r/Mindfulness • u/Flimsy_Hat_7326 • 23h ago
Advice Teaching mindfulness to kids when you're still learning it yourself (honest mom perspective)
Last week, my 7-year-old had a complete meltdown over homework. Instead of my usual "just calm down" response, I heard myself saying: "Let's take three deep breaths together."
And you know what? It worked. For both of us.
The irony: I've been trying to establish my own mindfulness practice for two years. Some days I remember, most days I don't. Yet here I was, naturally modeling what I'd been struggling to make "perfect" for myself.
What I've learned about family mindfulness:
It doesn't have to be formal. No meditation cushions or apps required. We do "mindful moments":
- Noticing sounds during car rides
- Feeling our feet on the ground while walking
- Taking "smell breaks" (yes, even the not-so-great ones)
Kids are natural teachers. They live in the present moment already. I'm learning more from watching them than from any book.
Progress over perfection applies to parenting too. Some days we're mindful, some days we're just surviving. Both are okay.
I've been exploring resources from touchstone lately, and their authentic approach to personal growth really resonates. They emphasize that mindfulness isn't about becoming some zen master - it's about showing up more fully for the moments that matter. That feels achievable, even on chaotic parenting days.
The unexpected gift: Teaching mindfulness to my kids is actually helping me develop my own practice. We're learning together.
Any other parents trying to balance personal growth with the beautiful chaos of family life? What works for your family?
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u/xenowave068 20h ago edited 20h ago
We need more of this.
Thank you so much for sharing. Parents like you give me hope 🩵
Edit: I'm not a parent myself, so I can't relate or give any advice. Just wanna say you're doing great ☺️
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u/MindfulnessForHumans 22h ago
I love that you are integrating mindfulness in parenting, and family life. So happy for you and your kids!