Rejected because of my cancer

[u/ladybug_06]

So I thought I would post this story on here because I figured you all from this sub would understand. I’ve heard stories from people where guys have left or turned women down because of their breast cancer but I finally experienced that. He didn’t reject me because I had cancer instead he rejected me because he couldn’t deal with the fact that I have no boobs because I chose to go with an aesthetic flat closure. I was told by him “I’m just a guy..” and “I have a list of things I look for in someone and this is part of it…” it just blows my mind to come across people who are not empathetic towards us and who do not realize that I did this to protect myself and my body. And just because I did not get reconstruction does not make me any less of a woman. This man had the audacity to lead me on tell me all of these things but the moment I tell him of my cancer he decided to “keep his options open.” He tells me he prefers a b/c cup on a girl. Like the audacity of this man. I have never met someone so self centered before in my life. I’m just sharing this because I know you all can relate to this in this sub and truly know the pain and heartbreak we have gone through. But it does not make us less than!

[u/probdying82]

He’s not a POS. He just has no idea what this is. Cancer is a beast. Most ppl can’t emotionally handle it. They have no idea.

Find a caring loving partner but don’t hate him. It’s not worth your time.

If you had a partner who lost his penis because of cancer. You would have to make a decision on if you could continue with the relationship. If you chose not to, it wouldn’t mean that you’re a demon.

None of us know how long you were together. Kids. Married.

There are a lot of factors.

And this may have just been an excuse for him as he didn’t know how to process what was happening.

It sucks. Ppl suck. Cancer fucking sucks. But I lost a lot of friends. And ppl who faded away cause they don’t know what this is. And they are just living their lives. They aren’t bad or good ppl. Just ppl.

[u/Proseccos → u/probdying82]

Respectfully disagree. Regardless of the cancer, when you reject someone, you don’t tell them it’s because of their tits, their lazy eye, their third nipple, their extra finger. Anyone with a shred of consideration would simply say it’s not a good fit.

When you add the cancer back in, he’s totally a POS. We all have our preferences. But how you communicate or don’t communicate them can absolutely define you as a butthole.

[u/probdying82 → u/Proseccos]

I agree with what you said.

I was mostly just saying it’s not worth the op’s time to try and figure out or think about the other person. Their job is to physically heal. And find a better partner