r/Mindfulness • u/Shot_Activity_8498 • 1d ago
Question Perfectionism
I've been looking into perfectionism recently. Previously, I've always considered myself a perfectionist, but according to what I've seen, perfectionism is attempting to be perfect to make yourself "better" in a way to others, potentially due to past shame. For me, I'm more of a perfectionist in the sense of if something isn't perfect, it's wrong to just me; I don't feel any urge that I'm not good enough to anyone, but more in the sense that if it isn't right then it's wrong and I have to fix it or else IT isn't good enough. That part directly translates into me not thinking something I made is good enough if it's something I made, but it's also with things other people have made as well. For example, in Bloxburg on Roblox, if my friends houses aren't what I deem "perfect" or "good" it messes with me quite a bit. I can't stand imperfections in any way shape or form, it isn't perfect and so it's horrible, hence why I've always deemed myself a perfectionist. However, this doesn't seem to be the same thing as the perfectionism I've read about, so what else could this be about, and how can I maybe stop it?
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u/Jessibrowny 1d ago
Change begins when you allow yourself to be “imperfect” and still be okay. Life isn’t a gallery to display perfection, it’s a field to experience.
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u/interactor 1d ago
It's probably the same kind of perfectionism you've read about. You've explained that you don't think it is, using surface level logic, but what feeds this kind of perfectionism is deeper, and more emotional than logical.