r/Mindfulness • u/Shot_Activity_8498 • 2d ago
Question Perfectionism
I've been looking into perfectionism recently. Previously, I've always considered myself a perfectionist, but according to what I've seen, perfectionism is attempting to be perfect to make yourself "better" in a way to others, potentially due to past shame. For me, I'm more of a perfectionist in the sense of if something isn't perfect, it's wrong to just me; I don't feel any urge that I'm not good enough to anyone, but more in the sense that if it isn't right then it's wrong and I have to fix it or else IT isn't good enough. That part directly translates into me not thinking something I made is good enough if it's something I made, but it's also with things other people have made as well. For example, in Bloxburg on Roblox, if my friends houses aren't what I deem "perfect" or "good" it messes with me quite a bit. I can't stand imperfections in any way shape or form, it isn't perfect and so it's horrible, hence why I've always deemed myself a perfectionist. However, this doesn't seem to be the same thing as the perfectionism I've read about, so what else could this be about, and how can I maybe stop it?
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u/Jessibrowny 2d ago
Change begins when you allow yourself to be “imperfect” and still be okay. Life isn’t a gallery to display perfection, it’s a field to experience.