r/YouShouldKnow • u/LtSoundwave • Jul 19 '20

Other YSK That many people with a disability consider their aides (wheelchair, etc.) an extension of themselves. You should ask before touching or moving them.

Read this article and was surprised to hear how many people struggle with this. Even if you are trying to help, you should ask first.

www.bbc.com/news/disability-49584591

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u/rkei Jul 20 '20

I used to chew on the collars of my shirts as a kid, or my hair, or twirl my hair/tap my feet, playing air keyboard/piano, whatever. Actually came in handy one time in music class that I was tapping my feet and my teacher was like “see how she’s tapping her foot to the beat? Try that” was really nice haha.

Mostly I just got told and or yelled at to stop doodling while someone was talking at me, which I also did constantly during classes to concentrate, and still do when I’m listening to something and forgot to take my meds that day.

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u/PaynefullyCute Jul 21 '20

I would love doodling. Almost universally, the teachers who stopped me doodling ruined my focus and I would do worse in their classes. Which convinced them I was being defiant or manipulative, cause oBViOuSLy I should have focused and worked MORE without my doodles.

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u/rkei Jul 28 '20

Sigh, yeah. I got scolded for daydreaming too even when I was paying attention sometimes. Although, some of them figured it out. My French teacher told my parents "I thought she wasn't paying attention, and then she would just rattle off the whole translation of what I just said, to the person next to her who didn't get it".

Also, thank goodness for one of my math teachers I had for two semesters, who noticed I was smart but struggling with stupid mistakes (that if I had time I could double check, but was rushing to get questions answered in time) & recommended to get me checked out.

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u/PaynefullyCute Jul 28 '20

One of my biggest tells, in hindsight, was failing tests because I only did one side of the paper. A repeat error. For some reason my brain did one side and was like "done now".

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u/rkei Jul 29 '20

Fuuun. That's gotta be frustrating. For me it was things like "wrote the last calculation down wrong, despite having the correct 'show your work' part right above it". headdesk

Also the years of staying up til midnight constantly to finish homework, even before grades where teachers started to assign it.

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u/PaynefullyCute Jul 29 '20

You might want to check if you have dyscalculia. I do that and apparently some people have a sort of "number concept confusion". It's not quite like dyslexia or dysgraphia, where the written shapes are not interpreted right. It's more like the very idea of numbers is foggy in your head.

An example I like to use: I can try and calculate 10-6 and get 7, then 11, but not 4. Brain just says "after 6 comes 7, and if not 7, then 11 rhymes with 7 so maybe 11 is right". I don't always make these mistakes, but they happen often.

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u/rkei Jul 31 '20

How does one check for that? I got a full learning disability assessment thing back when I was diagnosed with ADHD, would they have been looking for that years ago?

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u/PaynefullyCute Aug 03 '20

Unsure. Depends on your location, the year, etc. If you find your country's dyslexia association you can usually get assessed by them.

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u/rkei Aug 12 '20

Lol fair enough... forgot I was on the internet apparently.