r/cancer • u/Mary-Jan • Nov 28 '23

Death My husband died yesterday

After 1 year and 9 months tortious battle with cancer (SCC of unknown primary.) My beloved husband died at home with me. We battled this horrible experience alone. Friends and family just disappeared from our lives through this time. No one showed up to see if I needed help before he died and NO ONE SHOWED UP upon hearing of his death.

This is really what starting over looks like I guess.

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u/beigs 39F Melanoma Nov 29 '23

My mom had this experience.

I’m so sorry.

I had to take my son home for vaccines (another country) and wasn’t there that week - I had been there months.

I was utterly heartbroken.

The aftermath is that her friends out there who were used to the couple stopped inviting her anywhere after a few months. The whole thing was just gross.