r/cancer • u/Mary-Jan • Nov 28 '23

Death My husband died yesterday

After 1 year and 9 months tortious battle with cancer (SCC of unknown primary.) My beloved husband died at home with me. We battled this horrible experience alone. Friends and family just disappeared from our lives through this time. No one showed up to see if I needed help before he died and NO ONE SHOWED UP upon hearing of his death.

This is really what starting over looks like I guess.

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u/MrFutzy Nov 29 '23

Why does this same story get told over and over. The abandonment of people when support is most needed. It breaks my heart.

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u/Mary-Jan Nov 29 '23

I certainly wasn’t brought up to be like that to anyone. I ask myself lately, when did love and respect become the least common aspects of life instead of the most common?

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u/MrFutzy Nov 29 '23

It's shocking to me. Not that I had any expectations other than staying close as I'm sure was the same for you. Perhaps it's their way of coping?

Sending you a GIANT bubble of supportive, positive, healing energy.