I hate how hourglass is the perfect female body shape and no one wants to admit it.

I wish it wasn't idealized, because I can't ever look like that, but it is. People will say "Nobody's perfect" or "Everyone's beautiful in their own way." Oh yeah? Tell me what kind of flaws an hourglass figure has. Tell me what kind of insults they get. The rest of us get called whales for being fat, stick figures for being skinny, children for being short, manly for being muscular. But they are immune to any meaningful insults because they are literally perfect. It is so annoying.

The only complaints they ever have about their bodies are that clothes don't fit their perfect proportions, or that men always harass them. Which are both fair complaints, I'm not invalidating. But notice how neither have anything to do with their bodies being undesirable; one is a problem with clothes' sizing, the other is with men being creeps. And those problems aren't unique to their body type.

and no matter how hard I try I end up feeling stupid and even uglier. I don’t have a single nice or even redeemable feature.

Both my parents have great genetics but it’s like I’m just a mix of all their worst features. I have a huge hooked nose, my mouth tiny, it’s the same width as my nose and my lips are small too. I have a big ugly forehead and my chin protrudes so I look like this🌜except my nose is bigger. I have rosecea on my nose and hyperpigmentation around my mouth. My teeth were very badly crooked. I’ve since had braces but they’re still wonky so I look weird when I smile. My body is horrible too, I have a rectangular body shape. No hips or curves, my chest and butt is completely flat. I only gain weight in my thighs and stomach so imagine just how unflattering I look.

All of this is so extra horrible to cope with because all around me I see girls with pretty smiles and thin waists and flat stomachs, which is simply not attainable for me, even though I’ll follow their exact routine. Nothing makes me feel unluckier seeing my friends who are skinnier than me having achieved their bodies simply due to genetics because they DON’T EVEN WORK OUT. Everywhere I look there’s naturally pretty girls. Girls who look good in full glam. Girls who can pose for cameras and look good in pictures. Girls who are confident in their bodies.

I’ll restrict my intake. I’ll work out. I’ll wear makeup, contour my nose, overline my lips, make my eyes look bigger. But I’ll still have the same disgusting figure and unfortunate face and nothing can disguise it.

If people give me cues that I’m ugly, and I was told a number of times completely unprovoked that I’m ugly, AND I struggle not only to date, but to make friends, despite having a decent personality (when not in my own head), could it really be BDD? Or is it more accurate to describe it as being real with myself and knowing how limited I am in life due to my sub par appearance.

I feel like I disappointed on different levels and that sooner or later he's gonna leave me He has the right to cause he deserves way better But I just am gonna miss him so much .. I never really liked a guy this much and felt comfortable with

After putting in a lot of time at the gym, I can finally see real changes in my body both pumped and unpumped. I even posted a faceless body photo on Instagram, and the response was really positive. That made me realize that I’ve made real progress and managed to fix what I once felt wasn’t good enough.

But now, the issue is the first impression my face.

That’s something I can’t really hide. Unlike the gym body, which I can not show always and it is also cringe, the face is always visible. And to be honest, I feel like I’m just average chopped mid guy, or maybe even less.

Over the past three months, I’ve gotten zero matches on dating apps, even after paying for premium features. What hurts more is that sometimes, if I get a follow request from a random girl (probably through mutuals), they follow me, see my face, and then unfollow me before even saying "hi." No conversation just gone.
face is really unfixable if i get lefort 1 to fix my fwhr and jaw angle implants.

which i don't have money for.

I just saw a post in here that solidified that motion. A woman claimed that her own perception of herself gets worse everytime an unattractive man flirted with her/asked her out. Being on the other side and being here because of past experiences with exes that showed me how much I am lacking in many departments,especially looks,makes me realise that I am just a nuance for other people. I try to look better and become a worthy human being,but in the end,what other people see matters .And knowing that just talking to others who think I am beneath them because of my horrible looks,makes me really sad.

Ever since I was very young I've been obsessed with my appearance. At least a decade of dealing with this. I'm in my 20's now. The more I mature and grow up the more horrible it gets. The more I interact with people , especially men , I see how much attractiveness plays a role in how good you're treated.

Social media has really ruined things. People judging you on completely normal things that people just hide on social media making them look perfect. I'm definitely ugly but I hate how social media manipulates people.

I've lost all hope. Every single day I'm reminded about how imperfect I am. The thoughts of sexy people getting everything I want that I can't get plays in my mind all the time.

I hate how humans are destined for this. I don't wanna participate in this society. I don't have money for plastic surgery. I don't have the energy to do anything. The fear of being hurt because I'm ugly is daunting.

