I used to be the guy everyone walked over. At work, in relationships, even with strangers which made me felt invisible.

Then I discovered these psychology tricks that completely flipped how people treat me. Now people actually listen when I speak.

Here's what I learned:

1. Stop over-explaining yourself. The more you justify your decisions, the weaker you sound. Say "I can't make it Friday" instead of "I can't make it Friday because my cousin's dog has a vet appointment and..." which sounds bad like you're running away from it.
2. Use the 2-second pause before responding to anything, count to two. It shows you're thoughtful, not reactive. Plus, it makes people hang on your words. Silence makes people perceive your words as credible.
3. Match their energy, then dial it down 10% If someone's excited, be interested but stay slightly calmer. If they're angry, be concerned but composed. You become the stable one they look up to. Most people are emotional so if they see you are not they will respect you.
4. Ask "What do you think?" instead of giving advice firs. People respect those who value their opinions even when you know the answer, let them feel heard first.
5. Stand up straight, but relax your shoulders. Confidence is shown when your taking up your space comfortably. This one changed how people see me instantly.
6. Remember small details about people like "How did your presentation go last week?" These little callbacks show you actually pay attention. It's rare, and people notice when you mention things that are easy to forget.
7. Say "I don't know" when you don't know. Pretending to have all the answers makes you look insecure. Admitting ignorance? That takes real confidence. Being honest about your knowledge makes you genuine.

Respect isn't about being the loudest or smartest person in the room. It's about being genuine, thoughtful, and secure enough to let others shine too.

Try just ONE of these this week. You'll be shocked at how differently people respond to you.

I'AM an honest person, but my Mediterranean/Caucasian face looks very fraudulent and dishonest, so I need some extra effort in order to make social connections and relations with other people. So, do you have any lifehacks, studies or books about this?