I posted a picture on a Facebook group and the strange thing was and is how men put laughing emojis or angry emojis on my picture. There was no woman, it was just men. I thought I would write here why men do this not only on Facebook but social media in general. why are men so angry on facebook other social media?

Husband and I are high school sweethearts. We are in our late 20s. He has a friend ‘Kelly’ who has also known him since high school, they worked together for a bit in HS as well and they’re part of a larger friend group. I’m happy he has friends who he can spend time with and can do things Im not always interested in, particularly partying into the late hours of the night.

The problem for me started when after a night out with his friends, my husband shared with me that Kelly tried to drunkenly kiss him, and he rejected her. He shared that with me as soon as he got home and he seemed very upset about her trying to do that. We talked about it and he said he would have a conversation with her the next time they saw each other, to which she said that she had no memory of the event but she felt bad about it happening. Apparently she had also tried to do that with another friend in the group and was also going through a rough breakup at the time.

After that, my husband saw her less and made a point to not be alone with her. After everything cooled off he suggested that maybe it would be a good idea for me to get to know her and set up a hangout at a bar with us, Kelly and her sibling. She was nice/cordial but it was a little awkward because she kept trying to figure out a meeting with a drug dealer and kept wandering away from the group. All of the pictures she posted about the night left me out, but included my husband and her sibling. There have been a handful of times I joined the group hangouts, and they’ve gone well, but i still feel uncomfortable when people make jokes and references about things I don’t understand because they have a long history of friendship. Which is fine, I keep it to myself and try to enjoy myself, but still stings a little. Whenever I bring it up to my husband he reassures my feelings and he always makes a point to include me.

A few months ago they all went on a trip out of state and my husband was so excited, and I was excited for him. I was invited but I didn’t go because I didn’t really want to, thats HIS friend group and I had other things planned that weekend. Everything was fine until I saw Kelly posts a series of pictures from the trip, the cover photo being her and my husband. To ME, and this is definitely based on heteronormative bias, they look like a couple at first glance. Theres no physical contact but she’s in a bikini and heavily leaning towards him and is arching her back a lot. (Husband is wearing flannel and shorts—which is part of why I feel irrational, because of course she’s wearing a swimsuit if they’re swimming in a creek. She’s just very cute in the photo and she’s standing next to my man so it made me feel this weird jealousy when it popped up on my feed.)

I also brought up my feelings about this post and told my husband I can’t help but feel a little disrespected by her. She has other posts where it’s just the two of them, my husband is neutrally facing the camera and she’s leaning into him like that or theyre sitting very close. Those photos are always the first cover photo of the posts with other friends. My husband said he never thought of it like that but can understand why that bothers me. I asked him not to bring it up with her because I feel stupid for even feeling this way.

Part of me knows I’m angry because she’s just very beautiful and it makes me feel a pit in my stomach knowing my husband has such an attractive friend. He says he has no attraction to her and I believe him, he’s always been honest with me and we have always had great communication.

To be clear, I don’t feel like my relationship is being threatened. I just feel possessive. I have OCD and have been silently obsessing over this whole thing for weeks now. It’s so frustrating because I think it would be best to just let it go. But on the other hand I’m upset at my husband for still hanging out with her even if it’s with a larger group. And i’m upset at her because I feel jealous.

Am I being irrational here? Has anyone else gone through something similar? Am I being controlling? Please help. I’m trying to be mature about this and not let my emotions cause a rift in my husband’s friend group.

The basis is a trial regarding a US state using artificial wombs in order to inflate it's population and take over seats in the US House of Representatives.

So, I have a black eye right now, courtesy of slipping over in the shower (make sure those grip mats are stuck down, people!).

Aside from the black eye and a bruised ego, I'm fine and have been living as normal, going to work, doing the shopping, just living life.

One thing I've noticed since having a swollen dark blue and purple eye is the stark differences in reactions between men and women. I'd say around 20% of the reactions from men have been sympathetic. 100% of the women have expressed concern and sympathy.