It keeps getting worse. I can't stand the horrible memories and trauma this has caused.

whether it be in real life or on dating apps, ie) in clubs, i get hit on or on apps i get sent likes by guys who are not my type. There are more unattractive guys than actual attractive guys who hit on me and it makes me feel worse about myself sometimes. It feels almost offensive at times, esp since i hate the way i look, sometimes i think i look okay, sometimes i think im ugly but my friends all tell me i’m pretty, then i get hit on by like the most unattractive men ive ever seen and it just makes me feel even worse since if they hit on me, then obviously they think we are equals and that they can pull me

when my bf talks about how he has gotten hit on or catcalled for the 100th time this year i can’t help but feel jealous/upset. i know it is not my bfs intention to make me feel so down, but i can’t help it. i would never make my bf feel bad for just talking about his experiences, but it hurts so bad. i’ve never in my whole life been hit on by a man, catcalled, but i have been called ugly while on my bike from a group of guys my age who was driving by. i have been asked out as a joke when i was younger. i have been ridiculed and had men shame me and even ignore me because of my looks at work. i feel so ugly and undesirable i just wanna die. i’ll never look good

This is going to sound so stupid but I want to cry at my birthday because I look disgusting

I took some pics with my mom and oh gosh I just look horrible, my nose just ruins everything is so big and horrible I just can’t believe I was born with this disgusting face and this is not the only time this has happened

I was so happy before I take those horrible pictures and now my mom already post them so now everybody will see how ugly I am I can’t stand it and I can’t stand me, probably people are going to think why I even put makeup because I just can’t hide this disgusting face

This may look like a made up problem and I wish it was, I am just going to bite my tongue and don’t look so sad for my mom sake

Hate how wide my body is and long torso anterior pelvic tilt, and my long oval droopy face shape I just look droopy and nothing looks good on me

That's it. Explain how and why people treat me like this and why I don't get any matches online. I've done my best in the gym and focused on muscle building, but it doesn't fix my face there's no gym for my face. I often ask myself, like Walter White, 'Why me?' Why was I cursed with this face? I wish I could touch someone romantically, but that will never happen.

why am i so choppped??/

i hate this so much

I hate my face when I look into he mirror. I feel so disgusted by the way I look. I want to tear my face into pieces and annihilate every single atom that belongs to my stupid face.

Being called ugly all my life by strangers and close family and never being in a relationship and constantly being rejected has just worsened myconfidence and self image.

I barely go out anymore. I don't find enjoyment in going out. When I do on the rare occasion, my day gets ruined by people making comments. I no longer find enjoyment going out.

For context, I am 14 years old, and I would describe myself as not skinny but not fat either. You see, I have always struggled with bingeing, which made me fall into a deep Ed last year when I started calorie counting. Though this year I have tried to focus in healing by eating enough and intuitively, weightlifting and being healthy I still feel like I haven't fully escaped the grasps of my Ed.

Lately I've been feeling horrible about my body image and have started to eat emotionally, which is made even worse when I see how my friends are so skinny though they eat like 5 cakes in one sitting. I know, they may come home and not eat dinner, and that's why they're so skinny, but I'm just always hungry. And I HATE the feeling of being hungry. So naturally I can't skip meals so easily.

It makes me want to cry so much because no matter what I do I can't get skinny. My parents aren't helping either, they keep saying things like "I deserve this ice cream because I walked 10k steps today" and demonizing certain foods. God, I feel so helpless, I just want to feel safe in my own skin.

This is probably the 3rd time my mum has brought up wanting to sign me up for a slimming centre, right after she complimented how small and skinny my cousin has become. My cousin is petite compared to me. I’m taller and on the stockier side. And of course, she has the money from her modeling income to pay for slimming procedures and expensive facials.

People like her have beauty privilege, so they get everything they want even a husband while I don’t have one and struggle so much with dating because I’m NOT considered pretty enough to be loved. I’ve been thinner once, yet my mum and others still saw me as that big, obese woman. At this point, it feels like people just want to piss me off, and my very existence seems to trigger and annoy them.

Do I envy my cousin? YES of course I do. I’m envious only because my mum and others won’t stop talking about her and comparing us. I know she’s light-skinned, very feminine, petite, skinny...just perfect, at least by the standards where I’m from. And there are times I wish I had her beauty. So unfair!

I’m going to a few concerts soon. I had this whole idea about looking cool and fashionable. I planned outfits in my head. I was excited until I realized I don’t look anything close to how I envision myself.

Sure, I’ll enjoy the music when I go, but this is really affecting how I feel about myself. I’m actually dreading being seen by the artists now.

