r/almosthomeless • u/gatamente • 8d ago
My Story not a single soul cares about me
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u/RoughAirline2951 8d ago
no one is ever going to care about you more than yourself, no matter who you are. you could be the most charasmatic person on the planet, and still people will only give what they can to you, which is usually not much. you are not unique in this sense, but that doesnt mean you arent interesting or not worth knowing.
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u/Special-Radish1386 8d ago
It's because the few of us who can empathize are in similar situations so we just can't help.
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u/Character-Movie-84 8d ago
Yup. I've let homeless brothers live with me when ive had apartments. When I can.
Now...my epilepsy, and life has gotten complicated enough, but free enough that I live in vehicles rigs, snd wander. Minimalist means only my kitties, and I.
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u/gatamente 8d ago
it is heartbreaking to see how many of us are, but people just walk by and do nothing
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u/dsmemsirsn 8d ago
I don’t know how to help.. you need financial help but is difficult for online people to really know if the need is real.
Regarding your mental health, if you’re an adult have you applied for health insurance to cover your treatment.
Hopefully your future changes, I can only think of you for now.
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u/Alias_777 8d ago
Was just thinking about this. Once my grandparents die there will be nobody in the world who knows me or cares if I live or die. What do ppl do in that situation???
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u/ajoyce76 8d ago
I had a moment a couple of years ago that no one remembered by birthday. My mom was in the early stages of dementia so I don't blame her but nobody. I had a couple of friends call in the next days but it was eye opening. They say in 3 generations it'll be like we never existed so I guess I just got a sneak peak.
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u/gatamente 8d ago
honestly, i don’t know how to cope with it, i’m losing my mind, because nobody cares... not even online people, this got so many views, but not even a message, i’m indeed a burden after all
if you wanna talk, my DMs are open, i wish you the best
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u/pinksocks867 8d ago
Not even online people, random strangers being the absolute last who would likely to be?
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u/Picassoflex 8d ago
The world is a cold place. Especially during times like now.
You can't do the world alone, you need a partner.
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u/Exotic_Telephone_941 8d ago
Me to I can’t function anymore and there is nothing I can do
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u/civicgsr19 8d ago
I'll listen 👂 why do you feel as if you can't function? Genuinely asking
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u/Exotic_Telephone_941 8d ago
My parents abused me all my life and dropped me out of school. They body slammed me and strangled me. The police helped cover it up. Every time I would tell someone about the abuse the police would come and tell my parents. So they dropped me out of school so there was less of a support system. They didn’t allow me to get a driving license. I didn’t get my id until I was 25 I was denied because you need stuff to get an id. I have no health. I don’t have a car and never earned a dollar and I’m now 33 with blurry vision and extreme fatigue and black mold and mold exposure which changes your brain. I sleep walk and have night terrors where I run into the closet and wake up hurting. The police are the problem the doctors are the problem people saying call a random number are the problem. Humans are terrorists and want to use me to feel better about themselves. When I call the welfare office I get a nasty person on the phone saying I’m not entitled to any benefits when I haven’t earned a dollar all my life. I’m not on social security and never will be I don’t have the recourses to take 300 trips to doctors to make them money so they can tell me what I already know while they get paid.
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u/civicgsr19 8d ago
Okay. I'm still with you. I actually agree with much of what you said ... I assume you are still living in that house? Do you have a plan to get out?
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u/Exotic_Telephone_941 8d ago
The shelters are and everything are all lies. There is only one way out. I consumed to much black mold on top of the ptsd brain damage. Getting out is another scam people say like you are supposed to magically go under a bridge and all of a sudden you will be fixed by saying to leave the situation. The doctors said they don’t care basically and when I bring up ptsd help they instantly end the visit. Which is the realization that there is no hope. When they have signs and videos about mental health all over their walls. When someone with real problems brings it up they instantly end the visit and call the police for the 500th time and all these people are making money off me while I’m suffering. I need a lawyer to talk to the welfare office for me that keeps denying me and being nasty. I need a car. I need a license. I don’t need to call 211 or whatever fake services people lie about where they make money off the homeless and those suffering.
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u/pinksocks867 8d ago
No one's going to give you a car, and people can help you get your license, but what is the barrier?
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u/pinksocks867 8d ago
I don't believe the homeless shelter is making money off you. And if they don't help with driver licenses, they should be able to tell you about resources that do. If they don't, you can look on www.findhelp.org
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u/civicgsr19 7d ago
I feel like there is much more going on here to actually help them over the Internet.
