r/YouShouldKnow • u/LtSoundwave • Jul 19 '20

Other YSK That many people with a disability consider their aides (wheelchair, etc.) an extension of themselves. You should ask before touching or moving them.

Read this article and was surprised to hear how many people struggle with this. Even if you are trying to help, you should ask first.

www.bbc.com/news/disability-49584591

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u/nursecomanche Jul 19 '20

this is why i always say "you tell me what if anything you need from me" when in the hospital. if its new i guide them. but im there for support not to do it for you otherwise im enabling the deterioration of your health

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u/AngryGoose Jul 19 '20

I just got out of the hospital and some of the staff there were like this. The physical therapy guy peeked in the door and asked, "do you have any interest in working with me today?" The diabetes educator was the same, "wanna talk about diabetes today!" (she was really excited about talking about diabetes.)

The nurses were the same. Any PRN medication I would have to ask for like when I was in pain, "yes please, I would like some more dilaudid."

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u/Polybutadiene Jul 19 '20

While delaudid is amazing, that shit is expensive. blows my mind how fast you spend money accidentally in a hospital

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '20

dilaudid was my first OD fuck that shit

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u/Polybutadiene Jul 20 '20

i only had it in the hospital after a surgery so when i say it was amazing, i should clarify that it did its job really fucking well at a scary low amount. i totally see how it could be abused so im glad i was restricted to the hospital.

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u/MsMeggers Jul 20 '20

Yesssss! But I will say that some patients expect us to do things for them when they are completely capable on their own. However, I still maintain that if you are able to do things yourself, you should continue doing that. A hospital is not an all-inclusive resort where people wait on you hand and foot. Obviously we will assist you if you need anything, but the more you are able to do independently the better.