r/Mindfulness • u/tren-de-ida • 1d ago

Question I'm finding myself getting into mindfulness as an attempt to heal my body and mind from past bullying, is this correct?

Hello, I've been getting into mindfulness meditation to solve some burden I carry in my brain from past occurrences from which I've suffered in high school. I'm wondering, have any of you been through a similar path? I'm trying to give mindfulness at least 30 mins a day. Sometimes I don't quite get to 30 mins a day but I try to focus on one thing at a time and also focusing on my breathing. My goal is to no longer suffer from the bad things that happened to me in the past and to not worry about that past getting to my present.

Thanks for reading

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u/ThePsylosopher 1d ago

Whether mindfulness or therapy, I find the key to moving through your issues is understanding what you're really working on is changing your relationship to your memories and to the ways they show up in the present. For example given that these things are "problems" your current relationship is some degree of aversion - "I don't want this." The aim then is to move towards equanimity - "this happened, this simply is, I am okay with that."

But it's more than a mental exercise. You might say I already accept it but there are unconscious residues in your mind and body that resist. By observing yourself, especially when this stuff gets triggered, you'll start to see the resistance and may slowly relax it.

Mindfulness supports this process by making you more aware. In a sense the heart of all issues is a lack of awareness.

Integration is also essential. It means that you carry this awareness into your day to day life and begin changing the habitual ways you react when these triggers arise. At first this usually looks like simply sitting in the discomfort which would otherwise compel you to react.

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u/orcateeth 1d ago

I don't know if you are interested, but there are also PTSD support groups online.

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u/ServeBeginning2263 22h ago

Thanks, I'll look ininto that.

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u/orcateeth 21h ago

FYI:

You can find online PTSD support groups through organizations like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA), which host virtual communities for individuals with mental health conditions, including PTSD.

The National Center for PTSD also offers resources to help you search for online groups, and the Trauma Survivors Network provides a list of virtual support groups for trauma survivors of physical injury.

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u/TextNormal9724 27m ago

I think that’s a really healthy path. Mindfulness won’t erase the past, but it can change how you relate to those memories and soften the weight they carry. The important thing is showing up for yourself, you’re definitely not alone in this.