r/armenian • u/No_Plankton947 • 19d ago

Armenian dating chase

I have heard of a traditional “chase” in Armenian dating, when a man will “follow” a woman. How long does this tend to last if the girl isn’t interested or has a boyfriend? How does this work what if there was talking involved but from an American who tried to friend zone someone, and it gave mixed messages?

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u/No_Plankton947 19d ago

When you say they aren’t apart of the norm, do you mean they are violent?

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u/Hayyer 19d ago

Not necessarily, just unbalanced (psyche wise) or unable to comprehend basic human interactions…this could be actual “psycho” or someone who’s never been told no at home…either way, not a good prospect.

If you’re worried about violence then you should not give them the benefit of the doubt and should be careful, you’re probably right.

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u/No_Plankton947 19d ago

I’ve talked to this person many times. I don’t get violent but I get extremely attached and thinks we aren’t meant for each other- so yes, imbalanced. I told him I have a boyfriend, I tried to friend zone him, but realized that is not a thing that works with Armenian men. I had to get my boyfriend involved to tell him that I’m not interested. He messaged me 3 months later saying a long goodbye message. Then I saw him drive past my house 3-4 weeks later.

Does this sound like someone to fear in Armenia? Or more a guy who is trying to move on/hoping to bump into me or stay on my radar?

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u/Hayyer 19d ago

Probably nothing to worry about…just a guy thinking he’s doing his best to get what he wants…if it’s just the occasional drive by…he’ll likely go away.

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u/No_Plankton947 19d ago

Okay. That’s what me and my boyfriend thought. You talking about this kidnapping thing had me on the verge of throwing up. Are You in Armenia? Do you see this kind of persistence often?

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u/No_Plankton947 19d ago

I will say, i talked to him A LOT. And not that I’m trying to “blame” myself…but people do form attachments, so I’m trying to remember that also. But the whole time I told him I have a boyfriend etc, but that er could be friends. Maybe in Armenia a man and woman being “friends” is code for “affair”?

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u/No_Plankton947 19d ago

And thank you for having this conversation. It’s been on and off for a while now. But seeing him drive up my street freaked me out.