Yesterday, I was getting some things from my local store, when two men came down the same aisle as me. One looked at the other and said "someone must've burned dinner" with a smug grin on his face. They shared a laugh and I brushed it off as ignorance.

The day after it happened, I had to go to work. I got into the staff room and was almost immediately asked by a male coworker "what did you do to make him mad?" I just rolled my eyes and walked away. Later that day at lunch, two older men were speculating how I got the shiner. "She must've pissed her boyfriend off. Women these days just aren't as obedient as they used to be." Said one. "Good women are hard to come by now. She probably did something to deserve it. Women just don't respect men anymore." Said the other.

The bar for men is so low, and yet they still somehow manage to limbo under it. Ugh.

I’m 20 and I’ve always been kind of innocent when it comes to things sexual... Recently I got curious for the first time and watched a couple of spicy videos online. It wasn’t a big thing in my head... just curiosity and me trying to understand myself better. Anyway

My boyfriend (22) saw my navigation history and is now kinda upset with me. He thinks I was hiding something or that it means I’m not happy with him, but that’s not true at all. i love him, and it was never about replacing him or comparing him to anything!!

I feel embarrassed and don’t know how to explain it in a way that won’t hurt him more. I’m not used to talking about these things, and I’m scared he’ll see me differently now. How can i repair the damage I've done...? I understand he can be jealous and I don't intend on judging him at all!

Hi everyone, I'm a 24 F. Right now i'm a student, completing my last year of study in engineering. 2 months before the end of my internship i broke my ankle, it kinda ruined my moral because I had projects planned like passing my driving license exam. Other than that, I have been able to finish my internship remotely and right now i'm preparing my oral exam. My supervisor said i was not good at integrating with other people and adapting to new environments which kinda ruined my moral. I'm fighting against my issues with my relationships with humans for years and to be honest, i thought it would be okay this time. I didn't find a job yet so i don't know what i will do in the next few months. Should i focus on getting a food job and getting my driving license ? Or trying to find a job in my field of study ?

I cry for nothing at times, I think this whole situation make me anxious. Also, i've been single for so long and I wish i could be able to find a girlfriend but i don't know how to do that. I hated my appearance for a while and don't want to post my face on a meeting app.

Thank you, i needed to vent

Hi! I usually remove and insert the ring on Fridays but due to pharmacy issues I wasn’t able to introduce a new ring until August 24th at 2 pm instead of August 22. If I had unprotected sex Sept 1 at 3 am was I covered or should I take plan b?

My pubic hair is thick and straight so when I don't shave it, it gets pretty long. The problem, though, is that my pubic hair is basically parallel to my skin. When I do shave it, there's still stubble. When I shave against the grain suddenly I'm bleeding all over the place. And then the next day I get itchy ingrowns and my hair has grown back anyways. Call me crazy but at that point I just start plucking them with a tweezer.

I've also gotten many cysts on my mons pubis and sometimes on my labia. I don't know if it's because of the hair. Usually I don't shave at all but I wanted to see what I looked like down there without hair lol. Also the hair on my labia is curly but anywhere else it's straight.

I can't afford to get a brazillian wax or get sugaring done because I'm still a student. Should I just give up and trim for the rest of my life?

For me, personally, womanhood is learning that guys will still give you unsolicited criticism no matter what you do or do not, this is the reason why you should not care.

I am not asking for medical advice, I know that isn't allowed. I have been to my GP who has referred me to get a scan, I'm just waiting for that referral letter. It's on a rush but is still going to take a couple of weeks.

What I'm looking for is reassurance of other things that it could be to help so I'm not over thinking. I know a lump could be something else, but I'm kind of scared to Google because I don't want to hear the worst case scenarios.

I'm 30. I will be going to the scan appointment no matter what, but I appreciate any other options to think about whilst I wait for it. Thanks.

It feels like I don’t want sex at all but I still masterbate pretty much weekly. When it comes to sex though I don’t want it at all and am starting to be repulsed by the idea!

