The cure for male loneliness is feminism. Seriously.

[u/futuredebris]

https://makemenemotionalagain.substack.com/p/the-cure-for-male-loneliness-is-feminism

Curious your thoughts! I wrote about how the answer to male loneliness is caring, and how caring is really, really hard. Especially for those of us who’ve been socialized as men. We’ve been told that anything outside of going to work or optimizing ourselves by lifting weights, sitting in ice baths, and pounding creatine isn’t worth much. That caring for others isn’t a “productive” or “efficient” use of our time. That someone else will always end up doing it. That we’re not supposed to do it because women are naturally, biologically designed for it and we’re not (which is untrue). That if we do it, we’re less valuable, like a woman, less of a man. But showing up and caring is both good for other people and us. We have to do more of it.

[u/baco_wonkey]

Yeah this is where I’m at. I have supportive friends and I also support them back. But every single one of my friends is married with kids, married, or in a serious long term relationship. I barely ever see them, and just about never individually. I only ever see them at major planned group activities. Which isn’t a great time to dive into our feelings. I can’t blame them for prioritizing that part of their lives, but fuck I’m so lonely 95% of the time.

[u/Legen_unfiltered → u/baco_wonkey]

Have you asked them to get together? Often times I've seen that men get into the habit of relying solely on their significant other and dont even think that their friends would want to hang out. That cycle of 'i didn't call them and now its been too long and in cant call them.' 

Ask your friends out. Try to find something you like that you can also incorporate their kids to make it easier. They might be lonely or in need of support other than just their SO too.