r/YouShouldKnow • u/LtSoundwave • Jul 19 '20

Other YSK That many people with a disability consider their aides (wheelchair, etc.) an extension of themselves. You should ask before touching or moving them.

Read this article and was surprised to hear how many people struggle with this. Even if you are trying to help, you should ask first.

www.bbc.com/news/disability-49584591

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u/J3ST3RR Jul 20 '20

Yeah your mom sounds like a bit of a cunt

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '20

Fuck her. Those are your wheels and you need to sit up for yourself. If she's whining about your speed tell her to go alone. You're an independent adult and so is she.

Also. Buy her the damn rollator regardless. Give her a walking aid and then remove the handles from the chair. Saw the damn things off if you have to. Cover them with zip ties with the free end cut at jagged angles, all criss crossed around it. Do whatever, but make your point. She isn't pushing you because you're slow, she's just too proud and cheap to get a proper aid.

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u/ShesMeLMFAO Jul 20 '20

It's not easy to get out of a codependent relationship with a parent, especially when you have a disability.

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u/Noinipo12 Jul 19 '20

Sounds like you could use a Smart Drive or other power assist device. I just wish they weren't so damn expensive.