I love my partner (28M) but he also has a low sex drive. I use to want to do it with him all the time and after our honeymoon phase ended about two months into the relationship so did the intimacy. We use to do it multiple times a day, then drastically it changed to twice a month.

I have experienced this before with a ex partner so I guess I have gotten use to this but my sex drive is completely dead, I have no desire to get naked and nasty unless I pleasure myself when I am ovulating then I feel like it but I still don’t act on it.

He’s happy with twice a month, to be honest I’m not. Now when he wants it I have rejected him just because I don’t feel like it. He hasn’t complained, of course he wouldn’t.

Ladies have you had experience with this? Is it just this relationship that has me like this or is there something that should change? I’m honestly not happy with it but I’ve cried to him about it and begged him to see a doctor he won’t. Now I just don’t care. I feel like I lost apart of myself and I’m worried I will be like this forever.

I've made a good male friend recently, and we get along really well. However, our last conversation has shown me that although he supposed shares similar values around human dignity and human rights, he has right-leaning tendencies that are difficult to navigate around. It's easy to tell that it's stuff that he has heard or seen on the internet.

For example, we had a long conversation about LGBTQIA+ in which he stated he's all about rights and everyone having the right to live and love how they want, but he has an issue around the "plus" part. I gently pried some more, while still respectfully holding my own argument and stance, and it became clear that actually, it's a weird mix of anti-trans sentiment mixed with a very defensive white-male complex.

The trans-rapist entering female bathrooms scenario came up; trans activism is okay, but "only if they do it well and safely and without negatively affecting others" (I reminded him of the history of activism and revolution, that to disrupt an unjust status quo means the movement will be ugly and unpalatable), implying trans = body dysmorphia and giving into them is giving into their mental illness (he framed it more gently in saying they must have psychological screenings and treatment. I argued that that's exactly what trans activism is fighting for - the right to resources like psychiatric therapy and gender affirming care). At some point he spoke about the dangers of "cancel culture". A few days before, he'd made a strange offhanded joke/comment about "blue-haired woke ladies" when we were joking about the world ending due to tech billionaires.

I was careful to refute everything I disagreed with to the best of my ability, and tried to get him to have perspective on the situation, but I walked away with the feeling that I am trying to explain colours to a colourblind individual.

I am interested in asking for advice because it doesn't feel totally hopeless. It feels more like he has the same underlying values, but he becomes fixated on these misdirectional points that the media uses to obfuscate basic human rights activism with fearmongering fantasy scenarios. I was a more extreme political activist and had many heated verbal arguments in the past. I'm no longer interested in those exhauasting futile efforts that rarely went anywhere. In fact, I think that cancelling/severing approach to friendships is part of the problem of insularity. I want to really engage, especially with people who also want to engage in the conversation. I really want to hear from people who have had these conversations.

I had the following thoughts:

1. These are not his real fears, but fears he has ingested by proxy (through the algorithm or whatever media) - so much of his wording feels lifted from the internet. How do you fight against al the subtle propaganda embedded in the algorithm?

2. How do you convince them that the scenarios they are fixating on are not the real problem? That they're fantasy problems that take away from the main important fight for basic human rights and dignity?

3. How do you show them that this idea that this is not a resource-competition? The way he spoke made me feel strange, because he is acting as if trans activism will take something away from men and women, but really, it's for the betterment of human rights all-inclusive.

4. How do you show them that the behaviour of some "bad apples" should not tarnish the movement. Not every trans person is a representative of the movement; there are people who are mentally ill, there are rapists, there are thiefs, etc. Just like every other demographic.

5. How do you change a person's mind, when they seem receptive, albeit quite confident in their stance?

And if they do then how about not doing any or greatly cutting back on the grunt work or if you have split up, give him majority or full custody?

I've heard of kids liking the other parent more even if he did almost nothing or almost never visited because he was a malleable fantasy figure or only did the "fun" stuff or constantly undercut the person actually applying discipline and standards.

