a Sagittarius are both fine things, but should be given the appropriate weight in your life and not used as an excuse or scape goat for mistakes and failings.

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u/sidenote19 14d ago

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” – Marcus Aurelius