I don’t think I’ll ever be happy with how I look. I had severe acne in my teen years and it’s given me facial dysmorphia. Now I don’t have acne I have scars and I’ve spent thousands trying to treat them. But I feel if my skin does get better, I’ll just start obsessing over something else. I have insecurities surrounding my nose and forehead being too big. I don’t look good with bangs so I can’t even hide it. I never thought it was that bad till people told me it was

Omfggg this is all I need.

Like I’m skinny but I have fat in all the wrong places, my thighs are huge and I have a wide ribcage, broad shoulders, and ugly breasts. Even if I lost like 15 more lbs I probably wouldn’t look like the body type I desire. Every time I’m out in public and I see someone that looks like a Brandy Melville model I want to kms. I hate my body so much.

I just threw away all of my photos of myself between the ages of 10-21 and all my past memories with all my friends and such. I just can’t to look at myself without feeling awful. I hope I don’t regret it.

This is so silly but I need to share this somewhere. I've been isolating myself from people for a long time, last time i actually went into like public public was 2023, then i spent 2024 inside because i felt like i had overdone it. I had to go into public for health reasons, doctor and the dentist. Everything was good apart from when i had my heart tested it was way over normal (because of my adrenaline lol) I missed my due dentist appointment for 2024, but now I'm having some issues with one of my gums like a flap of skin I'm assuming because of my wisdom teeth. No pain but google can be scary, I'm preparing for the worst.. which is going into see the dentist which is a super public area. It's not even booked yet, but I'm still planning everything in my head of how it all has to go. Literally telling myself I have to exercise, eat better, sleep better, never miss my skincare, drink lots of water, de-bloat, all of those sorta things. I avoid my reflection, but I've looked at myself today which usually causes so much distress. It felt like it had to be done because the one reason being i could be going into public, which of course means I have to look my best to everyone around so I don't get judged. What sucks is my face looks different everywhere. I'm telling myself my reflection isn't true because of the way it changes everywhere, and I have to be super prepared because I can't look bad when I'm outside. The last time I went out it felt like people (doctors, dentists) were staring at me when we were simply discussing things, i feel like they could tell i was having racing thoughts, and that they could see all of the flaws on my face. I hate how my face looks different in public too, I could think i looked better than before.. just to see my reflection there and realise i still look like the version of me i hate the most. Ughhh and i really don't want to get the terrible news that my wisdom teeth would have to be removed, that means actually having to go back to the dentist multiple times.. and worse literally everything about it. I hate this so much.

I know this seems dramatic but I feel so distraught about this currently. I’ve been consumed by thoughts of my appearance the last year and a half and it doesn’t seem to be getting better. I need to type this out to get out of my system or reach someone who understands. I hate how I look in pictures. I obsess over angles I don’t look attractive from. I obsess over my skin and or my tattoos. Small imperfection. Once I notice one I obsess over it all day. I take pictures and then look at them noticing the flaws. How does someone cope with this? How do I become at peace with myself? I am debating deleting all picture and video focused social media for a while I can’t stand perfectly curated images. I don’t understand why my brain can’t separate that those pictures aren’t real life. I need help or advice.

Especially recently, I’ve started to become a lot more confident with my looks in the mirror and getting compliments, which has been super affirming since I’ve been considered unattractive basically my whole childhood. But, today I had to take a picture of myself for college, and it looked genuinely horrific.

I couldn’t believe what I was seeing, I looked actually deformed. One side of my head looked like it was so disproportionate it genuienly freaked me out. I got curious and tried out an inverted filter on my camera, which lead to a full breakdown and panic attack. I feel seriously depressed that this is how people see me. It doesn’t help my boyfriend is substantially more attractive than me, he genuinely thinks I’m the most gorgeous girl in the world and I can’t believe him for a second.

Has anyone else had this experience? I feel like my entire world view has been changed, like maybe those compliments were for pity, and I really am deformed.

For me it’s just not about the insecurity of being seen but I’m so anxious and uncomfortable that I seriously can’t be outside without feeling like I’m suffocating within myself. I have never had a day in my life where I felt okay being outside. I’m so scared of people perceiving me as ugly, I’d rather not go out so people can’t form an opinion about my appearance. This mentality has caused me to self-isolate even more to the point I haven’t hung out or enjoyed life in general for the past 6 years. I don’t go on vacations with my family, I constantly cancel out on hangouts (if someone ask me once in a blue moon). If I go out I constantly hide my face and make sure people can’t see me from certain angles, I’m such a loser. I hate my face and my life so much.