I don't see the point of sacrificing so many parts of yourself aka time, career, labor only to be shat on in the end not just by the man who left but men in general, society AND the kids.

It's been so many years since we got married... but even today, fights break out over small things. And that night, it was too much.

All I said was - "Clothes are always scattered in the cupboard, I get tired of arranging them all by myself."

And his reply? "Don't make it such a big issue."

Meaning, really? For me, this was no small matter. This was a complaint about me being tired, about carrying everything by myself. And he brushed it off as if I was just doing a useless drama.

I went straight to my room. Crying, I hid my face in the pillow. I was thinking deep inside - "Now he will come... now he will hug me... now he will probably say 'sorry'."

But he didn't come.

Half an hour passed. When I came out, I saw - he was sitting on the sofa. A cup of tea in his hand. And, yes, he had made a cup for me too.

He didn't say anything. He just extended the cup towards me.

And at that moment, I realized that love is not expressed by saying “sorry” every time. Sometimes it is hidden in a cup of tea made silently.

I’m a 41-year-old woman, in a happy 25-year relationship with the father of my two children. I’m sexually fulfilled and very sure of my romantic and sexual preferences. Or so I thought…

Today I had a dream that really shook me. I dreamt about a woman, and for the first time in a long time, i was completely swept away, i was overwhelmed and I fell in love like I’ve never been before, and when I woke up, I was genuinely upset and felt like crying. I felt sorry that she wasn’t real. She felt real. And I’m certain she exists.

Even now, I can’t stop thinking about her, with a knot in my stomach and a weight in my chest. I just needed to let it out… so I can go on with my life. I hope I find her again tonight, to see where she takes me.

I’m 22 and my pee has been smelling strongly like canned tuna occasionally, more often when I’m more dehydrated, but pretty randomly otherwise.

I have gotten std tested, and a urine test done, both a regular one and a culture, and nothing showed up- my pee was deemed normal, no UTI.

I’m so confused and I’m honestly embarrassed because I feel like you can smell it strongly in the air after I use the bathroom (and no it’s not my vagina that smells, it’s the pee, only starts when I’m peeing).

This has been going on for a year or more even!

Please any help or advice would be appreciated!!!

Hello everyone today has been 5 days of my hysterectomy feeling very sharp pain lower abdominal feeling like contraction it traveling hurting my buttock I don’t know what that mean I’m very new to this also im still spotting pinkish still I don’t know how long that will last I was hoping it will stop but I guess everyone bodies is different but yeah I need answer why I’m feeling gas and sharp pain up to my buttlock

I swear once I hit 30 it got much harder to sleep. I tried the weighted blanket and evetything no such luck. Then I tried the swaddle blanket made for adults and saw a big difference. I guess i just wanted to be wrapped up like a mummy. It does help with my aches and pains too I noticed, that seem harder to ignore at nighttime. I am a bit concerned I might get judged by a partner at some point though. I am aware that an adult swaddle is a bit weird.

One time I got curious mid-action and thought let me try switching things up. I went from a soft sigh to an over-the-top dramatic moan like in movies just to see what happens. The look on his face was priceless and I almost broke into laughter.

Now I am wondering if anyone else does these little experiments or if I am just weird like that.

I (20f) am just now realising I’ve only ever been interested in or had ‘crushes’ on guys who have girlfriends, and more often than not they’re my friend’s boyfriend’s. I’m autistic plus had a lot of trauma growing up so I’ve always been kind of behind in terms of ‘girlhood’ I guess (compared to my friends at least), so I should clarify and say I’ve never ever been with any of these men, or any men, or even had my first kiss. I was an overweight kid growing up so never had boys have crushes on me or anything. The only times I have EVER received male attention is from guys who had girlfriends or were dating my literal friends. Obviously I would never pursue my friend’s partners (although as a young autistic girl who craved any kind of attention I didn’t understand that I was being inappropriate by texting/calling/spending time with my friend’s boyfriends. I would never do that now of course).

