It'd help if those same men (and I say this as a cis guy) would stop bringing up men's issues only and exclusively as a whataboutism in response to women's/trans rights/issues.
If you cared about these issues so much, you wouldn't have weaponized them to this extent.
The problem is very often the response to men’s issues is met either with the idea of men being the cause of their own problems or it’s reframed into also being a women’s issue.
The graduation disparity is one example of this. And I can share my own experiences with mental health.
There's a very strong prevailing idea that every fault in society, regardless of who it affects, is ultimately caused by men.
It's patriarchy, or toxic masculinity, or misogyny. Even toxic femininity is often presented as protectionism against men, or internalised misogyny or whatever
I am not completely against the idea that some problems can be connected to a legacy of traditional masculinity. My problem is that the presented solution is a rejection of masculinity rather than a reformation of it. This also turns into a sins of the father issue where young men are told, at the very least, that they are complacent in these systems.
It creates a very dangerous mentality where young men seeking help either isolate into some very dark places or violently lash out. This comment section is a decent example of what I’m on about.
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u/TheReaperAbides 29d ago
It'd help if those same men (and I say this as a cis guy) would stop bringing up men's issues only and exclusively as a whataboutism in response to women's/trans rights/issues.
If you cared about these issues so much, you wouldn't have weaponized them to this extent.