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u/FireFlame_420 6d ago
You're mentally ill and people don't want to deal with it especially if you literally can't help yourself.
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u/UnReasonableApple 8d ago
What are you doing to help yourself?
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u/gatamente 8d ago
i’m trying to stay positive, so i’m currently looking up for therapy again, saving some money for my psychiatrist appointment and for meds, also trying to go out and distract myself from this – trying to rest properly and take care of my needs, while searching for a job
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u/pinksocks867 8d ago
You don't need to do that. You can go to county, behavioral health or your state might have state subsidized. Many have both
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u/Business-Morning-994 8d ago
I find if I make the effort to be that person. The somebody who truly cares. It helps keep me alive and well… it’s win-win… and lets me know others with the inclination just exist. So I recommend you keep your eyes open for the small and large ways to be it did other people, and hopefully over time find the ones you can connect with, and wholeheartedly help.
But also I just want to say, I really appreciate raw expressions like this. It’s utterly taboo and people react really poorly to the truth. Mostly no one cares.
But you can be someone who cares.
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u/Leather-Show7767 8d ago
You make very good friends who become your family. You build a family by finding a spouse/mate and having kids. Find people to love. Find like minded people.
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u/vikicrays 7d ago
in this post you said ”because i'm unemployed and the money from government assistance can't cover it all, and even if it would, i couldn't survive an entire month without it. i have been doing online gigs, applying to jobs since a long time ago, nothing. i have asked for money to my only two friends, but that isn't enough. my parents aren't paying me child support, so i'm all alone and broke.”
is the money from ”government assistance” and online gigs enough to get a hotel? often the weekly rate is much less then the daily rate.
i’m not sure what ”my parents aren’t paying me child support…” means. are you caring for a sibling? if so, you might be entitled to some form of monetary compensation from them but the process would likely involve a lawyer. you may be able to find one who’ll take your case on a contingency.
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u/FloGrownWitch 7d ago
I can promise you I feel the exact same way! But I promise you someone does care about you. Hi I'm jax. I can promise you at any time drop me a message and I would love to talk about anything. If you look up my posts you will see I'm not in a position to help financially as I myself need help, I haven't ate in almost 2 days. A whole meal that is. But I will sit and talk until you figure anything out that you need to. And sometimes it's okay to not figure it out but either way I care and it's up to you but I'm here anytime. Blessings sent your way luv.
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u/gatamente 7d ago
sadly, i can’t afford living in a hotel, but i’m staying with friends now that my grandma passed away
and child support in my country, applies to the children of the parents until they turn 28 (if they are studying) and to the children with disabilities with no limit age, which is my case, but my parents aren’t paying me, like i said, so i can’t do much, just keep applying to get an inclusive job offer soon
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u/Competitive-Candy207 8d ago
Been there it sucks, people say they care, but they’re just lying to you and trying to be nice about it. Backstabbing AHs. So I don’t help anyone anymore. Been burned too many times.
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u/metalbowels 8d ago
All those "he she should have said something" it's. A crock of shit, those who say it know it and those that truly understand are in no position to help because most of them are like us.
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u/vi3wmyposthistory 8d ago
please don’t give up hope friend, sorry for the rude comments youre getting
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u/Intelligent_Hair3109 8d ago
Empathy hugs to both. OP and the poster. Don't give up. Sorry you're dealing with so much .
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u/FireFlame_420 6d ago
Because people don't know you and you aren't in their circle so why would they care? It's just human nature.
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u/S1L1C0NSCR0LLS 6d ago
Cool story. If you end up homeless, you can virtually live anywhere. Maybe your life starts now. In addition everything you might consider when looking for a new State/town/city, if you give any credence to astrology, you should look into "locational astrology". Lemme know if you're interested and I'll type up more, but it only works if you know your place and time of birth
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u/sephorachung 6d ago
It’s because the ones (like myself) who’d want to help someone they don’t even know - simply because they’re struggling so much that they’re desperate enough to reach out into the cruel disgusting INTERNET world to ask for help - are in the same position themselves or near so.
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u/TheoldGrassy 8d ago
Maybe online friends are not the answer. Have you tried professional help?
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u/gatamente 8d ago
yes, of course, i wouldn’t be here if not, but currently, i’m looking up for a new therapist and waiting to gather the money for the psych appointment!
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