But I just don’t understand why this is the case. I could understand why the few times I’ve been interested in a guy I know they’ve been unattainable just like how I’ve always had a lot of celebrity crushes which are obviously unattainable. There’s a kind of safety in feeling that way towards someone who you don’t think will actually pursue you back (also I consider myself bi so… maybe I’m a lesbian? But I don’t think so, I think I am physically attracted to men just very traumatised)

The thing that trips me up is that literally every time I’ve ever received attention from a man growing up to literally today, it’s always from my friend’s boyfriend’s or a guy who I know has a girlfriend? For example in 6th grade a boy in my class decided to hangout with me on a school field trip and bought me flowers, all while his girlfriend was right there and she hates me to this day (I understand now that I shouldn’t have gone along with that 😭). The crush I had in 7th and 8th grade had a girlfriend the whole time he was texting em daily and playing video games with me daily and writing me letters and calling me pretty. Around that same time my best friend got her first boyfriend, he used to text and call me too and joke about kissing me. In 9th grade my friend’s boyfriend would hangout with me, make me playlists, play video games, compliment me, play with my hair. As I said, I was a very sad and struggling kid so I kind of went ‘oh look, someone likes me!’ before I could get to the ‘oh this is inappropriate and I’m encouraging something hurtful’ point. 10th and 11th grade I was very close with a guy who had a girlfriend but he would joke about how we were the exact same girl and how he would decide to just spend time with me ‘as his girlfriend’ instead of her. I did put a stop to this behaviour and eventually our friendship but it just… keeps happening?

I just was wondering if anyone could help me understand why this keeps happening, why not only I feel interested in these guys but why they give me that attention too?. I would never ever act on any of it or pursue them of course. Maybe because I never had that kind of childhood ‘first love’ experiences I just see my friends experiencing love and because I’m scared of intimacy I’m living vicariously through them in a way? I don’t know.

at my heaviest, i was 195 pounds and typically wore a size 14 and an XL. i’ve lost 85 pounds since then and now im 110 pounds, usually size 2 and an XS. but i feel like there are so few people that get the feelings im starting to have.

i don’t really consider myself skinny and i don’t feel like i am a “skinny” person despite my weight and clothing sizes because i don’t look the same as girls who’ve been thin their whole lives or even girls who’ve lost weight to get to that size but were never actually overweight or obese to begin with.

i don’t feel like i relate to other women who were around my size and lost weight either. i feel like the more mainstream weight loss journeys i see on social media involve stopping once they’re at a mid-healthy weight or have a focus on getting more muscular rather than going all the way to the lower end of the bmi scale.

i still have a bit of a stomach pouch and loose skin so i don’t look like the conventionally skinny girls. i am pretty neutral about it because to me, it’s still better than the former but i feel like an outsider in just about every group. fat, skinny, plus size, midsize, formerly bigger and lost weight, i don’t really feel like anyone talks about how it feels after so much weight loss.

i hope this is okay to post seeing as i have nowhere else to talk about it and i feel like no one gets it. i’m still incredibly proud of my achievement even if i feel like i’m kinda in a bubble or “category” by myself.

We’ll be TTC this December so I’ll be coming off my pill soon.

I’ve been taking Yaz for almost 2 years now. I don’t know if that makes any difference to the possible side effects I’ll have.

But I’ve been reading A LOT of horror stories about how awful the acne breakouts are after coming off the pill and it has been stressing me out.

I just wanted to know if there are also a lot of women who had success stories coming off the pill, particularly about post pill acne, and that maybe we just don’t hear much from them because they had good experience??

I guess I just wanted to hold on to even a small chance that I might not breakout. Lol.

I’d also appreciate if you could share how long you’ve been on BCP and at what age you came off it.

Thank you!!

I was today years old when I read what the Pyrilamine maleate ingredient said under it. Just telling yall cause I'm blaming that on why I did bad on my MCAT practice test today. Just a PSA to anyone who has a big exam coming up and substitutes tylenol or ibuprofen with midol. It probs doesn't impact your cognition like noticeably, but it might.