r/cancer • u/Mary-Jan • Nov 28 '23

Death My husband died yesterday

After 1 year and 9 months tortious battle with cancer (SCC of unknown primary.) My beloved husband died at home with me. We battled this horrible experience alone. Friends and family just disappeared from our lives through this time. No one showed up to see if I needed help before he died and NO ONE SHOWED UP upon hearing of his death.

This is really what starting over looks like I guess.

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u/underwearseeker Nov 28 '23

I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry you have to go through this. It is not easy to have family and friends abandon you. I have experienced that myself and it isn’t easy. Please take care yourself. My brother is also SCC IVb and 1 year and 6 mos now. It scares me and I am trying to get myself ready for whatever comes next, but it is not making things easier.

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u/Mary-Jan Nov 28 '23

I thought I was prepared, but I don’t think I was or ever would be for the loss of my person

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u/underwearseeker Nov 29 '23

Things are going to be hard for a long time. Just please don’t forget to be kinder to yourself.